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what body shape do guys find most attractive?

Hey guys,
what do you think is most attractive for a woman?
to have a toned body with definition, top heavy, bottom heavy,

Tue. Jan 24, 9:44am

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It all depends on the guy in question .... but most men I know like a bit of meat on the bones! My brother in law even swears by bigger women, his wife is about 30 pounds overweight and she doesn't mind one bit at all - he loves her just the way she is!!!!

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:00 AM

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being a guy i love a lil meat. i dont go for the nicole richie types i want some meat where u ask? i would say in the bottom area. but then again being a guy i want a woman w a nice butt and nice chest , but if i were to have a choice i would say butt

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:06 AM

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It's rare that I find a skinny girl attractive. Love curves and confidence.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:12 AM

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My husband told me he loves a women with curves and meat on her bones. He finds the skinny ones unattractive.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:33 AM

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My bf is of the feeling that any girl that lets him touch her is attractive...ok, not the most mature, but also sort of encouraging on a body-image front.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:55 AM

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My boyfriend likes girls who have low body fat (15% is what he seems to like best) but it doesn't matter how muscular or lean they are, though there's a point at which they can be too skinny. He doesn't mind a "meaty" girl as long as she isn't "fat".

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:58 AM

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body type

One question, why do we care? I understand that we like guys and want them to like us, but I don't care what they think is atractive. I care if they love me for me. I am not working out and getting in shape for any man or for the hope of a man, I am doing this for me!

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 12:35 PM

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Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 12:59 PM

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I think it's a fundamental human quality to care what someone you want to be with thinks of your appearance. I imagine that it would be impossible to not care what anyone thinks. Aesthetics are as appreciated as anything else.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:04 PM

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I'm not thin- trying to get back to just being curvy as opposed to "well padded"- but I've recently been turned down because my butt is too little- the hottie likes girls with ALOT of junk in the trunk. Ironically he would have liked me more before I lost the 30 lbs- but no, he's not worth the added weight.

My boy toy on the other hand never once noticed or commented on the 30lbs I lost til I was at his place in blue jeans and bent over to put on my boots. I was like- you see me naked, but notice once I'm in blue jeans??? (which means I managed to pick him up when I was a sz 16) Most guys won't notice a 10lb dif in their women, unless their really shallow. Confidence will easily get you past an extra 20-30, possibly even 40lbs. And then there are guys out there who like the stick figure women... it's all a matter of preference. The guys who are worth it, will prefer the person you are to the wieght you are, and judge you by you personality, not your dress size.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:09 PM

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I really don't think there's any particular body type that men prefer just as I know most women vary wildly in the type of male physique they find attractive. However at the end of the day you have to enjoy their company, mind and spirit or you will not be able to look at this person and be attracted to them in any way.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:24 PM

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The best attraction advice?

There's butter for every bread
there's a seat for every ass

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:58 PM

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You can very well be attracted to someone based on mind, spirit and heart and also be unattracted to their looks, but which do you prefer?

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 2:54 PM

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well - both obviously! :-)

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 5:33 PM

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LOL-- I thought all guys wanted was a warm body! :-)

Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:28 PM

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I'm a massage therapist and deal with a ridiculous number of naked men who flirt a lot and try to grope or persuade me to do more than a massage. I'd say that 10% find my extra 60 lbs revolting, 60% are okay with it, and 30% think my shape is very attractive. Whenever they make a move on me, I tell them that they can do the normal thing and ask me out, but only one guy in nearly 3 years actually called me up and asked me I'd say that in private, men don't discriminate much but in public, they wouldn't be caught dead with a beast like me on their arm for fear of ridicule. I live in NYC - tough town.

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Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:29 PM

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I live in NYC

and I think it depends where your extra 60 are, and what culture your men are from. Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern, and Latino men generally prefer a woman with more meat than less, especially if she doesn't store a lot of the extra in her belly.
Any other men want to state their preference? This thread is great!

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 8:37 AM

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KatieMc80, that's quite an indictment of some men! And I totally agree with you. In fact, I will go further: I have met men who are in private VERY discriminating about the things we know should matter -- you know, they like intelligence, good personality, sound ethics, etc. But this is totally trumped by the imperative to have a thin blonde on their arm, even if she is a bad person or has lots of problems.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 9:10 AM

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To KatieMc80

Girl - I live in Boston and even at my heaviest, NYC was a safe haven for me. I feel like NYC men are into much more variety - shapes, sizes, colors - than men in stuffy ol' Boston. Try being the fat girl in this old blue blood town - Ick! Oh, do I miss my NYC men. Think I better come for a visit next weekend...

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 9:32 AM

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This whole thread seems destructive. After all, we can't choose what type of body we have, once we loose weight. Let's focus on something positive instead of what guys want to see. Please ladies!

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 4:28 AM

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I think we've figured out, though, that no matter what your shape, there is a guy out there who loves it!

Besides, has anyone ever been with a guy and not been able to see a single flaw? Doubtful. But, has everyone here been with a guy who they think is hot? Probably everyone! So stop worrying about imperfections!

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 10:30 AM

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As a guy, let me say that there is an incredible amount of variety in what I like, and what other guys like. Same as it is for women.

It's not as simple as fashion magazines would have everyone believe (and I personally don't find most models or tv stars all that attractive -- they look too unreal).

Best advice, I think, is work towards feeling more attractive, a body that you like -- personality, self-confidence, and the way you dress go a long, long way.

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 11:57 AM

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I just think it's very interesting that the subject of exercise of different kinds and amounts, and how it affects both your appearance and attitudes people might have about you, hasn't even been mentioned in this thread (unless I overlooked something). Is that because nobody thinks it matters much?

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 12:09 PM

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I can say one thing to the exercise comment...

I was down on myself once with my boyfriend. I was upset with some attention I had been getting, and said what my mother said to me, "I don't want to be beautiful, but beauty is a curse. You grow to rely on it and flees from you." I told him it's just genetics.

Then he grabbed my butt, and says, oh, so this you got from your mom, and it has nothing to do with you biking for 5 hours a week and keeping fit?

(We were not in public)

So... I thought about it. No, I am not in perfect shape, but it's good to know that through that, you can tell muscles are there beneath it all, and that you truly do deserve.

Hooray for working out!

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 3:45 PM

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Believe it or not

I think the majority of men out there prefer women who are in shape, no particular size, but porportionate, symmetrical, and overall attractive. Not a whole lot different than what women prefer!

Sunday, January 29, 2006, 7:50 PM

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i was 20 stone and a size 20 plus,till i lost weight rapidly for no reason quite a few pounds which took me down to 12 stone and a size 12/14.. i exercise like mad but i must admitt i was more comfortable and confident with my body when i was bigger.. no matter how much i exercise do sit ups etc jogging i still feel like i look worse .

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 5:59 AM

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The actual truth ain't pretty...

okay, you asked for it:

I am a guy so I will tell you absolutely out of my 30 + year of experience being and hangin out with one million guys that the majority of modern American guys would actually prefer the Jessica Biel body type - a long, lean, fit, proportioned (yet curvaceuous too in a way) type and that is final. Everyone already knows this instictively and anyone who says otherwise is just blowing smoke. (Which is what I have heard a lot in this thread)

now WHY is it constructive to say something like that in a post like this you ask ? ?

Because whatever shape you are in (or shape that you are) your man or the men out there WILL find you more attractive if you eat healthy and bust your butt at the gym and get more lean and fit. Half of the reason that most people are in the gym (let's be honest) is to have a pleasing response when people look at them - because like it or not people can tell whether you take care of yourself by how you look and taking care of yourself makes you seem (at least at first glance) like a balanced and healthy person.

No matter what shape you are or shape you are in - busting your butt in the gym and eating a reasonable amount of healthy foods does pay off in the exact way you would suspect - when people look at you they will be more impressed if you look healthy. Shallow - sure. But still not all bad - and there it is - the unvarnished truth.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 8:50 AM

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PP I'm a woman and I don't find your opinion offensive at all, I find it very helpful that someone is willing to be upfront. Yes, my husband loves me and I know in my heart that he would never leave me or not love me because of my weight. That being said, I don't delude myself into thinking that he wouldn't love it if I was thinner and fitter. Of course he would! And that's not just a man thing! I love him to death but man he'd be so much hotter without the giant belly. People may like all different body types, but no one looks at a healthy, fit person (I'm not talking anorexic) and says ICK. It's great that we all have such accepting, loving partners but don't think for one minute that they wouldn't poof! you into being a hot hardbody if they could!!! Hell, I'd do it to myself if I could!!! :)

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 9:11 AM

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What a man likes...

I read a magazine called "Psychology Today" and in it, was an article on exactly what we're talking about here. I can't remember the exact article name, but basically, it was "What makes a woman most attractive"--based on men's psychology. I'll try to remember most of them...

1. Small waist (when you divide your waist into your hip measurement, a .8 or less is most attractive). This lets a man know that you are in good health (and can carry their babies successfully).

2. Blonde hair. This lets a man know that you are probably young because younger women have a lot more blonde hair than older women (in nature, of course). But dying your hair blonde has the same effect. (lets a man know that you are young enough to carry their babies).

3. Long, healthy hair. This lets a man know how many years you have been in good health (and can carry their babies successfully).

4. Large breasts. This means a large amount of estrogen in the body. It's guessed that larger breasts are easier to see, thus giving men an easier estimate of your age (how high and low they are on the body). (again, age. You are young enough to carry their babies).

5. Smiling with teeth. This is an invitation and you are also showing off your good health.

6. Eye contact. Another invitation.

7. Confidence.

8. How other people perceive you. How many friends you have. (How much support you have once you have their babies).

9. A high voice. Higher voices mean more estrogen in the body (better grounds for successfully carrying babies).

...this is all that I can remember, and I think I'm actually mixing two different articles, so don't quote me. Very interesting stuff.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 11:53 AM

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I remember two more...

10. A symmetrical face. (lets a man know you have good genes).

11. Your smell. (lets a man know if your genes will mix well with his to have quality offspring).

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 11:57 AM

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Rarely do guys really go for the ultra skinnie havent eaten in days girls...but the ones that do are usually jerks...or have problems with their own self esteem so they have to make up for it by dating someone who has worse self esteem than them....

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 12:10 PM

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I'd assume that the women in movies and porn and models in other magazines that men ogle would be a good indication of the type of women men generally find attractive. So thin, big boobs, high cheek bones.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 1:30 PM

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I hope your not a man...because if you know nothing about them

Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 2:07 PM

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Subject Varies

I am a 22 year old female, I have a 34 C chest, a big booty, small waist, dark hair w highlights, dancers legs, dark skin, weigh 119 (yay!!), I am 5'5, I have a very high voice, green eyes, I am married to a wonderful man, he thinks I am it and I feel the same way about him...moral of this story some guys still do not find me attractive. It just VARIES...shoot, even I dont think I am attractive. The good thing is that I have a wonderful gorgeous man who thinks I am.

Every guy is different, and NO not all men go for the playboy model type of girl..they may find them attractive or sexy, but only a handful of guys would want to take a woman like that to meet his family, or buy her a 2 carat rock and tell her he loves her. It literally just depends on the man and the mans upbringing. Hope this helped!

Wednesday, April 30, 2008, 1:00 PM

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I think there are different men

My guy likes em' thick (thank God), but would probably agree with the post about liking women that let him touch them!!! Pretty funny. In comparison, I have a 26 year old son that gravitates towards pretty round girls. I think some men fixate on a body part and are willing to let other areas slide. Luscious breasts and nice butt for an example. Consistently , the bigger girls that I he has brought home, exude a certain kinda of confidence and sexuality. I think as we continue this journey to health, we should really get to love those parts of our body that are beautiful..I would like to be thinner, and I am working on it. In the drinks in the Airport Bar!!!

Wednesday, April 30, 2008, 8:24 PM

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my boyfriend likes chubby girls.

Thursday, May 01, 2008, 12:47 AM

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But would he turn down Jessica Alba (unpregnant) if she threw herself at him? Doubtful.

Thursday, May 01, 2008, 2:40 PM

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hey, I have guy buddies who wouldn't turn down any non-ugly women, size 4-20. However, I've known a few guys who may not turn Ms. Alba down, but they would like the bragging rights more than the body.

Thursday, May 01, 2008, 3:23 PM

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Agreed, 2:40. Just because a guy says he likes chubby women doesn't mean he doesn't also like (or prefer) your stereotypical hot woman, aka Jessica Alba.

Thursday, May 01, 2008, 4:24 PM

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Whats up with the talk about Jessica Alba- the guy liked Jessica Biel- much better looker

Friday, May 02, 2008, 10:22 PM

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I'm not sure what a lot of guys think but my boyfriend likes me a little thicker. I was really skinny when we met, about 45 pounds lighter than I am ri ght now and he clearly states that he does not want me that skinny again. And he can never shut up about my as*. So, I agree that thicker with just a little meat on the bones is better

Friday, May 02, 2008, 11:34 PM

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guy here.

My wife is doing Peertrainer, and I've signed up for my own account, even though my BMI is in the normal-to-low range. She's about 10 lbs overweight, and I had no idea that she would have that classification. I say that I like women with hips and curves, but in reality, any confident woman who takes care of herself (does her hair, wears flattering clothes, takes care of her skin) is attractive.

Thin and thick women most certainly included!

A turn-off for me is when my wife gets fussy about her weight in front of me. I don't obsess over what she considers flaws, and her attitude is much more frustrating than her love handles.

I guess my point in this ramble is that women need to stop self-sabotaging themselves. Sure, a proportionate weight is attractive, but if you're not quite there yet and working towards it, cut yourself some slack.

Saturday, May 03, 2008, 8:16 AM

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Eating too little and being too skinny, eating too much and being excessively over weight, working out too much and obsessing over self image, wearing way too revealing clothes, or no effort/care at all to your self image, ALL give off bad messages to the opposite and same sex. I think most people are attracted to healthy and are attracted to people that radiate positive energy, and people that show moderation (in all things) and some self control.
If you don't win a guy over with your mind and personality then you'll never have him b/c boobs and butts are everywhere. And if you love yourself, then why wouldn't he?

Tuesday, May 06, 2008, 5:14 PM

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i prefer curvy women big boobs and big butts always look better than girls that are fit.

Thursday, October 29, 2009, 7:11 AM

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Okay here's the thing. I have big breasts, big butt, and a tiny waste to connect them all and I am cut up . But I am not a size two or four; I am a SIX and therefore am not happy. What the hell is that!! I think this whole thread is ridiculous.

And yet I am on it and I even created an account to write this comment.(chuckle)

Monday, December 21, 2009, 5:34 PM

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What do guys find attractive?

It really shouldnt matte rhow you look, im 18 double d breasts, decent butt, 5'6, long brown hair and i weigh 110 lbs, Many people find this very attractive but not everyone, the guy i like actually finds me average and doesnt take a second look at me. I guess it shouldnt matter what guys think they should like you for who you are not the way you look. Because in another 30 years your body isnt going to be the same but your personality will and thats what matters most. The things that last.

Tuesday, April 06, 2010, 6:55 PM

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You might have the best body in the universe...but if you're a butterface...aint no one gonna wanna touch you :P
*kee kee kee*
I'm just kidding!!! thought i'd troll the forums for a bit and i just couldnt resist :)

Wednesday, April 07, 2010, 10:30 AM

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So I'm 18. I'm 5'9, have a big butt, tiny waist and a pretty small upper body..including my boobs. But I'm always insucure about my legs. I have bigger calfs and can never seem to get a great shape to my knees no matter how much I work out. I have wavy blonde hair just past my shoulders and everyone tells me how striking I am in person but I have a hard time getting guys. My lower body bigger a bit bigger than my upper body makes me so insucure. Is there any hope?

Saturday, May 01, 2010, 12:39 AM

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what's guys like

Nice comment...size 6 and under is the best look.

Saturday, May 01, 2010, 7:56 AM

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HAHAHA Butterface

It is the truth!! I am a female and I now I will look twice at a hot face with a beer gut than at a unattractive face with a hot body!!

I read in a magazine once that Men perfer women with a prettier face than a prettier body, and I belive cause i am the same way with men!

Friday, May 07, 2010, 5:56 PM

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I best guy friend likes his women short and and with a big thing in his face XD He goes for those who have slightly more than just a little meat on them and have the confidence to pull it off.


Monday, May 10, 2010, 12:49 PM

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pretty easy

I'm a guy and I'll be blunt.

A big belly is unattractive, a small and I mean very small pudge is ok.Unless you have a baby and even then if you have jelly rolls its ugly and this is key No jelly rolls. Small love handles are ok. Small being 1 or 2 inches at maximum, Turkey necks unattractive in any form, busted teeth. Missing , execisve space, crooked, Flat butts are unattractive.Pencil figure (very skinny with no butt or breast). Small breast are fine, but i hope she has a booty and thick ankles are also very ugly.

What is most attractive is proportion. A large chest, small stomach, wide hips.
Small chest, small stomach, wide hips. Some women can pull off a big chest and no hips, but very few, this is largely unattractive to have a V shape, maybe its because men most have V shape body types and you remind me of a man.

Now there is such a thing as too wide of hips and hips and butt are two different things. You can have wide hips and a flat butt There are smaller women with small hips, but there butt comes out and is not flat, these women are also very attractive.

Breast, not all breast are attractive. Especially on overweight or obese women. Breast can never over come having a big belly.... never. An hour glass/S shape is most attractive in different variations and remember even if you are skinny but you butt sticks out or breast.. pref both you are still attractive.

In ending the most attractive thing about a women is her friendliness and the sense of an invitining attitude. I don't care how attractive a women might be, if she seems uninviting I will purposely pretend she does not exist (oddly enough this tends to work in my favor) and focus on the girl that is more inviting, whether that be through her smille, body language, or personality. I will even over look any or all flaws for this simple fact, except for having a belly that sticks out.

Yes I am shallow, but I still have a very beautiful gf

Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 7:59 PM

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here's hoping your gf doesn't get in a car accident and lose that prettiness.

And my buddy would disagree about the belly not being able to be overcome for large breasts. He honestly cares little what the rest of her body is like as long as she has LARGE breasts. Most of his gf's would be in the obese range on BMI. He could get skinnier chicks- they don't have breasts big enough. I think he's crazy.

The point is different people like different body types. Most men will absolutely prefer proportionate, and if you've got some extra weight, but it's evenly distributed men don't mind much. But again- different people like different body types.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 8:41 PM

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My gf in a car accident? What a terrible thing to say.
Anyway, yes I know some of my friends don't mind a big belly, but as for my close circle of friends, we do. Maybe it's because we take fitness very seriously. When I see a women with a large gut, I think a a few things such as she is impulsive, lacks personal discipline, and is generally unhealthy. I like for my women to be healthy physically and mentally and that's what makes it so unatractive, I guess it would boil down to the type of man and his lifestyle to what he may find attractive. I suppose if you were unhealthy yourself then you wouldnt have that be a criteria for a possible mate.

Wednesday, May 12, 2010, 3:30 PM

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You all are very stupid. There is nothing special about Jessica Alba or Biel. They look just like everyone else. I am sick of hearing the same crap that all men would crumble if a women by the standards you losers are setting threw themselves at him. That is not true. I would not and I know many of my friends that feel the same way. The guys that fall all over the so called good looking women on T.V. are fat, ugly, and geeks.

As for the child that posted her measurements, you obviously do like the way you look but you are trying to seem like your not. You failed, I can easily see that you are only fishing for compliments from guys and probably flirt with any guy within a 5 mile radius. You are just looking to TRY make other women jealous and say "Oh I wish I looked like you" you only sounded like a despreate slut. Tip, some things should be left unsaid its called being an adult.

As you can see my wife isn't posting her measurements online looking for approval from the cyber geeks that stay on-line thinking that they are something special because they typed something and recieved a compliment from a person they never met. My wife is very attractive and has a wonderful body and I am proud to have her by my side. Also, she does not act like a bimbo which is a huge turn off.

Finally, to the person who started this thread. Don't put too much emphasis on your looks. Take care of your self and be comfrotable how you look. Where clothes that fit and are not too tight because you look bigger and the same goes for wearing clothes that are too big. The right fitting clothes will make you look the way you should and that is what will attract the right guy.

Good Luck

Thursday, May 13, 2010, 11:35 PM

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I'm sorry but who are you to judge like that.. You think you know everything but you don't..
You're talking about the child that you thought sounded like a 'desperate slut', you don't even know her. I think judging someone like that, only makes clear that you are exasperated.
I do agree about all the other items.


Friday, May 14, 2010, 3:04 PM

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What body shape do guys find most attractive?


Sunday, May 16, 2010, 1:04 AM

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i think you're generalizing a bit with your assumptions. while i agree that a big belly can indicate impulsiveness, lack of personal discipline, and general unhealthiness, it doesn't mean it's actually true. i can tell you that i eat very healthily and exercise regularly, and though i don't have a large stomach, i'm not skinny in any way, shape, or form, and people still consider me overweight. for many people, like me, it can be simply the matter of genetics. we just have the "fat gene" so to speak. it doesn't necessarily mean that we are actually unhealthy, impulsive, and have problems with personal discipline (or lack thereof).

Saturday, May 29, 2010, 5:36 PM

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I like a girl who is confident. That is what I find the most attractive.

Sunday, May 30, 2010, 11:34 AM

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My advice.. stay off forums and threads like this. While it may have had good intentions forums are just for most part evil lol.

This is not how you find confidence and support to work on yourself because you will always have some freakin rude, weird and very insecure people who just want to cause problems and bring you down.

Stick to family, friends and the support groups on here..small groups of people with the same goal..not this bs like the rude and sad comments from some people.

they should have this stuff monitored to boot people who do nothing to support any positive atmosphere on a site that is geared to do just that.

Who cares what someone might think about who you look. Do your best and when you feel you feel happy it shows and those who want to tell you will and there will be those who like you for who you are and how you look.

We all want to be told you look great or I find you attractive, etc. It does and will happen to everyone but it's up to you to get to a point where your body makes you the happiest. If you are happy then that's all that matters.. not the rest of this bs I read on here.

Tuesday, June 01, 2010, 7:19 PM

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They like any body that is in bed with them!! Shape doesn't really matter.

Wednesday, June 02, 2010, 9:09 AM

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Brutal .

I was reading this whole thing..and i come across yours and i start LMAO ! Yours just stuck out like that, completely different. That was a good one, anyways..yeah i don't agree with everything you put down, but you should't be so rude. I think im kinda contradicting myself but that's okay because it's really late and im tired. Oh and I like the muscle type, but sometimes, i think the chunkier guys are cute based off their personality, like once you get to know someone that you didn't find attractive at first, you start to notice other things about them that you like.

Friday, June 18, 2010, 12:55 AM

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Hey now, this is a topic made for ME. I LOVE a girl that's got some meat to her. And as curvy as curvy can be. Now when I say meat, its not the 70/30 meat but the 80/20 meat you buy in the store. Just enough chunk to make it tasty. When boobs get too big then it's just not attractive anymore. So in my opinion, I say average size breasts, around a C cup (give or take a cup), a curvy hip area, a big-o-booty to set things aright and meaty legs (better for bitin' into). But that's just my opinion. Every guy is different.

Friday, June 18, 2010, 1:13 AM

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it's more than meat!

My own personal experience is this...when I was in my 20's nad 30's I had a pretty nice figure. I have always carried a litle weight in my thighs and butt. I have a large body frame and large breasts. After I had kids, got married and put on more weight than I care to,I am now 40-50 lbs overweight. I STILL get alot of looks, compliments, pick up lines etc...I am very happily married for 16 yrs now, my hubby has never said anything to me other than how beautiful I am. My point is confidence in myself has never changed, and my views of myslef have never changed. I think if you carry yourself with confidnece and always strive to look your best, dress for your body type, know what you can and cant wear...most men will find you attractive if you are a size 10 or 16. Be proud of who you are and it will show!
Just my two cents.

Friday, June 18, 2010, 12:31 PM

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perfect health is attractive at any size. the psych today article says it all.

fat is nice when its healthy, brown fat.
skinny isn't cute when you aren't healthy.

we can't all look young forever- unless break through metaphysical limits- but it's worth it to eat the fresh foods filled with Life force and try to continually detoxify and build the health of the fatty tissue we have.

Friday, June 18, 2010, 3:54 PM

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This question is probably irrelevant in the whole scheme of your life, because once you become height/weight proportionate and as fit as you an be, there's not much you can do to alter the shape of your body to fit somebody else's ideal. Other than plastic surgery.

Why not just try to be the best YOU that you can be? The guy that's supposed to be with you will be happy with you just the way you are. If you are with someone who tries to get you to do certain exercises that are purported to "reshape" you, or to go through plastic surgery, then dump him. He doesn't really care about YOU. He only cares about himself and satisfying his own need to be with someone who looks a certain way. Kick him to the curb.

Saturday, June 19, 2010, 3:57 PM

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what a thin athletic girl with a nice booty and is the model type

Friday, September 17, 2010, 5:46 PM

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Guy Here:

As long as the stomach is smaller than the top and bottom I don't care what size. Symmetrical... proportionate.

Sexy as h*ll


Monday, September 20, 2010, 5:03 PM

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if u dont care then y r u on this website?


Wednesday, October 27, 2010, 1:58 AM

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Yeah....??? No

Well you're not a woman with children so don't be too judgmental when you see someone that has a big belly. I'm 5'11", weighed 140 lbs and was a size 4 pregnancy. I found out i was pregnant with twins now I weigh around 170 lbs, a size 8 (18 months postpartum) and I love this body a lot more. Any who, I still work out, Pilates and I only get on the elliptical. My stomach has not returned to its original appearance, I have extra skin, what us mothers of multiples would like to call "twin skin" . The extra skin is not saggy or horribly ugly, it just looks like a pooch. The only way to get rid of this extra skin is to undergo some kind of tummy tuck, usually combined with liposuction. So...don't be too judgmental.

Monday, November 29, 2010, 9:40 PM

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My boyfriend says he likes soft, "squishy" women. He doesn't like athletic looking women, cause they look too hard. He also doesn't like too much muscle. Breast size doesn't matter to him. He says mine are the perfect size, and they are a B cup. He does like a big booty though....but , again, likes it to be soft and squishy. He is mostly attracted to my face and my features. So, i think it is all about their particular preference. :) I am glad my boyfriend loves everything about me, regardless of the fact that I have gained quite a few pounds since we started dating...and he says I get more gorgeous every day. It all depends on the guy and what he likes personally.

Tuesday, December 07, 2010, 6:44 PM

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Shallow Hal

My boyfriend DUMPED ME. I continue my story for you all.

I am 19 and graduated high school (and high school sports) last year. I was athletic, and had a great boyfriend going to school to play soccer. I was crazy about him. But then I got a modeling contract at the mall with my mother. And moved to NY and have been in Paris working nonstop for eight months. Its been a separation from reality and I am very lucky. Or was, until I came home for Christmas.

My boyfriend saw me and dumped me. Apparently, I am no longer attractive to him. I'm 5'10, 34C-23-34. But I'm no longer the athlete and he just doesn't find it sexy. So maybe he went to school and developed an ego, maybe I'm too thin for him, whatever. I am thin, but I know I'm healthy. Men can be shallow, but girls are just as bad. And if this post is true and someone out there likes me for ME, great. But if not, forget them. Like yourselves.

Friday, December 17, 2010, 4:45 PM

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I hope Mr shallow man's girl friend knows she just an accessory and will be dropped when the next plastic shag doll walks past. I hope you catch an STD and ur nads fall off cos ur most likely cheating.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010, 11:50 AM

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Hey hun. That guy is better off gon. If he loved you if wouldn't broke up with you just because you had a change in body shape. A changing body is part of growing up and ur life changing. Ur partner should realise this and love every new crease and bump. Or loss of bumps. My bf Dosent like girls with muscle but a nice full body. Which brings me to explain further why that guy wasn't right for you. When I met my bf I had been dealing with an eating disorder for 4years and I had no body fat and weighed 6 stone and looked like a lil boy but if didn't care about my body, he cared about my health. It's been two years and I'm so happy to say that with his help I'm out of doctors care and a healthy size ten and ten and half stone.

You will find some one who cares more for you than what if wants you to look like.

Even if we broke up I wouldn't go back to my old ways cos if taught me just to be happy with ur self and you can't be happy with any thing unless ur happy with ur seke

Wednesday, December 22, 2010, 12:22 PM

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Take it from a guy who cares about women.

As long as you are not overly heavy and not a twig we not much care about body type, though it depends on the guy.
on the other hand, if the guy is pressering you to say: go 4 or more sizes "or we're through" you probably shouldn't be having to deal with him anyway.
in short, no extremes, do what you can to keep your face clean and just give a rip about the basics. you expect it from us, we want the same.
note some guys, me included actully like, the smaller bust sizes, freckles, glasses, nerdy, etc.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011, 9:35 PM

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I think I have an okay figure, I have a small waist, 36 D size boobs and a curvy bum. I LOVE my bum. I'm very very very confident about it. I'm a UK size 14, when most of my friends are a size 10. Yes, I have a chubby belly and chubby armss but as long as you're confident in yourself, others will find you attractive. Like, lots of guys have said I'm 'hot'
other guys have said I'm 'fat'
but I don't care anymore. If I like how I look then fuck the haters! :Like the other day someone told me.. 'you're very pretty but if you lost a few pounds, you'd be beautiful'
SO now I kinddd of want to loose weighttt. but I don't want to loose my boobs or bum. :P
Soo to all you worried girls out there, just be happy and confident within yourself. Focus on all your lovely partys and honestly guys will find you more attractive if YOU think you are!
The key to sexiness is confidence! :)

Thursday, January 27, 2011, 11:46 PM

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It's right that men like apple butt. Bt how it is possible

Saturday, March 05, 2011, 1:47 PM

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I recently gained about 15 pounds; most of it went to my hips/belly, and I've gotten much more attn from guys than i ever have before...also love my new curves :)

Friday, June 10, 2011, 6:08 PM

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female figure

I guess you can comment that, well it's about the inside and the personality that counts blah blah, yes that’s true too,
I will stick to a comment to chat I can’t help perving at. A lady who is fit and athletic, she walks with her shoulders back and has a strong posture, got the flat tummy, she is sporty, that is way sexy, they typically have small boobs, and not so curvy but they are still hot. I know a lady of this type, who had a Brest enhancement, I just didn't look right for her, (just weird).
I also found myself lusting over short and stocky musical girl, nice round legs and arms, big boobs and a big round but, I got used to thinking that I like the girl I like is either one of those two, or better yet somewhere in between.
I am like most guys who say skinny girls are not so sexy, that's not my prefible type, I know a girl who is a petite, and she is knda sexy too because she is HEALTHY for her body type. And she looks fine. I'm not being objectionable on this discussion, I' saying on what just what gives me a boner, As long as I don’t see hanging flab, otherwise seeing her ribs or pelvic bone, bony shoulder, she is sexy somehow.
I do prefer the muscular athletic type, but every person has their own preference, Even guys have different body types, in the end you are tuned to a person is a genetic opposite to you, It's makes healthy children, so guy don’t have preferences,

Monday, August 29, 2011, 9:16 AM

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I love the hour glass but athletic. I also think confidence is everything. What is an apple butt?

Tuesday, August 30, 2011, 12:07 PM

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Personal about me

Hey, I was wondering if this sounded attractive. Yes, I know guys are all different but I'm just curious what some of you guys think.. I'm 16 and im 5'9. I have 32d boobs, my stomachs pretty small, I have kind of big love handles, and a medium butt. I'm a volleyball player year round, so keep in mind I do have vball thighs.

Saturday, December 31, 2011, 12:36 AM

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Blaming women for how they look ...nice! Although, hate to say it, your comments which reduce women to the sum of their parts tend to make you appear very mysogenistic.. This is far from a healthy mindset to convey to anyone who wants to improve their lifestyle, on the contrary, it is very discouraging indeed.

Wednesday, January 04, 2012, 5:20 AM

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what body shape do guys find most attractive?

I'm not a guy, but I will tell you one thing as I have hanged out with mostly guys my entire 30 years of life... Most guys like a girl that looks healty and is confident. Which body structure most often appeals to them??? a well proportioned body figure... anything that shows curves or close to an hour glass figure.

I have a boyish figure (rectangle), but manage to get guys lined up either when I'm single or taken. Ofhen I have guys I have dated admit to me that I was not their type but for one reason or another I made them forget about all the other girls (this being said when with them or after we broke up).

Some of the reasons they have given me are: because I have a glow and bounce of confidence, Love my smile, have healthy hair, am down to earth, smell good, laugh a lot, am sweet, caring, can be fiesty, and my conservative dress at times I can also show off a bit other times (tight clothes or a hint of skin be it my legs, shoulders, neck, or waist). These are only some of the ones I remember.

Bottom line is that although they want to see curves What they really truely want most of all is a Woman who embraces her-self. When you do that you will have guys lined up for months or years for a shot at going out with you I kid you not.


Monday, January 09, 2012, 6:26 AM

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body types prefered

lets be real, not 2 sound racist cuz seriosuly i have such a blended family and im like every race in the book,
but guys like the body type's their culture likes, and what they grew up around. Latin american/spanish.mexicans like the curvy thicker ones, also black ppl too. white guys usually like the skinnier types. get the picture??
black ppl love the booty and the boobies....nicki minaj
white ppl lpove the skinnier, maybe have aa nice rack, but skinnier types...jessica alba? taylor swift?
latin americans love the curvy booties, sofia vergara, jennifer lopez.
My fiance is mexican/black/italian and lovessss curvy women, loves me:) im in shape, flat stomach, big boobs (30g's by nature) and size 5-6 pants.

Thursday, January 19, 2012, 6:05 PM

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the perfect body type

So most say that proportion is key... not too fat, not too skinny. But what exactly qualifies as fat? I've recently lost a lot of weight, going down from a size 14 to a size 4. I've always been confident and will continue to be so, however I know that how I perceive myself has been (probably irrevocably) skewed. I can no longer tell wether or not I am normally sized. How do I tell what looks healthy?

Saturday, January 21, 2012, 10:22 AM

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as well, my BMI is in the low to medium range, being 21.6. Im 5"6 and semi athletic, being a volley ball player. I'm also, however, small chested with a larger butt and legs.

Saturday, January 21, 2012, 10:31 AM

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i think what you say about skinny people is offensive. i am skinny. i'm 5 4 and weigh only 103 pounds. i actually a lot (even a lot more than my bigger friends) but i don't gain any weight. people say bad things about me because of their preconceptions about skinny people and sometimes it makes me sad. don't judge others with just how they look because most of the time you might be wrong. my sympathies also goes to other people who eat right and exercise but also have problem losing weight. if its a genetic thing, its hard to go against your body's programming. just love what you are, take care of yourself and stay healthy. that way,.you will look and your best and feel great. you don't really need to fit society's mold of the ideal.

anyway, despite how i sometimes have low self-esteem about the disparaging comments of others, my boyfriend will always tell me that i'm beautiful.. and mean it

Sunday, February 12, 2012, 10:15 AM

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**actually eat a lot

Sunday, February 12, 2012, 10:16 AM

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your on the right dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here comes miss blunt!!!!

you guys are all little sissy's
this thread asked what guys like, all this dude is doing is saying what HE likes, it's annoying when women want the truth but when they are given the truth they get mad.. WTF????!!!! Get your shit straight girls.. p.s I'm a girl. I know I have issues keeping things bottled up because I don't wanna be like all you complicated, dramatic, hypocritical, exagerating girls,
THATS EXACTLY WHAT MEN LIKE, an hour glass body, no belly please. And guess what?? I'm a thick girl, I'm thin, but I'm thick and I don't find this offencive at ALL .. I don't have a belly, well not a big one.. a tiny little one but I guess I understand why some of you girls got offended cuz you probably have one and you feel bad about hearing the truth. Don't attack this guy for being honest, cuz this thread asked him to be honest so.. if you are offended GTFO.. simple as that yo!! :) He called his girlfriend beautiful, not Hot as hell or anything shallow like that.. he said BEAUTIFUL so he was being very sweet. So man up girls and take the truth.. If you don't like it??? DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! simple as that!!!! :D

Wednesday, February 22, 2012, 3:39 PM

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Ok well I'm 11 years old and I kinda have a big butt?? I'm not sure if that's supposed to be attractive or not!! I don't know what to do. Please help me!

Wednesday, March 07, 2012, 10:36 PM

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This thread is 'way too stupid for an 11-year-old to be reading.

Not to mention that at 11 you shouldn't worry about your butt. Get outside and have some fun -- play soccer, frisbee, capture-the-flag, go swimming -- and you'll look 100% good and be a happier person.

Thursday, March 08, 2012, 8:38 AM

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11 years old

Sweetie, at 11 I worried about my weight and I now regret spending all that time worrying. My guy friends always told me I wasn't going to be the cute one because my sister is the skinny athletic one, I'm not. I prefer baking/cooking, being with kids and reading. Point being, I am now very happy with my short but curvy size and wish I had been happy about it then too. Please spare yourself the headache. you will create a mountain out of a molehill if you worry about your butt at such a young age. I agree with the person who said you should go out and do kid stuff! I still love doing all that kid stuff, keeps you youthful. You will get a good guy someday, but wait until you are in the middle of high school...or so.

Thursday, March 08, 2012, 6:02 PM

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what body shape do guys find most attractive?

I like the mediam thin yet curvy types. They are the best kinds of friends in my experiences. Not to rude and not to inclined to treat me badly.

Saturday, April 21, 2012, 3:18 AM

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i just wanted to know why there is so much hate on girls that are skinny? i myself have an extremely fast metabolism and are much healthier than many of u people bagging on us skinnies. i always play sports and eat so frikin much! some people cannot help being skinny and may have a fast metabolism or just genetics. also all you curvy girls out there, you've copped all of this bull about being called 'fat' but how do u think it feels when u call us 'anorexic'? and by the way, anorexia is a mental illness, not a word used to describe skinny or thin people. this is a place for helpful suggestions or answers not personal kindly please leave out the the hate. p.s just cause ur skinny doesnt mean u dont have curves. i have been quite offended when classmates had assumed i didnt have curves just because im thin. so if u urself have been subjected to stereotypes dont u think it hurts other peoples feelings? and by the way, "if you have sex, u will get pregnant and u will die."

Wednesday, July 25, 2012, 4:02 AM

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I have always had body issues, but honestly I know I'm fairly average sized. Not super thin but more hour-glass. 34c, 27" waist and a very round rear. I am 5'3 and weigh 135. But I dress for my body type:-) I have always been luck to have a flat tummy, but I don't have long lovely legs, so you won't catch me strutting around in hot pants! I accentuate my waist, as well as my chest and back side (in a way that is modest enough to not offend others, yet sassy enough for my husband to steal a butt grab in the grocery store!). I try to watch what i eat, as I don't work out as much as I should. I'm not a tiny super model, but I feel good about myself because I am a happy person and the people in my life love me not because of my physical appearance but because of my heart.

Sunday, August 05, 2012, 11:06 PM

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attractiveness in women

If, a women has a LARGE bottom (AND, THIGHS!) I find that, EXTREMELY, attractive. I like something to grab hold of! It does NOT ma\tter that she might NOT be the most beautiful (FACIALLY).

I find skinny women, VERY, unattractive - you might as well be screwing a rake!

Give me a 'WELL-PACKED,' (REAL) women, EVERYTIME!

Wednesday, April 09, 2014, 1:28 PM

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Curvy--Yes, Skinny- No

i like women with big butt and curvy proportions....women that are a bit on the bulky side...i feel that such women are very benign and sensible naturewise , i dnt knw but i dont get along well with the skinny ones. I myself am a thin and tall guy, average looking. I dont hv anything against with the normal toned and skinny ones but just that I dont feel attracted towards them...i dont knw why....i tried to hold on my tongue to say the word "plus size"...because I think that is a derogatory word...
popularized by stupid clothing companies..

Monday, August 25, 2014, 1:32 AM

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They always always always love curves. the magazines would make you think they like skinny but they never do.

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