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I went to Kickboxing and Yoga for the first time last night ( :( story)

I was really proud of myself for trying and giving it my all. I am very overweight and in my prime I LOVED kickboxing and yoga and I want to get back to that level of fitness. Well, during the 5 minute break between classes I was looking a round and smiling and overheard (and saw) the woman about 3 or 4 people away look at her friend and point at me saying "I would kill myself if I ever looked like her." Her friend laughed and said "Yeah did you see her trying so hard... it was so sad."

I went through 40 minutes of the hour long yoga class before leaving early. I really let it get to me, and I know I shouldn't have, but I wasn't embarrassed to be the fattest girls in the room until they literally pointed and laughed at me :(

Tue. Mar 4, 1:05pm

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See...I would have then said.."I know isn't it just sad". Just to make them feel uncomfortable .... F*ck those people (sorry for the bad language). People like that deserve to be hit by a bus!

You know what. I say more power to you. I love seeing people going to the gym and actually giving it! That's why you're work out. Just keep on working hard and stay focused! One day karma will come right back and bite them in the a*s!

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 1:12 PM

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Those people don't matter. Keep focused on doing good things for yourself. It's not about them, it's about you and your health and happiness. You do not need their approval. You are strong! Let it roll right off your back.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 1:13 PM

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You should say something to the management or the class instructor. Those b*tches should not be allowed in group classes. I belong to a YMCA where they are very responsive to anyone who makes another member feel uncomfortable.

What does bother me is two 100+ lb. overweight people sitting on the stationary bikes not even pedalling, just watching the built in TV, and then later sitting on the couch reading magazines. Give me a break.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 1:30 PM

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Just Remember...

Those people are not the majority, those two ladies are insicure and the rest of the class does NOT feel that way.

I attend classes a few times a week and I am a pretty fit person. When i see overweight people come to class i want to go over and congratulate them because i think one of the hardest things you can do is show up (i dont do that by the way, i think it might be awkward). But I think it is awesome to see overweight people at the gym. DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED!!! You should feel sorry for those ladies because they will probably always be that insicure. You on the other hand, should keep on going to those classes, because you can always improve your health.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 1:48 PM

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So sorry you felt bad and uncomfortable (been there is really horrible). Is there anything we can do here as part of your community to help you go back to class?

It is great to go to things you know you enjoy as a way of engaging in life again. Do you have any really great supportive flesh and blood friends who can go to class with you? That helps sometimes. One of my biggest supporters was a highly fit super athlete, so don't count people like that out. She basically blew EVERYONE out of the water.

You can check in here too after you go back.

I would say something to the management too if the bad behavior continues. It is bigotry and not in the best interest interest of the gym to have folks like that around. If they did it to you, you can bet they have done it to others.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 1:50 PM

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"I would kill myself if I ever sounded as snarky and petty as you."

(would be my response)

I am normally all in favor of handling these folks myself or ignoring them, but look how they ruined your class and consider that you are not the first person that they've probably done this to. And considering the way they sounded if it wasn't you or your weight, it would have been someone's unflattering hairdo, bad skin, whatever (people don't limit themselves). Talk to the instructor both for your own sake and that of other girls who would like a positive exercise experience. They are creating a hostile environment, it's not ok, and no instructor should allow that to continue.

And happy exercising! Don't let them get you down (although they would have gotten me down) - but keep on going! Living well is the best revenge, so live well. :-)

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 1:59 PM

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for the OP

honey i'm SO SORRY you experienced that. some people might look decent on the outside but be DISGUSTING on the inside. I bet you aren't even that overweight or how could you do all that? Do you mind me asking what is your height and weight? Lets try to put it in perspective.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 2:23 PM

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I agree that maybe you should talk to the is a form of harassment. They may be able to help....I bet if they've done it to you, they've done it to other people too. Sometimes they have a suggestion box if you feel uncomfortable doing this...if you know their names (which often doesn't happen), you could always do it that way too.

Good luck, and get back to the course.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 3:03 PM

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OP here

I am currently 5'7" AND 270lbs. I know I am over weight, I am not in denile. I don't wear anything reveling and I try to "tie the girls down"... I have just never actually heard people mocking me. It took me right out of my good mood. I am trying so hard to get back in shape, so i will be going back, I just now feel self conscience about it.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 4:36 PM

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When I was over 210 lbs and slogging my guts out in a hard class for the first time, I actually had the very skinny, fit classmates AND the instructor compliment me on keeping up (even much smaller and fitter, I can still say honestly that it was a hard-ass class, much like kickboxing). They even said that they hoped I'd become a regular in the class. I never in a million years would have expected such a supportive experience.

The tide really is changing about how regular-size folks treat us bigger ones, especially when they see us trying to do something about it. I live in a city, where even the super-insecure have better things to focus on than someone else's chub. Your experience calls to mind the upper-middle 'burbs I grew up in, and it says more about the petty bitches than it does about you.

Keep going to class.
Mentally rehearse how you want to respond in situations like that. I suggest "owning it", it totally diffuses the situation and puts them in their place.
Do not let this make one iota of difference in your behavior or else they win.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008, 5:14 PM

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