Are men disgusted with a flabby body during sex?

Just wondering.....I haven't had a permiscuous lifestyle and have only been with three men in my 39yrs. Do they really care much about hard or flabby bodies?

Sat. Dec 29, 5:13pm

I'm not a man but I would say the average man would have an issue with loose hanging fatty skin or just skin. I think a lot of men can look past the little rolls here and there but lots of flabby skin is probably a turn off.

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 9:46 PM

I think if a guy wants to get you naked, he's not too concerned what you look like under the clothes. Unless he's drunk and picking you up at the bar, if he wants to have sex with you, what's most likely to turn him off is not what you look like, but rather what you do or don't do. And all my guy friends get cheesed off when women say "don't touch that" or "don't look" or spend more time worrying about how they look than enjoying what the guy is doing.

If you're gonna have sex, he either wants to please you or have you please him, and for that looks aren't as important as we women think.

Saturday, December 29, 2007, 11:41 PM

Generally speaking, the only thing that disgusts them is being seen in public with a flabby-bodied woman, even if they're no great shakes themselves.

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 12:23 AM

They don't

Once men decide to have sex with you, they do not sit there and say "aww man she has a roll I just can't do this" lol. they know what you look like, they just want to have sex. If you obsess over your body during sex that is a turn off.

Sunday, December 30, 2007, 8:04 PM

12:23, I sincerely doubt all men feel like that.

My boyfriend likes that I'm soft. I'm sure he'll like me when I'm not soft too.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 10:43 AM

12:23 qualified their statement with "generally speaking" so it obviously wasn't meant to apply to every single man. I think that statement was absolutely right-on. 10:43 (and all the others who will most likely comment about their significant others), you're lucky to have found one of the exceptions, please don't take it for granted.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:01 AM

10:43 here. Good point 11:01. I am very grateful, however I think it is highly upsetting that there is this terrible double standard when it comes to beauty. Women are expected to be (outrageously) thin in order to be considered beautiful, while men of all kinds are considered attractive.

I say, don't bother with the guys who care that much about your flab and wait until you find someone who likes you for you. Is that too idealistic? Why settle for less?

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:11 AM

It depends

I can't speak for all men, but I'm "somewhat" turned off and "somewhat" not.

I'll explain.

My wife had some weight gain during her pregnancy and still has some more left to lose. I'm not turned off by her appearance, however, because I love her. So your question is kind of flawed to begin with. Would I find her more attractive is she didn't have the post-preggo pooch? Duh. But am I disgusted? Absolutely not.

We're not going to be surprised by what we see underneath the clothes.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:13 AM

Another man here. My wife also gained a lot of weight during pregnancy and when she lost most of it she still had a soft flabby hang on her belly. Does it bother me, no. Would I be more attracted to her if it were gone, no. But I love her, and she is the mother of my children and even if she had stayed 75 pounds heavier it wouldn't have affected me at all. The only issue I had with her weight was the fact that she had stopped doing some of the things she did before, had less energy and she also felt bad about herself which affected our marriage. But I always loved her, wanted her and felt attracted to her because of who she is and what we've shared. I should also say I am 30 pounds overweight myself and am 38 years old.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:30 AM

flab

I think I am more disgusted with my flabby belly, and this in turn leads me to think my partner is turned off with my "extra" skin.

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:38 AM

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