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A nice way of say no to someones dinner...

Later tonight, i will be going to a party with provided drinks and dinner, but I know that the cook will have a fatty and/or unhealthy dinner. I've told her that I am trying to live a more healthy lifestyle but still, how can I say no with out hurting my friends feelings?

Sat. Sep 9, 7:54pm

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Here's an article

I did a quick search and found an article with several tips in it. It is from the perspective of a vegetarian and how to handle dinner parties but it can be applied in your situation as well.

Good Luck and enjoy yourself tonight!!


Saturday, September 09, 2006, 8:08 PM

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My comment won't help you now but I try and eat a lite low cal low piont meal be fore I go out and just pick like skinny people do!

Saturday, September 09, 2006, 8:15 PM

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being a guest, being a host

I second the advice to eat a little before going -- and then take plenty of the salad, so it looks like you just don't have room on your plate when the cheesy potatos come around!

I read the linked article with interest, as a vegetarian. When I'm a hostess, my favorite meal to serve is burritos or fajitas! I have friends with different dietary needs -- the ones who don't eat wheat can just take fillings -- I and other vegetarians take from the bean dish and the rice dish but not from the spiced chicken, etc. Everyone gets to create a masterpiece for their palate and diet, and passing the little dishes around the table is very social.

Saturday, September 09, 2006, 9:03 PM

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I try to practice portion control in situations such as that. Take bigger portions of the food that looks healthy(er) and just a bite or two of the unhealthy things. I try to really spread things out and eat slowly so I keep pace with the other guests.

I will often offer to bring a healthy entree or appetizer just so I can have a nice portion for myself, but also because I generally find I'm not the only one watching what I eat. This strategy sorta depends on your friend but some of mine have grown so accustomed to it that they now put in requests and factor it right into the dinner. If it's someone I don't know or an aquaintance of my husband I offer to bring something and if the hostess turns me down I fall back to portion control.

Good Luck - we'll all be interested to know how the evening went!

Saturday, September 09, 2006, 10:14 PM

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