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my husband is gaining weight

I don't really care, but his family has a history of all kinds of problems. I am worried about his health. Is it rude to tell him to go on a diet.

Fri. May 30, 4:32pm

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I don't think it's rude to tell him in a nice way you care about his health and that with all the problems in his family history he needs to lose weight! I would if I were you to be honest. My husband and I have a relationship that we could pretty much say ANYTHING to the other...

Friday, May 30, 2008, 5:05 PM

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well it could be rude, it would depend on how you approach it ... that said you have to remember that you have had time to think the conversation through and no matter how well you bring it up, you may have to give him some time to get past any "knee-jerk" defensive reaction.

If you talk about the hereditary health issues in his family and your fears of him having to deal with them it would probably be easier to hear.

Or you could be more subtle and simply try to get him out and more active - you could suggest that you guys join a gym together, or take a dance class or take up a new sport together.

Also if you are the one doing most of the cooking, you could simply start cooking healthier without him even knowing :) ... that said, he is an adult and "tricking" him into healthier ways is not necessarily the best answer so there will definitely be a fine line to walk there!

if portion control is an issue, like it is with my husband, you could start cooking just enough portions and not having any extra's, seconds, left-over around for him to get into and start stocking healthier dessert and snacking choices.

anyway you slice it ... whether it is rude or not will depend a LOT on the delivery!!!

Friday, May 30, 2008, 5:06 PM

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Just hide the remote control

Friday, May 30, 2008, 5:08 PM

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Stop buying chips.

Stop buying the cola and beer.

Agree with 5:06 and stop making enough for loads of left overs.

When you shop have more healthy choices in the house.

Then tell him why you have changed. YOU WANT HIM AROUND TO LIVE A LONG AND HAPPY LIFE! You have a burden for your family to be healthy. Ask him if he has any other ideas on what you can do as a family to be healthier!

Maybe he will come up with being more active. Don't mention diet...stick to your desire to be a healthier family.

Sunday, June 01, 2008, 11:45 AM

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I don't talk the talk if I'm not a walking the walk. I have no room to criticize (and no matter how nice you say it - it is) unless I'm a shining example of non-hypocrisy myself. Hope that's the case and you're able to say it in a way such that he's joining you in your efforts together and not you telling him to go walk off a few. Good luck - I probably wouldn't touch that one unless he brought it up first.

Sunday, June 01, 2008, 6:45 PM

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Don't pay the satelite company. They turn off the TV for you!

Sunday, June 01, 2008, 8:14 PM

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don't criticize- just make lots of vegetable dishes... give him the 'gift' of good health.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008, 10:30 PM

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