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I'm trying to help my husband become healthier and I need some help. When it comes to my health, even if I don't make the right choices, I do at least KNOW what I should be doing. With my husband, his health has never really been a concern for him so he's never put much thought into nutrition and exercise. And I, being a woman, know very little about men's health.

He is 6'1" and weighs 220. The doctor would like him to get down to 185, which both my husband and I think is too low for his height. We think 200 is a good number to shoot for. And personally, I think if his health improves (i.e., quit smoking, lose the beer belly, start exercising regularly), then it doesn't really matter what he weighs.

What's something quick, easy, and HEALTHY he can have for breakfast? (His current "breakfast" consists of a cup of coffee and a cigarette.) And about how many calories/day should he be aiming for? I want to help him lose weight, but I don't want to starve him.

As long as he's open to theconcept of getting healthy, I want to help him in whatever way I can.

p.s. - Yeah, I'm the same lady who posted earlier complaining about having to help her husband get in shape. I really do want to help! : )

Mon. May 22, 9:50am

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I'm not a guy...but for some people, breakfast is a hard thing to get used to, especially people who start out with coffee and a cigarette. What has he expressed to you about his weight loss efforts (and health efforts)? Does he want to lose weight or get healthy or is this an agenda that you're driving alone?

Monday, May 22, 2006, 9:57 AM

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How often do you get outside as a couple and be active. My guess is that getting active is a precursor to needing breakfast- if he wakes up hungry from being active, we will probably want to eat.

In my experience, having been 220 pounds and a smoker, I can tell you that it is a long process. Be patient with him and kind.

Monday, May 22, 2006, 10:12 AM

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original poster here

Getting healthier is something my husband has been mentioning for a while now - for the past year, I guess. I quit smoking for my New Year's resolution last year and then started eating healthier and exercising. Maybe he started realizing that he should do the same. But he hasn't actually made any changes.
Last week he saw the doctor, and the doctor told him that yes, he should be doing all the things he's been mentioning - quit smoking, eat healthier, exercise, etc. So - I am very supportive of these changes, but they are not at my suggestion.

We don't get out much as a couple, period. We have three small children (and one on the way), so our activity together is limited to chasing the kids around. And I'm not doing much running these days (the baby's due in 6 weeks). We have discussed plans to alternate nights at the gym after the baby is born, so we both get some exercise.

I'm all in favor of going slowly and taking baby steps. I think he's going to concentrate on quitting smoking first. I'm not going to push for anything else right now. Even though he's mentally "gung ho" right now, I think if I throw too much at him, he'll just get burnt out and give up.

I'm just trying to get ideas right now...

Monday, May 22, 2006, 11:14 AM

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well, it sounds like you are on the right track. I will say with two small kids and one on the way, life is stressful for him period. I would work specifically to find something other than a cigarette to relax him. And do these at night before the kids go to bed. Encourage him to go to the gym, take a sauna, even just a long hot shower at home while you wrangle the 2 kids. As he starts to exercise, have him do a light jog in the evenin-- in place of the cigarette. This works. I have begun to replace my cigarettes with running and it is a fantastic change,

Monday, May 22, 2006, 11:27 AM

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My brother in law lost weight making very small and easy changes (and not many of them). He exchanged his soft drinks for water. Instead of ordering fried, he ordered grilled. He started adding a salad to his current menu at dinner (no matter what he fixed or ordered, he would have a salad too). Just a few thoughts that might help.

Monday, May 22, 2006, 11:43 AM

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