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screw political correctness. i'll say if i think you are i am fat

it drives me absolutely bonkers that you cannot tell someone they're fat these days because it's not "politically correct" Obesity is NOT a disability. It is a disease you put on yourself (granted someone people have a greater genetic disposition). You do not belong in the handicapped parking spot. You do not deserve to sit down more than an elderly person. YOU ARE NOT DISABLED.

We look at people who are smoking and say...."what do you think you're doing? Don't you know how terrible that is? You're slowly killing yourself and probably giving yourself lung cancer. STOP THAT"

No one thinks that a smoker is "disabled"

So my statement to the obese...."what do you think you're doing? Don't you know how terrible that is? You're slowly killing yourself and probably giving yourself heart disease, diabetes, etc. STOP THAT"


Thu. Aug 16, 10:48am

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I agree. I haveno problem giving an obese woman a stare-down when she takes up 2 seets on the train instead on 1. I mean, she only pays for 1, what gives her the right to take 2??? Same on buses, planes, and pretty much anywhere else.

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:00 AM

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Boy, OP, you sound like a real gem. I wish we were friends in real life.

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:14 AM

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it's not totally about being politically correct. it's about having tact and manners. and minding your own business. if someone asks you about how you perceive their appearance, then they are opening themselves up for compliments or criticism. but a "stare down"? what are you trying to prove? that you do not approve of the way someone else looks? let me put it this way: you come off as rude and in need of some real manners, not to mention a more educated outlook about others. pay more attention to your self and allow others to take care of themselves, unless asked to do otherwise. work on who your are on the inside instead of paying so much attention to how others look on the outside. who do you think you are to judge and preach? don't you know how terrible that is? STOP THAT.

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:29 AM

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OK, screw political correctness, but I am trying to teach my kids that calling someone names is wrong. Seems to me that calling someone fat is probably not going to do any one any good.

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:36 AM

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Go 11:29 poster! I love the way you put that- Well said!

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:38 AM

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I'd feel sorry for your children, if you have any. "No, that's not a dog. That's a scribble." "That tastes like crap. Did you read the recipe right?" "You suck at reading. I had to help you with over half the words." Wow, people like you ... :( Do you even have feelings?

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:39 AM

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11:29

You seem not to have gotten the point of my statement.

"what are you trying to prove? that you do not approve of the way someone else looks?"
Did I say anything about looks? No, I talked of SPACE. Space where I could have been sitting, or someone else who is tired and in need of a seat and who paid for one. What if I decided to take up 2 seats too? One with my bag....people would complain, because I only paid for 1 seat. But, what allowes an obese person to take up 2 seats??

"work on who your are on the inside instead of paying so much attention to how others look on the outside"
Again, nobody is taking about looks. I didn't even mention that obese people look disgousting, even though they do, now that you mention it. And yes, I pay a lot of attention to myself. Thanks.

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:49 AM

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I actually agree with you all. To the extent that someone''s obesity negatively impacts others, I think it is reasonable to be annoyed. If classified as a disabilty, then buses, trains and planes need to build bigger seats for those who are "disabled", just like they have to provide handicapped access. Either that or charge for the extra space.

On the other hand, being annoyed is one thing. Being rude is another. You acheive nothing by being rude except for a loss of respect from others.


Thursday, August 16, 2007, 11:50 AM

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OP here: i suppose i ought to defend myself haha

i love how "self-righteous" you all are feeling this wonderful morning.

11:29 am: please do not try to pretend that you never judge. "let me put it this way: you come off as rude and in need of some real manners, not to mention a more educated outlook about others. pay more attention to your self and allow others to take care of themselves, unless asked to do otherwise. work on who your are on the inside instead of paying so much attention to how others look on the outside" people like you think that's it's okay to think these things as long as you don't say it outloud because that's manners right? you're just as judgmental even when you hide it inside so step down from your pedestal please.

11:36 am: yes calling someone names is wrong. i wasn't implying that i go around all day saying hi fatty fat fat. but pretending to ignore the fact that someone is fat or failing to acknowledge it for fear of hurting their feelings is not going to do any good either. they'll just stay in stasis.

11:39 am: you completely missed my point. please do not extend my statements beyond what i write. children learning to draw, cook, or read is totally unrelated. i was commenting on smokers and obese people being unhealthy. how does this extend to children at all?? unrelated and moot

so to clarify perhaps: i think it is extremely silly that everyone must tiptoe around the feelings of a obese person. i don't think they deserve any preferential treatment. being obese is something you can work and fix to beocme healtheir just as is a smoking habit. but we hold a double standard for fat people because although they're in no way disabled, we feel like we should give them the preferential treatment. people wouldn't think i was being insulting or mean if i told a friend smoker, "you know, you really shouldn't smoke. it's not good for you and will make you more unhealthy" yet i'm pretty sure, at least from what i've read here" that I'd by lynched if i suggested to a fat friend "you know, you really shouldn't eat that third burger. it's not good for you and will make you more unhealthy (fatter)"
this political incorrectness bullshit is simply that...bullshit. becuase being fat is not a disability. it is not a disadvantage deserving of sympathy. it is not something you're born with. it is not something you cannot help. being fat is not what is supposed to be the NORM it is not what is supposed to be OKAY and we certainly should not teach our children that fatness is just a "disability"

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 12:06 PM

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Its all about compassion for others feelings. How would you feel if someone walked up to you and said boy your ugly you should put a bag over your head? Anyone who would make someone else purposely feel bad has something wrong with them. You can have empathy and still feel annoyed. Don't you think that fat person taking up the 2 seats feels bad and embarrassed already? No reason to stare and be a cunt about it. Oops did I say that C word out loud, lol!

Thursday, August 16, 2007, 12:29 PM

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