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Weight Loss After Break Up?

Just wondering if anyone else got a jumpstart on this journey as a result of a recent break up. I gained 100 lbs in my recent 8 year relationship. When it ended (not by my initial choice...although I see what an unhealthy partner I had chosen for myself...) I all the sudden felt ready to get rid of the weight. And I'm doing it...which is great. But of course, there is still a long way to go...

Just saw my ex for the first time since we broke up (3 months) and it felt good to be able to know I probably looked different and smaller....but there is still so much to do...Ahhh. Thanks for listening. Would love to hear thoughts from others....


Fri. Aug 26, 9:41pm

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I've noticed in my life that whenever I used to start gaining weight, it was because I was unhappy with my job. Whenever I would change jobs, I would miraculously lose weight.

Saturday, August 27, 2005, 12:26 AM

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I split up with my first husband in January of 2004 and yes, I felt a renewed vigor to lose weight. That was the big turning point for me and I have lost about 35 lbs. since then. I think the reason it works is because you're doing it for yourself, and it feels great. Good for you!

Saturday, August 27, 2005, 10:03 AM

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weight loss after a break up

Hey there,

I am a naturopathic physician, so I have strong beliefs on this topic. I believe that the relationships we keep and get bigger and bigger as a course of action are toxic in the physiological and psychological sense. We have fat to store toxins, the more toxic our lives, the more fat we store to keep track of it. So, if you get out of a toxic relationship, then there is not the need to keep the fat around.

Another perspective from a physician's point of view, your thyroid makes Reverse T3 instead of real T3 when you are under stress. Your body can't utilitze this thyroid imposter but it thinks that it has enough and does not make more of the real T3. Therefore, you get fatter and fatter as a result....because your energy metabolism is not working properly.

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Saturday, August 27, 2005, 8:39 PM

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thyroid issues

wow. your comment about Reverse T3 and real T3 really intrigues me, and seems it might apply to me. Where can I get more information about this? Thanks!

Sunday, August 28, 2005, 7:40 AM

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I lose weight when I'm not in a relationship, and gain when I am, mostly b/c I eat more "like a guy" when I spend more time with a guy! Right now, though, I'm engaged to a wonderful, but very skinny, guy! So I'm trying to lose while with a guy! It's definitely harder than when I was single!

Monday, August 29, 2005, 8:59 AM

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i totally agree that losing weight is easier when your single although u get support while in a relationship it is hard enough to lose weight especially while trying to deal with emotional stress considering thats the main reason people are overweight from emotional stress/binging- i wish u the best of luck


Thursday, September 29, 2005, 9:21 PM

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how funny! I want to lose weight now, that i gained during a breakup... I was so upset that we broke up that I gained a ton of weight.
now (over a year later) i am in a relationship again (a much better one) and i have motivation to lose it
i feel like that weight connects me to the old relationship and i want to be done with it.
maybe i'm just delayed from the rest of you

Friday, September 30, 2005, 1:38 PM

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I gained weight but I think it was because I got so depressed without him and I turned to ice cream. But after I got into a new relationship, I lost it. I'm the opposite.

Tuesday, October 04, 2005, 12:43 PM

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i just broke up w/ my boyfriend a few weeks ago and the stress lead to not eating and i lost weight...i'm dating again and it's back up...dating involves dinners and drinks and is basically unhealthy! once i'm in a relationship it levels out, scary how weight can be related to relationships!!!

Tuesday, October 04, 2005, 12:57 PM

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My boyfriend broke up with me last night, and I'm trying to control how I treat my body during this time of grief. I am tempted to eat everything in sight, but I think I should take this opportunity to do the opposite. I don't want to give him the power of making me eat badly.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008, 3:08 PM

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PP,

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a break-up. It can be a major grieving process, just like other big losses. But I implore you to please listen to your own wisdom that you should NOT overeat or binge. Don't do it!! I've been there. I know what it's like to feel "Well, forget it--- I'm already having a horrible day, I shouldn't have to think about my weight to" but if you let yourself go, you're going to regret it. Don't think of healthy eating as a chore that you "have" to do, and a break-up gives you a "day off" from it. Think of it as an everyday, mandatory, part of life, because it is! If you engage in emotional eating and overeat, you're going to feel exponentially worse.

Break-ups can shatter your self-esteem, especially right after. One of the most important things you need to do now, because you're in a vulnerable state, is take care of that self-esteem. I can tell you now, eating unhealthy foods or eating too much food is going to make you feel good only for the short while it's on your tongue. Your self-esteem is going to plummet when you realize what you ended up doing. If you want to feel beautiful and happier with yourself, don't do it.

I don't mean to be harsh--- I've done emotional eating too. I know sometimes it feels hopeless, but it's not. You can turn this into a positive thing. Be active, eat healthy, and stay strong! You're definitely on the right mark when you said that you don't want to give him the power of making you feel worse than you already do. *hug*

Wednesday, August 20, 2008, 3:44 PM

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This totally applies to me..3 years ago I had to deal with the runaway groom..he broke off the wedding 2 weeks before, and I went thru the most devistating few months of my life. The first month alone, I couldn`t eat or sleep and ended up losing about 40 pounds in YES..one month. (And I needed it..as i was a good 220lbs if not more)
Eventually I was getting stronger emotionally, and my appetite came back..so I obviously didn`t want to put all that weight back on. the weight loss actually was a positive thing that came out of this. I started feeling better about myself..and from there i started the gym, and my journey to a healthier life..i was able to lose another 20 pounds..and have been struggling trying to lose more..always yo-yoing up and down 10 pounds. But I am in the best shape fitness wise then I ever was.

To agree to the above thread from the naturopath..that relationship was a toxic one for me and I see that now. It was a 6 year relationship..of which i was a size 5 going in and a size by the time it ended 18. And then to drastically lose those 40 pounds in the first month and feel as great as I do now..is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I know now that food is a replacement for feeling bad. so if i turn to food ..then i need to access what the problem in my life is before it gets worse. Its funny how we don`t realize these things when we are in them. We think that food just makes us feel good..but why? Its not supposed to...i mean..to a certain extent..but not to the point where you put on 100 pounds! lol..good i can laugh at it now and you always have to learn from your past. Those are the lessons that life throws at us.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008, 4:37 PM

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from what I have read, even if you dont change anything, stress can put on some pounds. That is not counting those that eat because of stress or depression. But being happy, even pretending to be, elevates the mood and can actually help in weight reduction.
When I divorced, I quit eating. I barely managed to get soup down me once a day. So I am opposite, also.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008, 5:07 PM

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I lost about 240 pounds when my last relationship ended - my 40, plus the 200 from the ex :) I lost it all in about a month, like 4:37. I had no appetite! totally not healthy, but I have been able to maintain my new weight for the past year and a half by eating right and exercising.

Thursday, August 21, 2008, 10:30 AM

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