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I decided to get active again with this site. I have gained another 10 lbs and so now I want to lose 40 lbs. I have not been successful at all in losing weight, I can't stay focused and I am hoping that logging here everyday will keep me motivtated.
Recently my teenage daughter has had some ovarian cysts and I have learned that keeping fit and eating healthly and staying at a good weight will help tremendously. I feel horrible that we have taught her bad habits and now she is paying for it with pain every month. So I want to become healthy with her and teach her and my boys good habits, especially with exercise. We have a huge obstacle to overcome and that is my husband. I have had many issues with his weight and non-exercise that I feel it will make him extremely mad if we change the way we eat and add exercise to our daily routines to become more healthy ourselves. He has no desire to lose weight...he'll wait until a doctor tells him he has to, his thought is that he was forced to eat many things when he was little and also ate bad foods to get any nutrition, for example, wouldn't eat bananas so his Mom made banana bread instead. Wouldn't eat corn or peas, etc, so she would make him sit till bedtime. Anyway, now he says that he's an adult and no one is going to tell him what to eat, how much to eat, and get some exercise in. How do I deal with that? I love to do activities like biking and roller blading, etc. But I am so afraid that if I do what I want and teach the kids, I will learn that I don't love him anymore and that we have nothing in common. He gets mad when I don't spend time with him in front of the TV at night, so I don't get my exercise in because of that. (I work full-time). And the kids won't like him either because of the attitude he creates when he is not happy. He was spoiled as a kid, never having to pick up after himself and take responsibility for his belongings and it has carried into his adult life as well as the kid's. How do I get past this?

Thu. Aug 12, 2:49pm

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Hi OP!

Congrats on making the decision to have a healthier life for you and your kids - you've come to the right place!

As far as your hubby goes, it's so sad that he would put his desires before the health of your family. But I understand the mind frame, having once been married to someone similar. I think all you can do is make changes that will make you happy and healthy. It's good to take things slow anyways (it helps to develop permanent changes / patterns), so maybe this will help your husband adjust, too. Maybe you can implement "commercials exercise" when you watch t.v together? I do this sometimes, running in place during commercials, or some other simple exercise for the few minutes. Bottom line is, you will probably have to live with him being a little grumpy because of the changes, but hopefully, by taking is slow and trying to compromise with him, all will work out! Good luck!

Thursday, August 12, 2010, 3:25 PM

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you have to take a baby step.

Saturday, August 14, 2010, 5:16 PM

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