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OT: How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Just curious. I was 24, almost 25, and extremely embarrassed at the time that I hadn't had sex yet. Now, I'm grateful that I didn't have so many meaningless flings. The person I finally lost my virginity to, was also a virgin (he was younger than me though-I seduced him! ha!) and I'm still friends with him. I think a lot of the reason I lost my virginity later than most was because I was overweight, enough that the men I was interested in weren't interested in me. Anyhow, most of my friends lost their virginity around 15 or 16 and I am interested to see what people's real experiences were.

Sat. Aug 4, 12:34am

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This is an interesting question lol.

I just turned 21 last week and have never had sex (not even a BF but that doesn't even bother me) and don't plan to any time in the near future.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 12:36 AM

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17 and still a virgin.. planning to keep that for a while XD

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 1:33 AM

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i was 18, but i'd been at college for a while before it happened... i think the timing was good for me.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 1:38 AM

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I was 18 but it wasn't my choice.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 1:48 AM

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In my first year at college, age 18. If you can call it sex, at that age it's all slam-bam-thank-you madame.........30 seconds and your done.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 5:34 AM

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12th grade, 17 yrs old. Experienced "everything but" when I was 15. When I fell in love at 19, it didn't bother me in the least that I wasn't a virgin but I think my partner was sad b/c I was more "experienced" -if you could call it that. First orgasam was with him!

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 8:11 AM

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16- and 6 years later married him!

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 8:39 AM

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19, sophomore year of college, with my first real boyfriend, first love..

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 12:58 PM

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I lost my virginity at 23 when i married my husband and I have no regrets


Saturday, August 04, 2007, 4:28 PM

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12:36 is it because of religious belief ?just wondering not so common these days it would be great if more people waited,we would not have so many diseases out there.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 4:31 PM

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IT would be less of the diseases if there is enough communication with/sex ed from the parents! The age doesn't matter that much (unless, of course, it's like 12 or 14), different people mature at different age.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 4:38 PM

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23 - on my wedding night. my husband was also a virgin. so glad we waited!!

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 4:41 PM

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16 - but I made my bf wait 1 1/2 years first. He was patient and at least I know I was ready and he was right for me - at the time

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 5:00 PM

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This is fascinating...I grew up in an upper-middle neighborhood full of latch-key kids with no supervision and about 1 in 3 were going at it by age 13.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 5:35 PM

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4:31, umm...not so much religious beliefs. I was raised Catholic but I am very liberal and do not agree with a lot of its teachings. Anyway, one of the biggest reasons is that I don't want to get no disease, including HPV, which could lead to cervical cancer and I just don't want to deal with that. Also, pregnancy and I wish people nowadays take sex seriously.

I have a friend whose friend had sex with some random dude that she met at a party. I was telling my friend she must have low self-esteem to do that, but she says it's not so and that she's very confident (give me a break!). I also also telling her that her friend could possibly get diseases, including HPV which could leave to cervical cancer, but she says she gets tested every year. I even told her that it could go undetected, but she doesn't believe me. Gosh some people are in such denial!

Anyway, the choices that ppl my age (not all) make are unbelievable. It's like-- Don't you ever think about the possible consequences???!! Sorry, just needed to rant lol

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 8:56 PM

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I was 15 & that was 27 yrs ago and i felt like i waited soooo long & that i was the last virgin left. lol.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 9:20 PM

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I was 20.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 9:21 PM

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22, with my fiance about 6 months before our wedding, it was wonderful and I don't regret that first experience, but I wish we'd waited the 6 months

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 9:57 PM

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18, at the beginning of my freshman year of college. It was not a good decision but after talking to friends its not all that uncommon and it doesn't make you a bad person, though the decision can have impact in your life that you didn't expect.

Saturday, August 04, 2007, 11:20 PM

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I was 21 and married him 2 years later.



Sunday, August 05, 2007, 8:49 AM

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Summer before Senior year of college, I was 20.
It was with my now husband, first time for both of us.
We had been together almost two years at that point and we were married 5 years later.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 10:17 AM

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I hate the concept of virginity

I was raped at 10 and this turned me away from Christianity. The thought that somehow I was not "worthy" of mothering the Son of God because I was no longer a virgin, even though it was not my choice, made me reject the faith. I am now happily a UU.

The first time I had sex by choice was at 17 with my BF of two years. We were both "virgins" (by my definition) and learned together.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:08 AM

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11:08 - I am really sorry you were raped. What a HORRIBLE experience for you.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:14 AM

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at 16 with my first bf who then became my hubby 2 yrs later. we have been together now for 18 yrs and he is the only person i have been with. so glad it worked out.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 12:42 PM

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I was 16. My bf was the same age. I ended up dumping him after that. Haha.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 12:49 PM

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I was 28 . I lost my virginity on my wedding night. That was 25 years ago. I was quiet attractive and had many opportunities. I had and have a wonderful sex life. I nevere regret my decision to wait!

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:01 PM

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Holy shit! I am shocked by the ages here. Where I grew up (southern Ca, south bay area) almost every girl I knew had been having sex for a while when I was 15. I myself was 13 but it wasn't until I was 14 that it was volenteered.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:04 PM

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11:08 I am so sorry for your pain, Virginity is more the just a piece of tissue. I consider you a virgin when you got togetger with your boyfriend. As far as losing your virginity being a sin that is not a sin. Sex outside of marriage is the sin But we all sin it is no different from many of the sins we all commit all fall short of th Glory of God . If you lose your virginity that doesn't make you impure! Just pick yourself up and start over!

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:09 PM

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I was 17 and was engaged to the guy a year later. Didn't work out though. I had 6 other partners and maried #6 when I was 21. I'm embarassed at the number (though not as big as most people my age) and really wished I would have waited until marriage, would have saved a lot of tips to the DR. for STD screenings, let downs, and broken hearts.

Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:12 PM

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I would be interested to know how many women have also had a bi-sexual expereince? Is it as high as the article I read as in 30% have had?

Monday, August 06, 2007, 1:48 AM

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11:04 here, I've had a couple of bi-sexual experiences. And they were just experiences, not relationships.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 2:17 AM

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I don't think that anyone has truly "lost their virginity" if they were raped. That is not sex!

Monday, August 06, 2007, 9:26 AM

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22 -- would have been earlier but I just wasn't successful with the opposite sex (and yes, I am female, but a little shy)

Monday, August 06, 2007, 9:29 AM

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21 years old... and glad i waited

Monday, August 06, 2007, 11:19 AM

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16 years old within a loving relationship. It was our first time. I am 29 now & am still good friends with him...though now he is more like a brother to me.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 11:32 AM

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19, it was a one-night stand occurrence in college but I was glad to just "get it over with." I wish I had lost "it" to my high school boyfriend, though.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 12:52 PM

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30years of age...

and I'm still a Virgin... Yup. I'm a virgin and will be turning 31 this Friday 08/10.

I told a guy recently that I want to be in a committed relationship FIRST. Afterall, we all deserve to be Loved first before giving away pieces of ourselves to the undeserving. I'll kiss frogs, but refuse to bed them.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 2:53 PM

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15 years old and too young, obviously. Had been sexually abused as a little girl and felt like I wasn't really a "virgin" anyway. Was pressured by an 18 year old boy (not my bf) and regretted the decision immediately. Bad memories...

Monday, August 06, 2007, 2:58 PM

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Absolutely no judgement here, but how do people get to be 30 without having a sexual relationship? More power to you, for sure! Have you not been involved in a long-term relationship yet? Honestly, no judgement, I am just curious. I can't relate.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 4:21 PM

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different poster. i have not engaged in intercourse in over 8 years and have been in 2 committed serious relationships during that time. they were not devoid of sexual relations, but intercourse was not involved. i am trying to hold off until after i get married. i am 38.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 4:24 PM

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Wow! Sex is a really big deal, I know. But is it THAT big of a deal? Is it a fear thing? Again, I really want everyone to know that I do not judge you for your decision. I just want to understand.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 4:30 PM

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I am 12:36 poster (first responder) and I absolutely believe it's a BIG deal. Just ONE TIME could effect your life forever and many people don't realize that. ONE TIME could leave you with a pregnancy, STDs, and possibly even cervical cancer in the future. I just don't want to risk that. I want to focus on a career, having a great life, etc without having to deal with those possible consequences. Plus, it is such an intimate experience that it's hard for me to understand how many young people feel the need to just give it up. I know I'm sounding judgemental, but I feel like our society doesn't realize how risky and how such a big deal sex really is.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 4:38 PM

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4:30 here, I know & understand that it is a BIG deal, like I previously stated. There is a big difference, at least for me, between just "giving it up" & being in a loving, committed & long-term relationship. STD's & pregnancy are, of course, very real threats (not that preg. is always a threat) to all of us but there are precautions that we can each take. Also, trust plays a huge role...& I suppose if I hadn't found someone who really trusted then maybe I wouldn't have make the step.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 4:53 PM

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Yeah I do think that if you're in a committed, trusting relationship (and you're mature and financially stable and such) that it's a different situation, but I've seen many girls whom I went to HS with who have babies or pregnant now-- not even have finished school..it's sad. And then there's the diseases you gotta worry about.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 5:22 PM

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I'm 21 and still a virgin. I'm not going to lie...but i am a little embarassed by the fact that all my friends have and i still haven't. now have i ever had a boyfriend. I think it has to do with my weight.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 9:48 PM

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9.48, don't put yourself down that way! Remember, you are beautiful and worth it, and someone out there will one day be wotrth YOU and what you have to offer.

Don't be embarrased that you're still a virgin, at least you're waiting for a serious relationship and following your personal morals, rather than breaking them just to fit in.

More power to you.

Oh, and btw. 17 and still a virgin. Waiting for either a very serious relationship (my longest one so fat has been 2 mo XD ... waiting for at least 1-2 years) or possibly marriage.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 9:56 PM

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I had just turned 16. I did it with someone I didn't even know just to get it over with. (All my good friends claimed to have already had sex and I was embarrassed to still be a virgin.) I met my husband when I was 20 and had slept with over 30 guys by that time. I am not proud of it. Thankfully my husband has never asked any questions so I've never volunteered any info. I was, however, careful each and every time and thankfully never contracted any STD's, or unwanted pregnancies. I've also never been with another woman. YUK!

Monday, August 06, 2007, 10:03 PM

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I was 16 and in love with my boyfriend. i don't regret that time, but i do regret experiences after that. generally though, i feel pretty good about my sexual experiences, even though i had lots of one night stands. i guess i was having my "sex in the city." luckily, never got any diseases and always used protection.

Monday, August 06, 2007, 10:38 PM

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2:53 PM. Don't worry you'll meet a prince. I did

Monday, August 06, 2007, 11:09 PM

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10:03, I don't think you should be embarrassed about your "high score". Most of the women I know who had that much fun said it made it very easy for them to recognize a truly good man when one finally came along and they were ready to settle down.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 3:55 AM

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2::53.. I was 35 before I made love and it was on my wedding night. I have no regrets. I married an amazing man that fufills me.. He supports me in all that I do.. He loves me for me.. He wanted it to be special and was willing to wait for me. and it was amazing so yes your right only someone special deserves that piece of you.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 6:37 AM

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that was suppose to say 33 my finger slipped on the key.. lol ahh your a leo too.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 6:38 AM

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424 here

well, since i've had previous sexual intercourse and the experiences that go with all of that, i have come to realize that for me having intercourse is not something that has added to any of my relationships in the past. it was just an expected part of the deal. however, since my commitment to myself to abstain from intercourse, i have developed a new resepct for the intimacy that goes into successful relationships. i think that before i made this change, having intercourse was about as intimate to me as having a bbq. in fact, when i would have conversations about the meaning of life or family relations or the existence of god, i found those times to be much more intimate for me. so i've stuck with what works for me to bring me closer to the man i am committed to. and the right man will either love me because of that, love me in spite of that or show me how to understand and feel the intimacy of physical love like i never have before.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 8:11 AM

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Thank you 424, for sharing. I appreciate better understanding where you are coming from & I truly respect it.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 9:45 AM

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thanks for your kind words!! i'm glad you posed the question, actually, because i have never expressed in writing the reasons that i made this decision. i knew in my heart and in my head what lay behind my choice, but reading my explanation has given me, too, a better understanding!! isn't that cool?

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 9:57 AM

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Very cool! I am so glad that we have been able to have a great conversation on here! Thanks again!

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 10:28 AM

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I was 19. First time was the worst experience of my life. I cared about him, but fould out later he had no feelings for me and he treated me like sh*t afterwards. Ruined me on how sex should be so I didn't take it seriously.

i was always safe, but was with guys I didn't love or really care about that much. I just did it cause they wanted me to. That first guy hurt me so badly that I had a heartless feeling towards it. I learned my lesson but it has come back to hurt me later in life.

My husband was a virgin when we met and I was his first. He didn't know a lot about my past because we never discussed it. He told me he didn't want to know so I didn't volunteer. Well it came out later and our marriage almost ended because of it. It has taken him a long time to be ok with it and I know it hurts him. I can't change my past as much as I regret it and would like it to go away.

I sometimes would get angry at him for getting so upset with me. It was years before I ever met him and I feel like he shouldn't get so mad about it. Its really hard to deal with sometimes because it still comes up. something on tv can set him off.

Sorry for the book, but this subject hits a nerve. If I could change my past I would, but I can't. Just gotta learn from it and move on.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 11:30 AM

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11:30, shame on your husband for holding your unpleasant and damaging introduction to sex against you. It's bad enough that the first guy made you feel so unworthy of love that you didn't even try to seek out - but then to have your husband react in a way that revisited those old feelings of unworthiness and continues to plague your relationship, well, he needs a really good V8-type smack to make him wake up to his shallowness and insensitivity. Grr.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 12:14 PM

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11:30 here again. I know 12:14. I told him he was being unfair to me and then he said that it wasn't fair to him. He says that he feels like something was taken away from him. Sometimes he treats me like I have a disease or something. It has gotten SO much better though. I pretty much told him to get over it or we were not going to work out. I love him, but neither one of us needed to be miserable.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 12:25 PM

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I was 17. With my first true love. We lasted a whole 10 months. Which at the time ( High School ) seemed like a lifetime... LOL

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 7:00 PM

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I was 24 and it was on my wedding night!!!!!!

I'm still happily married and very active!

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 7:04 PM

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Cool that we all do things different and when we are ready!! All power to each of you!!

Tuesday, August 07, 2007, 8:52 PM

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I was 6 weeks away from my 21st birthday

Wednesday, August 08, 2007, 9:43 AM

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I am 18 and still a virgin. This past year I have been embarrassed by that fact. However, one of my friends, who is not a virgin, told me the awful story of how she lost her virginity and regretted the situation. It inspired me to wait until I find someone I love. I don't believe in marriage and I really do not want to have children, so I'm not waiting until I find my soul mate. But I want to have sex with a person who I love and respect and a person who loves and respects me, not some random guy at a party (no judgment of those who did).

Wednesday, August 08, 2007, 2:30 PM

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sounds like a great plan 2:30

i have experiences i very much regret. i posted my story on here earlier. don't ever do what someone else wants. wait until its what YOU want :)

Wednesday, August 08, 2007, 2:36 PM

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How many women have had a bi expereince and not told their partners? and does that count as loosing your virginity or is it only with a male?


Thursday, August 09, 2007, 2:34 AM

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15-that's been almost 40 years ago. He was and is my one and only. Don't regret any of it.

Thursday, August 09, 2007, 7:17 AM

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When I got married, I was 20... Um, BTW I'm a guy! Kinda rare huh?



Thursday, August 09, 2007, 11:27 AM

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19... in my first real relationship on our 6-month anniversary. Not sure it would qualify as "Sex" though........ he was nervous/confused about the condom, etc. shudder...

Thursday, August 09, 2007, 11:50 AM

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15 - with the boy next door that I had been in love with for 3 years and dreamed about.

Thursday, August 09, 2007, 5:25 PM

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I was 17 and in a long term relationship. I knew i was going to mayy the guy- and i did! Im SO glad he was my one and only- most of the time. Sometimes i wonder what it would be like to have been with other guys though.......
I had 1 bi-sexual experience, with a friend at the time and her boyfriend- to turn him on- we were drinking and i always wondered what it would be like. God, was she an awful kisser. I wish THAT didnt happen but you cant go back.If i had the chance now, i think i might make out with a girl to turn my hubby on- if that sort of thing would turn him on.....which is dosent. Go figure!LOL

Thursday, August 09, 2007, 6:25 PM

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your kidding - his partner kissing another gal not a turn on!! Is he gay lol.

Thursday, August 09, 2007, 10:51 PM

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I have not had a bi experience, have thought about it and friends have tried to talk me into it but I cant. I do not feel confortable even with my hubby. I just have never been a person that liked it. I was sexually abused by my uncles from the time I was 7 till I turned 13 and mom finally let me stay by myself. I went through the drinking and partying stage and did plenty of messing around with alot of different men but never enjoyed it. I just did it because that was what was exoected of me. I felt wanted and acccepted. I wish I could enjoy it and I know my hubby does but I have tried and just cant. I do get drunk or all pilled up ever now and then so he can have some fun. So I geuss thats all I get from it, its a job I have to do. Parents just dont realize how some of their decisions can really mess up their childs life I geuss.

Thursday, August 09, 2007, 11:27 PM

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Im so sorry to hear your story. Sex and sexuality are suppose to be enjoyed and it is always sad to hear of people abused, I am soooo sorry to hear that.
You have said that friends have tried suggesteed that you try a bi thing - is that with them or someone else?
you do what makes you feel comfortable and keep your head up!!

Friday, August 10, 2007, 12:20 AM

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has anyone done an average? I was 18 and I wish I had of waited a bit longer because I feel like it was a poor choice and I wish my current bf (soon to be finance) was the only one. Altho he has slept with 5 ppl and I only slept with 1 before him..

Friday, August 10, 2007, 7:07 AM

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9:48 PM I remeber how you felt. I thought there was something wrong with me. Everyone I was interested in wanted to hope in the sack by the 3rd date. I finally met a wonderful guy who was right forme. I waited till my wedding night and never regreted it. By the way. mY HUSBAND WAS QUIET GOOD IN BED. i REMEMBER MY FRIENDS TELLING ME THERE MUST BE SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIM BOY WERE THEY WRONG !

Friday, August 10, 2007, 10:59 AM

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I was 15 and it was against my will.

Friday, August 10, 2007, 11:02 AM

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Wow! 10:59, your husband was "quiet" good? Hmmm, I haven't had good quiet sex in a long time!! haha!! Just teasing you-I know you meant quite! but "quiet good" sounded like a whole new game for the rest of us to try!

He was sooooo good, he was QUIET!

Friday, August 10, 2007, 11:13 AM

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i take responsibility for drinking too much-- i was 16 at a friend's older sister's party, her parents out of town. some loser in college took advantage of me. don't remember much, luckily. awful experience. after that, i slept with too many people (safely). had low self-esteem and wasn't respecting myself.

now, i am 25 and married to the man i love. we had sex before marriage, because neither of us are religious. we just knew when it was right. finally, i couldn't be happier.

Friday, August 10, 2007, 11:27 AM

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So is donig it with another gal loosing your virginity

Monday, August 13, 2007, 12:30 AM

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MAYBE IN SOME WAY IT IS. LIKE LOSING YOUR BISEXUAL VIRGINITY OR SOMETHING. but i think that to technically "lose your virginity", you need to have penetration with a p*nis. i'm pretty sure that is how it's defined.

Monday, August 13, 2007, 2:56 PM

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now that i am really thinking about it, maybe you did lose your virginity, especially if you're a lesbian. maybe pose the question on the thread that is targetting that audience?

Monday, August 13, 2007, 3:00 PM

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Dear Sunday, August 05, 2007, 11:08 AM

To you and all of those that lost their virginity against their will. I too lost mine that way. I don't remember my exact age. I have flash backs, but don't remember all of it. My grandpa first, then I was raped by two high school kids. But the point is... God would never make a girl that was raped feel unworthy. Only thoughtless people would make a statement like that. They may have had good intention, not thinking about the audience they might be talking to. You can be a virgin again, not physically, but mentally you can be. My experience made me very promiscuous, my mother even told me... when you start having sex, let me know so that I can get you on the pill. What kind of advice is that? Now we have young women dying everyday because of cervical cancer. Men don't have symptoms, women die. Please don't blame God for this terrible tragedy in your life; He is the source of healing.

Monday, August 13, 2007, 6:23 PM

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Answer to Thursday, August 09, 2007, 2:34 AM Question

I have had 2 bi experiences. One when I was really young spending the night with a girl friend (like elementary school age) and the other as an adult after a bad fight with my husband (after he threw me across the kitchen) and I went to her house for safety, we drank way to much and things happened. We never mentioned it after that. It was OK, but I really enjoy my current husband. I have had what I thought was great sex with other men but there is no man like the one I am married to now. Talk about multi orgasmic. I guess it has a lot to do with feeling safe and loved. That really makes it fun.

Monday, August 13, 2007, 6:31 PM

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Okay...so my only sexual experiences (two) were one night stands. I'm 19...and while I'm not proud, I don't really regret them or feel like it will take away from my relationship with my husband one day? Am I being naive? Will it haunt me one day?

Monday, August 13, 2007, 7:49 PM

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My wife had a bi- kiss when she was 19 and now regrets not going through with the expereience for experience sake.

Monday, August 13, 2007, 10:35 PM

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hey..

you lost it at 16 and six years later marry him?
hey just wondering how was it after you lost it?
did the relationship got stronger?
right now am 17 and I lost it too, am in love with him, and
we are planning to get marry, but am scared that things
might go wrong,

Thursday, December 27, 2007, 12:35 PM

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I don't mean to sound judgmental here, but don't you want to wait awhile before you get married at such a young age? Explore the world? Get a degree? Meet new people? I'm 21 but if I decide to get married, it's going to be when I'm at least 30 (also I'm not going to rush into marriage just b/c I'm in my 30s and there is that societal pressure..it has to be right).

I know I'm going to get attacked for this but this is just my opinion lol.

Thursday, December 27, 2007, 12:46 PM

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You feel like you're going to be attacked for putting off marriage?

I got married when I was 19 and I felt like I was attacked at the time. The people I was closest to (my friends and family) were supportive but I had people I barely knew telling me I was making a huge mistake and I should call it off. Lots of people assumed I must be pregnant. Well, now I've enjoyed 7 happy years of marriage.

However, pp, I would give the same advice as you did..."explore the world, get a degree, meet new people"...(I just happend to do those things with my husband) and don't rush into anything. Isn't it funny how we both feel attacked for our opposite experiences. I think there are a lot of people out there just waiting for their chance to judge others. lol :)

Thursday, December 27, 2007, 1:58 PM

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Haha yeah because I've made some reasonable statements here (for example slow weight loss so it can be sustained) yet I've been attacked! lol.

But that's good you were able to do all those things...seems like you have a good marriage.

I guess since I'm still living at home for school and haven't had that experience to go out into the world, I don't want to rush into marriage.

Thursday, December 27, 2007, 6:13 PM

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I was 18 the first time because I was lonely living alone and thought that was what I was supposed to do "as an adult". A few months later I met someone else and married him and that didn't work out after 10 years of marriage. I really had low self esteem then and would only date married men (no attachment), if they got close I left. After 12 years I finally met a good man, I've never told him about my past relationships (he's only been with 3 other women). I regret some of the relationships and some I still think about because it was so intense and hot. If I could do it all over again I would wait until there was true mutual respect and love like I have now.

Friday, December 28, 2007, 10:05 AM

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15. he dumped me soon after. I wish that i had waited

Friday, December 28, 2007, 3:04 PM

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I was 17 - against my will. Made me wish I had done it with my boyfriend of 2 years prior.

Friday, December 28, 2007, 4:05 PM

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Wow, I find all of these answers very interesting and the comments thoughtful. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I am 23, still a virgin by choice. Trust me- I have had PLENTY of possibilities. I might be overweight, but I know that I'm a very attractive woman and I know quite a few men who would agree.
I actually decided that I was going to be a virgin BEFORE I became a Christian. I have many family members who have had children out of wedlock and I knew that I wasn't ready for the responsibility of a child. Nor was I interested in sharing a part of myself with someone that I didn't know for a long time.
I have been in 2 long term relationships. One lasted 2 years (SOOO glad that I didn't have sex with him) and the other has lasted 2 and a half years, and still going strong. He's an amazing man, who plans to marry me and fully supports my decision to wait for until we're married. We are both Christian. The amazing thing for me- he's also a virgin! at 27! So I am very excstatic that I get to have a wedding night where we can explore each other and share our love in the most intimate way that a man and a woman can.
For me, there is more than one reason to hold off having sex: romantic, emotional, religious, logical
I think also- the fact that I was sexually molested.....my body just naturally rejects physical touch with someone that I don't know... I just couldn't really do that.

Friday, December 28, 2007, 6:30 PM

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16 for me and I regret that! I am now 38, I think I was trying to fill a void, my mother had passed away the year before. I had a few drinks, then got together with my brothers friend so it sure wasn't anything meaningful. Years later I told him I was a virgin at the time and that blew his mind. Now, MY daughter is 16 and I'm worried but we talk about it all the time, whether she likes it or not. (she definately does not like me to talk about it with her!) but I'm very open about it with all of my kids. I am not an advocate of "wait until your married" that would be hypocritical of me and I also think that you can have everything in the world in common but if the chemistry isnt there and you've married the man that can mean major issues. I tell my kids that same thing. don't get me wrong, I'm surely not encouraging them but want to be very open and honest about it and not be living in the dark ages or some unrealistic society that very few people can conform to.

Friday, December 28, 2007, 7:21 PM

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I just turned 24 and am still a virgin. I like to think it's by choice, but to be honest, I haven't ever really been in any situations that have really tempted that. But ideally, I would like to think I'd be able to wait until marriage or at least until I know I am in love.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 10:16 AM

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20 (only two years ago) with the guy I'm with now. We're pretty serious and I'm totally fine with the fact that he might be my only sexual partner. We're best friends and I feel kind of lost when he's not around.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 10:28 AM

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I lost my virginity at 12 curiosity got the best of me. I wondered what the big deal was and didn't completely enjoy it. I'm 26 and married for 8 years now I can't say that I regret my sexual experiences. I love sex, to this very day I still love it, and I'm bisexual, always have been so yes I have had a few bisexual experiences as well. Sex is always intimate I think it's great when some people can wait, it just personally was not for me.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:39 AM

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I was 23. And at the time, I was the last virgin I knew. Most of my friends had lost their virginity in high school. I managed to make it through high school - not too too tough - then college - a bit tougher, especially when drinking was involved. Then I was living in the city and on my own. I met a guy who became my boyfriend, and I managed to hold out for 7 months. Then, after a night of drinking, it just happened. I was upset with myself because I had planned on waiting until marriage - for religious reasons AND self-worth reasons. We remained together for a year after that, but it didn't work out (thank goodness!). A few months later, I met my now-husband. I managed to hold out only a month before we had sex. We were married a year and a half later. I still regret having slept with someone else before I met my husband, but if nothing else, it's nice to have the comparison. Sex is SOOOO much better when it's with the right person. I thought I was in love with the first guy, but the relationship never seemed quite right - - he was 13 years older, divorced with two kids, and had a different plan for his life than I did. Looking back, I can see that he loved me for his own purposes. My husband, even early on, loved me for me - and loved me truly. I could feel the difference in the way he kissed me and looked at me and treated me.
Here's my advice to the girls - though I'm sure it applies to the guys in some way, too - hold out for marriage. Your virginity is something so valuable and personal that you can only give once. Why give it to some guy who may not stick around? If he loves you, he'll know you're worth waiting for. If he doesn't think you're worth waiting for, why do you want to sleep with him anyway? And I know it's so hard when the guy is telling you that he loves you - - and it's even harder when you know he really DOES love you. It's harder still when you're overweight and have self-image issues. Don't let sex be the validation you've been looking for. The same rules apply no matter what your body looks like!

Monday, December 31, 2007, 12:00 PM

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I was 18 and My bf was 18. We were in love and we were both virgins. The relationship fizzeled. Still, I would not change a thing. It was exactly how I wanted it. New Years Eve turning 1993, candles lit, house to ourselves. It was nice.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 1:14 PM

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I was thirteen, as was the boy. Eight years later, he's now my husband :)

Monday, December 31, 2007, 1:19 PM

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im 17 and still a virgin. All my friends have had sex and now they're all depressed over the guys they had it with. I've had the oppurtunites to have sex, but i want to wait until im in a seriose relationship

Monday, December 31, 2007, 3:28 PM

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I was 40 yrs old and it was when I got married!!!

I am a very beautiful and attractive women. Believe me it was not easy. I had many guys who would have loved to be the one; however I CHOOSE to wait till I got married. I could have gotten married when I was 25, I'm glad I didn't.

For me it was one of the best things that I could have done.When you come toghether with a man, it is a very powerful bond that is formed. I'm glad I formed it only with my husband.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 3:43 PM

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I was 18. It was a one night stand with a Swedish man I met travelling. I had no regrets, I felt ready. I have always enjoyed sex.

There is such a huge variety here, its great!

Monday, December 31, 2007, 4:26 PM

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16 . . .

and my baby was born when I was 17.

Tuesday, January 08, 2008, 3:27 AM

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I lost mine at 16 to my best friend. I was the first out of my group of friends and trust me i got crap for it. I loved him and he said he loved me too. He is still one of my good friends though the sex did tear us apart. Also I had cheated on my then boyfriend when i lost it so i had to deal with losing that friend too. He is gay now. So yes i have to live with the fact the guy i lost my virginity to is gay. I am 19 now and on my 6th partner. I was used by alot of people and it hurt me inside because all i wanted was to be loved back. I know its alot but 2 were forced on me when i was on a vacation. My boyfriend now is understanding and he has had quite a few too. I always made sure i was clean though between partners. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting engaged this summer when he comes home from his deployment. Sex with him is not sex. It is making love. I have never felt so much passion and love with someone. Plus he was the first to ever give me an orgasm. Its funny because i always get first kisses and times with him because of his deployments. Falling in love all over again is amazing. :)

Tuesday, January 08, 2008, 4:20 AM

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i was 18, on my wedding night (yeah that was a big mistake we got divorced 8 years later). Once i was 15 though I was doing everythign but having intercourse, i really wanted to wait until marriage, since that is what my parents preached to me. I think that is entirely over rated - if I was still married to him he would be the only person i'd have had sex with for 25 years! I'm too curious and like sex too much for that. I was single for 8 years after the divorce and had fun (including bisexual which is still something i'd like to do) but i'm married to a great guy now for 11 years, we have a really good sex life and have alot of fun together. I know all of you who waited for marriage and have only been with that one person forever will probably look down upon this but trust me, it is fun trying other people out!


Tuesday, January 08, 2008, 8:29 AM

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lone virgin

Haven't lost mine, I'm 31yrs old.

Tuesday, January 08, 2008, 9:29 AM

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heavy women and virginity

Hey, Fat Girls can get laid. If they really want they can find a guy online or any horney guy who just wants sex. Don't think that beauty is requirement either, ugly people have sex all the time.

Self Esteem may have something to do with it or not. Some people just don't want sex without a life long committment and that is great and the way it's supposed to be!

Tuesday, January 08, 2008, 9:40 AM

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I was 18 as was the high school boyfriend I did it with. No regrets at all.
I'm 29 now and am with partner #13. I have a pretty high drive and I love to get freaky but I've never had an STD or a pregnancy scare. Yay sex!

Tuesday, January 08, 2008, 11:20 AM

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23.. after marriage...

Wednesday, January 09, 2008, 10:08 PM

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I'm 20 and still haven't lost my virginity. It is not as though opportunity hasn't come knocking, I just don't want to do it. :) I've gotten to a point in my life where I feel as though I don't need a boyfriend to feel good. All I need is an everlasting love (God) and my dreams, which I am currently pursuing. I think that before you decide to have sex, it is important to be a whole person and to do it for the right reasons in the right kind of situation. Personally, I do not plan on ever getting married, so I guess I will always stay a virgin. It doesn't bother me, though, 'cause I know what I want, and my happiness will be inattaining that. :D

Wednesday, August 19, 2009, 3:14 PM

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i was 20 (it was february of this year actually)... i had had other long term boyfriends, but for a long time was thinking of waiting until i was married.. that's what my mom did, and that sounded like the right thing to do.. but now i've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and seven months... we both also honestly had had a lot of opportunities with past people, bfs/gfs respectively, people at parties... but were both the type to wait until a true love which we associated with marriage..

as far as my virginity goes..i would always get pat on the back with kind words like "good for you".. even though i love my boyfriend A LOT, and i am COMPLETELY comfortable with him..we have a wonderiful relationship..iin the back of my mind i still sometimes wonder if i should have waited until marriage... if that's just the "right" thing to do, and i feel a little guilty

Wednesday, August 19, 2009, 4:01 PM

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I was 18. I wish I hadn't... the guy was a bad (OK, terrible!) choice, and I really wish I'd waited till marriage.

Thursday, August 20, 2009, 5:22 PM

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28 when I got married. I love sex and still do 27 years later!

Thursday, August 20, 2009, 7:24 PM

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Monday August 7 2:53 You go girl! It's worth waiting for!

Thursday, August 20, 2009, 7:28 PM

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I'm 39 and I feel you. I'm there.

Thursday, August 20, 2009, 8:10 PM

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I lost my virginity at 17 to my boyfriend who was also a virgin. We're still together.

Thursday, September 03, 2009, 5:32 PM

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20 yrs old, 8 years later, I'm still with the same guy.

Friday, September 04, 2009, 12:31 PM

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18 yrs old, that was a long time ago. I'm glad to see so many people that waited and were older. I have two daughters now, that are 13 and 10, they are no where near that, very involved in sports, church events and not the boy friend thing.

Friday, September 04, 2009, 6:39 PM

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Uhh... well this is kind of embarrassing but i lost my virginity when i was 11... I think it was because I watched a porno video. Since then I wasnt the same i was thinking like an adult even though i was a kid still. And i lost it with a girl that was 9 years older than me. I think it was a good experience even though i didnt know much about it and i didnt have to worry about getting her pregnant >.
Saturday, September 05, 2009, 3:47 AM

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PP, you were 11 and the girl was 20? That's normally referred to as child abuse. Yep, felony. She should be in jail.

Saturday, September 05, 2009, 4:16 PM

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haha

i was 12 :S and in 7th grade
i know it sounds pretty disgusting but my bestfriend lost it at that age to and its how old most girls are losing it nower days.
and pretty much evry chic in my school has lost it so i dont give a fuk aii.
i think use are all losers to hahahaha.

Friday, December 11, 2009, 11:28 PM

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I was almost 31 and I never, ever regretted it. It was the best gift my husband and I gave each other on our wedding night.

Saturday, December 12, 2009, 8:48 AM

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I'm 19, still a virgin, and plan to remain that way until I get married.

Sunday, December 13, 2009, 11:00 PM

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Virginity

I lost my virginity almost a week ago. I'm fifteen years old, and obviously too young. I've always loved sexual things, and I wanted to lose my virginity because I thought it would be fun and I'd feel proud. Well, can't say I felt proud or had any fun...When he went into me it hurt very much. Don't know if I ever want to have sex ever again! Should have waited until I get married...

Tuesday, April 06, 2010, 6:34 PM

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I was 18... and my first was a guy who I was barely even friends with. From there I had 2 long term relationships (both over two years and involving sex) and about 19 other partners ranging from dating to "friends" to one night stands. I never caught any disease and it was finally with the man I was engaged to that I had my daughter.

Now my daughter's dad and I are seperated, and I have added one final number to my tally.

I see the difference in the intimacy, and I love this man with all my heart and soul... and not just my pelvic region.... and that experrience, although some what regertable (except for my daughter of course, I wouldn't trade her for anything) taught me how to realize that. We have been discussing abstinence till marriage, eventhough we have had sex. We know that the sex is amazing... actually breath-taking, we just actually want to focus on more then just the sex, because there is more there then just the sex. It is wonderful.

Wednesday, April 07, 2010, 3:50 PM

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I will admit that I was awfully young...I was 15 and he was 16. However, I am now 27 and he is 28 and we are still together! 12 years later! I give him a lot of crap about how easy he's had it...I should have made him work harder, but like a pp said, I never really saw myself waiting once I found the right guy.

Wednesday, April 07, 2010, 11:33 PM

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lost mine at 17 (or 18...cant remember~!) Then i met my bf and we've been together since. He's had 4 other sexual partners before me and it pisses me off that i've just had one! Granted, i had had more sex than him when we met and i taught him a HELLUVA lot, it just grates me to think he's beaten me on the numbers scale! LOL!
We joke about it all the time :)

Thursday, April 08, 2010, 8:25 AM

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16, do it with someone you love

Thursday, April 08, 2010, 3:28 PM

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I was 15 lost it to my girlfriend of 1 year at the time. She cheated in me later and I regretted it. Had sex with 3 girls after that all once and regretted each and every one. Am now having sex with my girlfriend of 6 months on a regular basis and I do not regret it as we are in love and plan to get married after college :)

Sunday, January 09, 2011, 3:49 PM

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Virginity

wow what a question

i completely regret losing my virginity. At the time i was trying to have fun and be like everyone else. I was 15 and went with a new friend i had made to drink a couple beers. I ended up losing my virginity to the biggest douche on earth. I was a "hit and dip". I wish it never happened im not that type of person. But now after a year of dating on and off with this boy. He has put me through so much. i just ended it with him and currently talking to someone. But the boy i lost it to still says he loves me and cares so much about me. We both now that it'd never work im a model and travel alot and hes just to much of and asshole to appreciate what he had in front of him until it was to late.

Just wanted to share my story ^-^

Thursday, September 06, 2012, 12:53 PM

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I am 22 about to turn 23 years old. I lost my virginity when I was at the age of 18 because of my ex, which was my bf at the time. He forced me to have sex with him and I did because I felt like I had to in order for him to stay with me. But then last year he broke up with me because he said he didn't love me anymore and I am still trying to find someone. But it is hard.

Sunday, September 09, 2012, 3:33 PM

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I waited till I got married! I was 28. I love sex! I am still happy with our sexlives after 30 years!


Monday, September 17, 2012, 9:26 PM

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I'm a lesbian and haven't done anything with a guy. I lost my "virginity" a month ago when I was 19 (I'm 20 now) to girl that I wasn't attracted to at all. I felt embarrassed that I hadn't done anything before and all my friends had a long time ago. I haven't seen her since that night. I regret it being with someone I didn't like at all but at the same time I like how I can say I lost it at 19. I had many opportunities throughout high school but I was too nervous. I wish it could have been with one of them instead.

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