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Help with my unmotivated hubby

We have talked and talked and talked about excersising and eating healthier. He has agreed to start weight watchers with me. But I can't get him to the gym. Earlier this week, I came home and skipped the gym at work so we could workout together at our apt. After much convincing, he finally put some workout clothes on and and we went to the gym. There were people there so he wouldn't even go in. He's really self concious and doesn't want people "watching" him. He says, that he will work out later in the evening (he gets off work at 9pm) and I told him I'll go with him. But if it doesn't happen, I need ideas to motivate him. HELP!!!!

Fri. Sep 15, 3:36pm

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I'm not sure that it's your responsibility to motivate him? If he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to. But it's a tough one, especially when you want what's best for your partner. I'm lucky, in that mine feels guilty when I exercise and he doesn't. I can only suggest that you lead by example? Good luck!

Friday, September 15, 2006, 3:46 PM

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OP here---- I also forgot to mention that my husband was diagnosed with MS about a month and half ago. It would just be easier on him and his body if he lost a little. He's perfectly healty to be a big as he is, besides the MS. At, 6ft and 265 lbs I would expect his bp to be high or his cholesterol, but all his blood work and tests showed his results were all normal.

Friday, September 15, 2006, 3:55 PM

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Do you like walking? When my partner is feeling demotivated about working out, I suggest that we take a walk around the neighborhood to "people watch". Then I walk really fast, and he has to keep up with me. Dunno. Just a suggestion.

Friday, September 15, 2006, 3:58 PM

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Why not motivate him by example? Workout and go the gym, perhaps he see the benefit to you and will also go. He'll only dread it more if you have to drag him there each time.

Friday, September 15, 2006, 4:04 PM

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If available, have you considered having a personal trainer go to your home....that way no one but you and the personal trainer will be there. Please keep us posted.!

Friday, September 15, 2006, 5:13 PM

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