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help! 25th school reunion! i gained 100lbs!

I just found out about it. They are having a beach party! What can I do? it is only 3 months away

Fri. May 4, 9:47pm

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Without surgery, you can expect to lose 15-20 lbs in that time, maybe even 30 if you are blessed with discipline of steel, knowledge, family encouragement, AND an agreeable metabolism. Is that enough for you to feel good about going to the beach to meet up with people you haven't seen in decades?

Sorry if this doesn't sound "supportive", but in your shoes (and I have, unfortunately, been there - college 10th), I just wouldn't go. But I'd start working on losing weight right away so that the next time a big event comes up, that 100 lbs might be more like 80 or 50 or better.

Friday, May 04, 2007, 11:13 PM

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I agree with the 1st poster except that, and I don't mean to sound rude or harsh but you might be able to lose close to 40 since you have a lot to lose. And if your just starting your weight loss journey the heavier you are the fast you lose in the beginning. So if your really diligent the first month you might just be able to drop 20 pounds. Cut you calories to about 1400, drink lots of water and exercise, exercise, exercise. But if you happen to lose a lot quickly don't be surprised or discourage when after a few weeks or a month it starts to slow down.

Also, the 25th reunion is a big deal. Even if you don't feel like you want to look wouldn't it be worth it to see how everyone else turned out? Did you go to your 10th or 20th? If it were me I would make an all out effort and do my best and go. I bet your not the only one who's put on the pounds.

Saturday, May 05, 2007, 12:56 AM

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not what you asked, but the subject has come up...

as someone who has gained weight since HS and was on student council... i've worked very hard planning my HS reunions and have gained about 30 lbs since HS. i had a lot of anxiety about how i look too. then the reunion arrives, and it doesn't matter. the focus is on the people. i also notice that other women have gained weight. i don't judge them, i think "wow, i'm not the only one". then there are people who don't show b/c they gained weight, or went bald, or think they're not successful enough - and they are missed. if your reunion is the spark to set off the weight-loss journey, wonderful. but please don't let being different than you were in HS keep you from going and reconnecting with your classmates.

Saturday, May 05, 2007, 8:51 AM

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I second the above poster - go ahead and use the reunion as a reason to take better care of yourself - but by all means go to the reunion! It really doesn't matter how you look - these are people who remember you when you were young and , for the most part, they see the young you when they look at the current you. I went to my 20th and 25th as well as a choir reunion last year ... my 30th is this fall ... and they have been some of the most uplifting experiences of my lifetime - such an atmosphere of warmth and good wishes.

Saturday, May 05, 2007, 11:08 AM

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I skipped my 20 year HS reunion because I had gained so much weight and then REALLY regretted not being there. My close friends from HS decided to put together a mini reunion this August with just a dozen people or so. I'm not missing this 2nd chance. Even though I'm still 98 lbs overweight, I'm willing to fly 2 states away to see them because I know they'll love me anyway. I've missed too many things in life due to shame. NO MORE! I'm living life NOW, while the pounds are coming off.

Good luck, I hope you go to your reunion whether you lose weight or not.

Saturday, May 05, 2007, 9:20 PM

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Its a terrible thing to miss out on life and watch it go on all around you while you hide out in shame because of the weight. Good for you 9:20!!!!

Saturday, May 05, 2007, 11:25 PM

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Thanks 9"20 for being so positive. Weight isn't everything Altough I am going to try and lose 30-40lbs. I will keep you posted! I do believe my body is just an outer shell. I always did It is funny when I look at my HS pictures I was quiet pretty and had a nice figure but i didn't think so. I am successful in many important ways. I hope I have the courage to attend. But I don't think I will be wearing a bathing suit. We will see.

Sunday, May 06, 2007, 5:17 AM

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From someone who planned my 20th High School Reunion.... It won't necessarily be quite as scary as you may think....

I was actually about 45 lbs heavier at my reunion than I was in High School. However, I wasn't the only one! Some who were bigger are now smaller, some who were shorter are taller, some who were smaller are now bigger, some who looked younger now looked way older, the beautiful were more plain and the "ugly ducklings" had become great beauties...etc.... Age has a way of evening things out...

Most whom I saw were just happy to touch base with someone from their past-- most had not seen the other classmates since we had graduated over 20 years before.... It was quite fascinating to see the way people interacted and I was pleasantly surprised to see how many "social barriers" were broken down.... People who would have never said hello 20 years ago, now were reminiscing about our high school days. The other funny thing is that people tended to be more friendly to those whom had attended K-8th grade together....

If your reunion is a beach party, I imagine that there will be lots of people there with families and children as well, which means that you will probably not be the only person who has gained weight since high school.

If you are worried about your weight (Just in general), I suggest starting to commit to working out and exercising for your own health--NOT just because of the reunion.... It will be better for you in the long run.... Start off by increasing your exercise and making proper eating and drinking (water vs. pop or juices or alcohol, etc.) a priority. Like some of the other posters pointed out, dropping 100 lbs in 3 months is not really realistic...

The other thing is that when it does come to reunion time, get yourself some fabulous clothes--no matter what size you are... No sense in squeezing yourself into something too small, too tight, too baggy or too out of style... Get some clothes that fit you at whatever size you may be.

Oh, and 1 more thing.. My friend and I have a saying when looking back at our younger and thinner days.... "We were such hotties and we never knew it!! Good looks seem to be wasted on the young..." LOL (in other words, when we were young and thin, we always fretted about our appearance. Now that we are older, we would give our 1st born to be that young and cute again!!! ;-)

Tuesday, May 08, 2007, 5:39 PM

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One other thing I noticed when talking to people. Everyone in high school seemed insecure about one thing or another... whether it was because they were a "nerd" or "band geek" or "punk" or "popular", I found out that many people felt insecure about themselves and how they fit into the high school culture....

Now, as adults, we've shed our "skins" of make-up, weight, clothing, education, etc... and become our own persons. We are now comfortable with ourselves enough to say "to heck with them! I won't let them get ME down!"....

It was actually quite funny for me to see some of my former classmates going back into "high school mode" as I called it-- trying to play the upper hand in popularity.... To me, it was just a bunch of posing by someone who obviously couldn't feel secure about herself enough to just be herself. She wanted to make herself feel important, so she reverted to trying to belittle me.

I got the last laugh, however... I'm married (happily) with a cute hubby and I love my job. She, on the other hand, is still unmarried... Although she thinks she's hot, she's not... and I'm not sure she likes being in her own skin....

The funnier thing-- I was known by my classmates in High school, but not as an outgoing person--I was always quiet back then. Now, I'm ultra-involved in things and bloomed to be a lot more confident. :-)

Tuesday, May 08, 2007, 5:51 PM

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One other thing I noticed when talking to people. Everyone in high school seemed insecure about one thing or another... whether it was because they were a "nerd" or "band geek" or "punk" or "popular", I found out that many people felt insecure about themselves and how they fit into the high school culture....

Now, as adults, we've shed our "skins" of make-up, weight, clothing, education, etc... and become our own persons. We are now comfortable with ourselves enough to say "to heck with them! I won't let them get ME down!"....

It was actually quite funny for me to see some of my former classmates going back into "high school mode" as I called it-- trying to play the upper hand in popularity.... To me, it was just a bunch of posing by someone who obviously couldn't feel secure about herself enough to just be herself. She wanted to make herself feel important, so she reverted to trying to belittle me.

I got the last laugh, however... I'm married (happily) with a cute hubby and I love my job. She, on the other hand, is still unmarried... Although she thinks she's hot, she's not... and I'm not sure she likes being in her own skin....

The funnier thing-- I was known by my classmates in High school, but not as an outgoing person--I was always quiet back then. Now, I'm ultra-involved in things and bloomed to be a lot more confident. :-)

Tuesday, May 08, 2007, 5:51 PM

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