EMAIL THREAD what body shape do guys find most attractive? Hey guys, what do you think is most attractive for a woman? to have a toned body with definition, top heavy, bottom heavy, curvy? Tue. Jan 24, 9:44am

It all depends on the guy in question .... but most men I know like a bit of meat on the bones! My brother in law even swears by bigger women, his wife is about 30 pounds overweight and she doesn't mind one bit at all - he loves her just the way she is!!!! Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:00 AM

being a guy i love a lil meat. i dont go for the nicole richie types i want some meat where u ask? i would say in the bottom area. but then again being a guy i want a woman w a nice butt and nice chest , but if i were to have a choice i would say butt Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:06 AM

It's rare that I find a skinny girl attractive. Love curves and confidence. Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:12 AM

My husband told me he loves a women with curves and meat on her bones. He finds the skinny ones unattractive. Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:33 AM

My bf is of the feeling that any girl that lets him touch her is attractive...ok, not the most mature, but also sort of encouraging on a body-image front. Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:55 AM

Well My boyfriend likes girls who have low body fat (15% is what he seems to like best) but it doesn't matter how muscular or lean they are, though there's a point at which they can be too skinny. He doesn't mind a "meaty" girl as long as she isn't "fat". Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:58 AM

body type One question, why do we care? I understand that we like guys and want them to like us, but I don't care what they think is atractive. I care if they love me for me. I am not working out and getting in shape for any man or for the hope of a man, I am doing this for me! Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 12:35 PM

Amen! Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 12:59 PM

I think it's a fundamental human quality to care what someone you want to be with thinks of your appearance. I imagine that it would be impossible to not care what anyone thinks. Aesthetics are as appreciated as anything else. Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:04 PM

I'm not thin- trying to get back to just being curvy as opposed to "well padded"- but I've recently been turned down because my butt is too little- the hottie likes girls with ALOT of junk in the trunk. Ironically he would have liked me more before I lost the 30 lbs- but no, he's not worth the added weight. My boy toy on the other hand never once noticed or commented on the 30lbs I lost til I was at his place in blue jeans and bent over to put on my boots. I was like- you see me naked, but notice once I'm in blue jeans??? (which means I managed to pick him up when I was a sz 16) Most guys won't notice a 10lb dif in their women, unless their really shallow. Confidence will easily get you past an extra 20-30, possibly even 40lbs. And then there are guys out there who like the stick figure women... it's all a matter of preference. The guys who are worth it, will prefer the person you are to the wieght you are, and judge you by you personality, not your dress size. Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:09 PM

I really don't think there's any particular body type that men prefer just as I know most women vary wildly in the type of male physique they find attractive. However at the end of the day you have to enjoy their company, mind and spirit or you will not be able to look at this person and be attracted to them in any way. Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:24 PM

The best attraction advice? There's butter for every bread there's a seat for every ass Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 1:58 PM

You can very well be attracted to someone based on mind, spirit and heart and also be unattracted to their looks, but which do you prefer? Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 2:54 PM

well - both obviously! :-) Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 5:33 PM

LOL-- I thought all guys wanted was a warm body! :-) Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 10:28 PM

I'm a massage therapist and deal with a ridiculous number of naked men who flirt a lot and try to grope or persuade me to do more than a massage. I'd say that 10% find my extra 60 lbs revolting, 60% are okay with it, and 30% think my shape is very attractive. Whenever they make a move on me, I tell them that they can do the normal thing and ask me out, but only one guy in nearly 3 years actually called me up and asked me out...so I'd say that in private, men don't discriminate much but in public, they wouldn't be caught dead with a beast like me on their arm for fear of ridicule. I live in NYC - tough town. KatieMc80 Spotlight Rome Tuesday, January 24, 2006, 11:29 PM

I live in NYC and I think it depends where your extra 60 are, and what culture your men are from. Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern, and Latino men generally prefer a woman with more meat than less, especially if she doesn't store a lot of the extra in her belly. Any other men want to state their preference? This thread is great! Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 8:37 AM

KatieMc80, that's quite an indictment of some men! And I totally agree with you. In fact, I will go further: I have met men who are in private VERY discriminating about the things we know should matter -- you know, they like intelligence, good personality, sound ethics, etc. But this is totally trumped by the imperative to have a thin blonde on their arm, even if she is a bad person or has lots of problems. Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 9:10 AM

To KatieMc80 Girl - I live in Boston and even at my heaviest, NYC was a safe haven for me. I feel like NYC men are into much more variety - shapes, sizes, colors - than men in stuffy ol' Boston. Try being the fat girl in this old blue blood town - Ick! Oh, do I miss my NYC men. Think I better come for a visit next weekend... Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 9:32 AM

This whole thread seems destructive. After all, we can't choose what type of body we have, once we loose weight. Let's focus on something positive instead of what guys want to see. Please ladies! Thursday, January 26, 2006, 4:28 AM

I think we've figured out, though, that no matter what your shape, there is a guy out there who loves it! Besides, has anyone ever been with a guy and not been able to see a single flaw? Doubtful. But, has everyone here been with a guy who they think is hot? Probably everyone! So stop worrying about imperfections! Thursday, January 26, 2006, 10:30 AM

As a guy, let me say that there is an incredible amount of variety in what I like, and what other guys like. Same as it is for women. It's not as simple as fashion magazines would have everyone believe (and I personally don't find most models or tv stars all that attractive -- they look too unreal). Best advice, I think, is work towards feeling more attractive, a body that you like -- personality, self-confidence, and the way you dress go a long, long way. Thursday, January 26, 2006, 11:57 AM

I just think it's very interesting that the subject of exercise of different kinds and amounts, and how it affects both your appearance and attitudes people might have about you, hasn't even been mentioned in this thread (unless I overlooked something). Is that because nobody thinks it matters much? Thursday, January 26, 2006, 12:09 PM

I can say one thing to the exercise comment... I was down on myself once with my boyfriend. I was upset with some attention I had been getting, and said what my mother said to me, "I don't want to be beautiful, but beauty is a curse. You grow to rely on it and flees from you." I told him it's just genetics. Then he grabbed my butt, and says, oh, so this you got from your mom, and it has nothing to do with you biking for 5 hours a week and keeping fit? (We were not in public) So... I thought about it. No, I am not in perfect shape, but it's good to know that through that, you can tell muscles are there beneath it all, and that you truly do deserve. Hooray for working out! Thursday, January 26, 2006, 3:45 PM

Believe it or not I think the majority of men out there prefer women who are in shape, no particular size, but porportionate, symmetrical, and overall attractive. Not a whole lot different than what women prefer! Sunday, January 29, 2006, 7:50 PM

exercise i was 20 stone and a size 20 plus,till i lost weight rapidly for no reason quite a few pounds which took me down to 12 stone and a size 12/14.. i exercise like mad but i must admitt i was more comfortable and confident with my body when i was bigger.. no matter how much i exercise do sit ups etc jogging i still feel like i look worse . Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 5:59 AM

The actual truth ain't pretty... okay, you asked for it: I am a guy so I will tell you absolutely out of my 30 + year of experience being and hangin out with one million guys that the majority of modern American guys would actually prefer the Jessica Biel body type - a long, lean, fit, proportioned (yet curvaceuous too in a way) type and that is final. Everyone already knows this instictively and anyone who says otherwise is just blowing smoke. (Which is what I have heard a lot in this thread) now WHY is it constructive to say something like that in a post like this you ask ? ? Because whatever shape you are in (or shape that you are) your man or the men out there WILL find you more attractive if you eat healthy and bust your butt at the gym and get more lean and fit. Half of the reason that most people are in the gym (let's be honest) is to have a pleasing response when people look at them - because like it or not people can tell whether you take care of yourself by how you look and taking care of yourself makes you seem (at least at first glance) like a balanced and healthy person. No matter what shape you are or shape you are in - busting your butt in the gym and eating a reasonable amount of healthy foods does pay off in the exact way you would suspect - when people look at you they will be more impressed if you look healthy. Shallow - sure. But still not all bad - and there it is - the unvarnished truth. Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 8:50 AM

PP I'm a woman and I don't find your opinion offensive at all, I find it very helpful that someone is willing to be upfront. Yes, my husband loves me and I know in my heart that he would never leave me or not love me because of my weight. That being said, I don't delude myself into thinking that he wouldn't love it if I was thinner and fitter. Of course he would! And that's not just a man thing! I love him to death but man he'd be so much hotter without the giant belly. People may like all different body types, but no one looks at a healthy, fit person (I'm not talking anorexic) and says ICK. It's great that we all have such accepting, loving partners but don't think for one minute that they wouldn't poof! you into being a hot hardbody if they could!!! Hell, I'd do it to myself if I could!!! :) Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 9:11 AM

What a man likes... I read a magazine called "Psychology Today" and in it, was an article on exactly what we're talking about here. I can't remember the exact article name, but basically, it was "What makes a woman most attractive"--based on men's psychology. I'll try to remember most of them... 1. Small waist (when you divide your waist into your hip measurement, a .8 or less is most attractive). This lets a man know that you are in good health (and can carry their babies successfully). 2. Blonde hair. This lets a man know that you are probably young because younger women have a lot more blonde hair than older women (in nature, of course). But dying your hair blonde has the same effect. (lets a man know that you are young enough to carry their babies). 3. Long, healthy hair. This lets a man know how many years you have been in good health (and can carry their babies successfully). 4. Large breasts. This means a large amount of estrogen in the body. It's guessed that larger breasts are easier to see, thus giving men an easier estimate of your age (how high and low they are on the body). (again, age. You are young enough to carry their babies). 5. Smiling with teeth. This is an invitation and you are also showing off your good health. 6. Eye contact. Another invitation. 7. Confidence. 8. How other people perceive you. How many friends you have. (How much support you have once you have their babies). 9. A high voice. Higher voices mean more estrogen in the body (better grounds for successfully carrying babies). ...this is all that I can remember, and I think I'm actually mixing two different articles, so don't quote me. Very interesting stuff. Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 11:53 AM

I remember two more... 10. A symmetrical face. (lets a man know you have good genes). 11. Your smell. (lets a man know if your genes will mix well with his to have quality offspring). Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 11:57 AM

Rarely do guys really go for the ultra skinnie havent eaten in days girls...but the ones that do are usually jerks...or have problems with their own self esteem so they have to make up for it by dating someone who has worse self esteem than them.... Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 12:10 PM

I'd assume that the women in movies and porn and models in other magazines that men ogle would be a good indication of the type of women men generally find attractive. So thin, big boobs, high cheek bones. Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 1:30 PM

I hope your not a man...because if you are...you know nothing about them Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 2:07 PM

Subject Varies I am a 22 year old female, I have a 34 C chest, a big booty, small waist, dark hair w highlights, dancers legs, dark skin, weigh 119 (yay!!), I am 5'5, I have a very high voice, green eyes, I am married to a wonderful man, he thinks I am it and I feel the same way about him...moral of this story some guys still do not find me attractive. It just VARIES...shoot, even I dont think I am attractive. The good thing is that I have a wonderful gorgeous man who thinks I am. Every guy is different, and NO not all men go for the playboy model type of girl..they may find them attractive or sexy, but only a handful of guys would want to take a woman like that to meet his family, or buy her a 2 carat rock and tell her he loves her. It literally just depends on the man and the mans upbringing. Hope this helped! Wednesday, April 30, 2008, 1:00 PM

I think there are different men My guy likes em' thick (thank God), but would probably agree with the post about liking women that let him touch them!!! Pretty funny. In comparison, I have a 26 year old son that gravitates towards pretty round girls. I think some men fixate on a body part and are willing to let other areas slide. Luscious breasts and nice butt for an example. Consistently , the bigger girls that I he has brought home, exude a certain kinda of confidence and sexuality. I think as we continue this journey to health, we should really get to love those parts of our body that are beautiful..I would like to be thinner, and I am working on it. In the meantime...free drinks in the Airport Bar!!! Wednesday, April 30, 2008, 8:24 PM

my boyfriend likes chubby girls. Thursday, May 01, 2008, 12:47 AM

But would he turn down Jessica Alba (unpregnant) if she threw herself at him? Doubtful. Thursday, May 01, 2008, 2:40 PM

hey, I have guy buddies who wouldn't turn down any non-ugly women, size 4-20. However, I've known a few guys who may not turn Ms. Alba down, but they would like the bragging rights more than the body. Thursday, May 01, 2008, 3:23 PM

Agreed, 2:40. Just because a guy says he likes chubby women doesn't mean he doesn't also like (or prefer) your stereotypical hot woman, aka Jessica Alba. Thursday, May 01, 2008, 4:24 PM

Whats up with the talk about Jessica Alba- the guy liked Jessica Biel- much better looker Friday, May 02, 2008, 10:22 PM

I'm not sure what a lot of guys think but my boyfriend likes me a little thicker. I was really skinny when we met, about 45 pounds lighter than I am ri ght now and he clearly states that he does not want me that skinny again. And he can never shut up about my as*. So, I agree that thicker with just a little meat on the bones is better Friday, May 02, 2008, 11:34 PM

guy here. My wife is doing Peertrainer, and I've signed up for my own account, even though my BMI is in the normal-to-low range. She's about 10 lbs overweight, and I had no idea that she would have that classification. I say that I like women with hips and curves, but in reality, any confident woman who takes care of herself (does her hair, wears flattering clothes, takes care of her skin) is attractive. Thin and thick women most certainly included! A turn-off for me is when my wife gets fussy about her weight in front of me. I don't obsess over what she considers flaws, and her attitude is much more frustrating than her love handles. I guess my point in this ramble is that women need to stop self-sabotaging themselves. Sure, a proportionate weight is attractive, but if you're not quite there yet and working towards it, cut yourself some slack. Saturday, May 03, 2008, 8:16 AM

Eating too little and being too skinny, eating too much and being excessively over weight, working out too much and obsessing over self image, wearing way too revealing clothes, or no effort/care at all to your self image, ALL give off bad messages to the opposite and same sex. I think most people are attracted to healthy and are attracted to people that radiate positive energy, and people that show moderation (in all things) and some self control. If you don't win a guy over with your mind and personality then you'll never have him b/c boobs and butts are everywhere. And if you love yourself, then why wouldn't he? Tuesday, May 06, 2008, 5:14 PM

i prefer curvy women big boobs and big butts always look better than girls that are fit. Thursday, October 29, 2009, 7:11 AM

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