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This is COMPLETELY normal, as your clitoris is on the outside of your body and it is responsible for giving you an orgasm. I know some women have orgasms during sex, but many do not. I, for one, do not, but have no problem during foreplay.

Saturday, February 02, 2008, 9:14 PM

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Yes, I think it is quite normal for a number of women to reach climax not during the actual intercourse, but only during other forms of stimulation.

However, it shouldn't matter what is normal or not. The only thing that matters is that you both enjoy what you're doing. If that is the case, don't worry how other women experience sexual intimacy. :)

Saturday, February 02, 2008, 9:16 PM

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Haha, the only way I climax is if my clitoris is directly stimulated. If I climax during actual intercourse it's only because our bodies were in the right position for my clitoris to have some attention. You are completely normal. Don't worry about when or how you can climax, just be glad that you do and know that it's okay and perfectly right for you (and millions of other women).

Sunday, February 03, 2008, 12:09 AM

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yup, I fake it during intercourse most of the time. Clitoral stimulation is what I need for orgasm, so the big O usually only happens when I'm by myself.

Sunday, February 03, 2008, 1:27 AM

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Totally, totally normal.

When I got married around your age I was very inexperienced and had a lot of misconceptions about sex. (you're just suppose to have sex and it will be wonderful, right?...wrong!)

I highly recommend you get a book about sex to read with your husband. If you are shy about sex I understand that going to the library or bookstore to get such a book is intimidating, but it is SO worth it. If you're not too shy about getting a somewhat "exciting" book most book stores should have a good selection to choose from. If you ARE a bit shy I reccomend the book "Hot Manogomy".

Sunday, February 03, 2008, 3:33 PM

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I have always been the same way. If I don't have stimulation I can't. I am married to a wonderful man that was feeling like he was doing something wrong. After a long discussion on it I either stimulate myself (which he loves or he me know sex is GREAT

Sunday, February 03, 2008, 4:48 PM

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Our Bodies Ourselves is a great resource too and has been around and rewritten many times. The good news is you are having orgasms...some women who are inexperienced don't until they learn their body responses. Also, the vulva (the labia, clitoris and vagina) are the women's sex organ so really you are not outside your sex organ when you respond to being touched.

It's great you asked this question. I am sure there are others who wonder too and are too shy to ask.

Sunday, February 03, 2008, 6:56 PM

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that's totally normal for me too. It's taken a long time to have anything internal and I still struggle. And I'm 27 so you just get to practice more! :-)

Monday, February 04, 2008, 12:28 PM

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I would suggest also getting some toys so that you can learn what things make you react. Use them alone and with your partner. That really helped my husband and I.

Monday, February 04, 2008, 12:57 PM

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Keys to the Kingdom

The MYTH is that vaginal penetration is the most common way a woman achieves orgasm. It is the other way around-clitoral stimualtion is the most common-far and wide. It is a myth that is very convenient for MEN, of course as it relinqishes the more selfish among them from doing anything other than pleasing themselves i.e. pursuing intercourse to the exclusion of orall and manually stimulating a woman's clitoris. you'll find tons on this subject on the web and in libraries.
I have a theory about why we are designed this way. Only a worthy suitor, who consideratly explores a woman's body and gives her intense pleaure, via her clitorus, should be allowed to "enter".; )

Monday, February 04, 2008, 2:51 PM

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