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My husband caught me eating a pop tart this morning.

I have a pop tart maybe once in 5 years and I really wanted one this morning. I brought them home and hid them in my purse, sneaking a bite here and there and he picked up my purse when i wasn't looking and found them. Why do I feel like I have to hide a pop tart! It's not like I eat them every day. He thinks one pop tart will put 3 pounds on me right away. I'm frustrated, I ended up not even eating the whole thing.

Wed. Jan 25, 9:41am

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This sounds a tad one-sided. I'd like to hear his side of the story!!

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 9:51 AM

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My guess is that he was upset b/c you were hiding it - i.e. he thinks, "what else is she hiding?" I suggest, tonight, you apologize for hiding it from him, and promise him that you're not hiding anything else, whether it's food or something bigger (and follow through on this promise!)

As for why you're hiding it, that's easy: you're ashamed to be eating a pop tart. Why you're ashamed, I'm not sure. If I remember correctly, a pop tart has around 200 calories. If you want to eat one, just cut 200 calories out of the rest of your day. On occasion, that really won't hurt you. And, if you know you're doing it consciously, there's nothing to be ashamed of! If you eat a pop tart as an early evening or late evening snack, then just eat a bunch of vegetables and, say, half a chicken breast or a few shrimp, cooked w/ a little soy sauce or something for dinner. That dinner is so low-cal that an extra 200 calories won't hurt.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 9:56 AM

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I guess I'm more concerned as to why your husband would be so upset. It sounds like a control issue. No wonder you want to sneak it.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 11:27 AM

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I agree with the poster who said the original post is a bit one sided but I also agree with the other posters who say if you want a pop tart have one but fit it into your calories for the day.

I suspect though that if you were sneaking bites throughout the day you probably LOOKED suspicious...if he knows you're trying to lose weight he was probably trying to figure out what was going on and help (in a misguided attempt...he shouldn't have gone into your purse without permission).

P.S. I also get the occasional pop tart craving and I have NO idea why because usually I find them sickly sweet.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 12:06 PM

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While it's nice that your husband is supporting your healthy eating efforts, it's not his job to police it. In the end, it's only your buisness and straying from a "healthy" diet everyone once in a while IS healthy.

Food shouldn't be about guilt. It should be about listening to your body.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 12:10 PM

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I agree! As soon as you feel strong enough to eat "forbidden" foods out in the open, the sooner you'll be totally healthy in mind and body. I can eat out in the open with most fatty or sugary things, but I still eat chips solo, even if EVERYONE in the known world knows I have a cheat day. I just can't let go of eating them alone. Something for us to work on.
I can relate to your husband doing that to you, my BF did that to me a couple of times. I finally stopped asking him to "help" me and just do my own thing. He happily obliged, since he didn't have to be the bad guy anymore.
Good luck, and go ahead and eat the pop tart once in a while! :)

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 6:22 PM

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it's your weight, not his. Let him be mad!! It's your body and you control what goes into it. Obviously you were feeling guilty about eating a poptart-why? Because of your standards or his?

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 6:39 PM

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I am curious as to why your husband would be so upset. Is he upset that you were hiding it or was he upset because he thought you shouldn't be eating it? Either way it is not his place to be mad at you and why is he going into your purse? My hubby would never think of doing that unless he asked and even then he would likely bring me my purse. Is he a control freak? If he is maybe you were hiding it because of him. You shouldn't feel ashamed for eating a pop tart.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006, 8:34 PM

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it sounds as if you are really hiding it from yourself, not from your husband. perhaps thinking, if he doesn't see it, the snack doesn't count? a lot of us have been food sneakers-it's not easy to overcome. Just be honest with him and tell him that you do have a problem. Sometimes just opening up about it may make you think twice about what you are going to do. It's okay to have a poptart, it's not okay to hide them in your purse.

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 1:50 PM

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I'd like to "weigh-in" on this subject. I can completely relate to what you feel because as a food-hider, I have had the same thing happen to me. I am notorious for hiding food - from my husband, my kids, my parents when I lived at home and even sometimes myself. Then, I eat it and I have the guilts, or someone says something and the guilt is amplified.

I am now on Weight Watchers and am very careful about what I eat. My husband is also overweight and diabetic, so he also has to be careful about what he eats. The problem is that now that I am gung-ho on a program, I feel the need to police the choices that not only I, but he, makes. Perhaps your husband doesn't struggle with his weight, but it does work both ways.

Maybe you have a similar situation - your husband cares about you, wants to see you succeed in losing weight and mentioned it to you out of concern (I am not even going to address him getting into your purse). I know that that is why, in the past, my mom or dad or grandma had made comments to me when they discovered (in whatever manner - my mom was famous for going through the garbage for wrappers) that I was eating more than what I should have or something that was bad for me. I resented the comments, but I always knew that they meant well. I think that although his approach may have been slightly odd, he does have your best interest at heart. I agree with the poster who said to apologize for hiding it from him, but let him know that you ARE trying and one deliciously nasty poptart isn't going to make or break your diet (as they are delightful every now and then).

Good luck - it's hard to get past hiding food, but it is liberating once you realize that nothing is truly off limits (and therefore should be hidden), we just have to put limits on the things that are more detrimental than others.

Thursday, January 26, 2006, 4:22 PM

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