CommunityBrowse groupsBlogEtiquetteInvite Your friendsSuccess Stories

Lounge
Community 


Help! I don't want to go to my friends wedding

Yes, I know it's not about me but I don't want to go. I don't want to see all these people I used to know. I wasn't invited with a date. I really don't want to go but it's a good friend from college. Will I ruin the friendship forever if I don't go?

Tue. Mar 11, 12:46pm

Add comment  
Depends on (a) how big a wedding it is, and (b) whether she asked you to be IN the wedding. If she's asked you to be in it, you need to go and help her out. If not, well, I've been to a few weddings so large that I doubt the bride even noticed who was and wasn't there.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008, 1:42 PM

Add comment
Why not?

Are you a little sad that it is not you getting married? Have you gained alot of weght and you do not want your old friends to see you?

What if the shoe was on the other foot; how would you feel if your "friend" did not come to your wedding?

You never know, you could end up meeting the love of your life there.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008, 2:26 PM

Add comment
I doubt you'll ruin the friendship forever, but you may need to put more effort into it.

A couple girls I used to work with didn't come to my wedding b/c I didn't invite them "plus guest." One got a serious boyfriend between when the invites went to the calligrapher and when the wedding was, but the extra person (whom I didn't know) wasn't invited.

I've seen both of them once since then, at a mutual friend's party. That was over a year and a half ago. That means, to me, that they didn't really want to be friends anyway.

If they had just said "no, I can't come," and a month after the wedding had said "let's go get dinner, coffee, a movie, whatever," we'd still be friends.

So, no, you won't ruin the friendship, but just be sure to actively work on the friendship afterwards.

If you don't like the people who will be at the wedding, and it's a fairly big wedding, then don't go; it's not worth the stress, etc. And the bride will probably only get to spend 5-10 minutes with you all night anyway. I'm sure she'd rather spend time with you than her new husband's great-aunt-twice-removed, but, she's probably not going to get that choice!!

If the friendship is important to you, send a nice present, RSVP "no" on time, and make plans to get together after the wedding/honeymoon havoc is over.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008, 3:24 PM

Add comment

Next: Click Here For Recipes That Help You Lose Weight
New: The PEERtrainer Cheat System
The PEERtrainer Cheat System is a new, simple to follow system for eating. The objective is to help guide you towards a way of eating that will make it easier to lose weight, give you more energy and help you feel better. It is free, easy to follow, and a little unusual and controversial. Most of all it is working. This link will take you to a blog post where you can download a FREE copy of the Cheat System Diet Cookbook! The Cheat System has also been turned into a major book to be published May 6th, 2014. According to Srini Pillay, MD, Harvard Medical School: "It works in a real way with how human psychology works...I love that it relates closely to how the brain likes to function... without crazy effort and with significant short-term gains."
Here is a preview of the cover:

Cheatcover

You can get started on the system for free by clicking on this banner:

peertrainer cheat system

"Gives you the template to lose weight without sending your hormones in a disastrous death spiral."

-Sara Gottfried, MD, NY Times Best Selling Author

"The Cheat System Diet is brilliant! Jackie Wicks understands how the brain works, and how habits are developed in the real world."

--Steven Masley, MD, Assistant Professor University South Florida

 






Explore Related Articles
Weight Loss Motivation   Sustainable Weight Loss
Weight Lifting    Hypnosis and Weight Loss
Emotional Eating   Help Losing Weight
Free Weight Loss Program   Weight Watchers Points  NutriSystem
How To Change Anything

weight loss coaching


New Services and Offerings From PEERtrainer:

1) How To Achieve Sustainable Weight Loss This is a new 12 week program that helps you solve the mental blockages that are prevent many from sustainable weight loss. The most interesting thing about the program is what participants are saying and you can click on the link to read them.

2) Tip Of The Day Weight Loss Coaching Program-- This is a daily email program that helps to reinforce fundamentals as well as gives you practical tips each day. We are getting GREAT feedback from subscribers.

3) What Are Your Odds Of Losing Weight?-- Take the PEERtrainer Coaching Quiz Now!

4) Tip Of The Day Blog-- We update this each day with responses to specific questions from our coaching subscribers and customer.

5) New Diet and Weight Loss Content-- We have launched a new diet section that organizes the growing amount of content on the site. When you click in the most important areas are highlighted.









Related Content:

How To Lose Weight- The Basics
Weight Watchers Points System
The Fat Smash Diet
The Eat To Live Diet
The Beck Diet Solution
How To Get The Motivation To Lose Weight

 

How To Be Successful Using PEERtrainer

How To Burn Fat
Online Weight Loss Support- How It Works
Does Green Tea Help You Lose Weight?
Tips On Using PEERtrainer
Visit The PEERtrainer Community
Diet and Fitness Resources

Fitness

Weight Watchers Meetings
Learning To Inspire Others: You Already Are
Writing Down Your Daily Workouts
Spending Money On A Personal Trainer?
How I Became A Marathon Runner

 

Preventive Health

How To Prevent Injuries During Your Workout
Flu Season: Should You Take The Flu Shot?
Are You Really Ready To Start PEERtrainer?
Super Foods That Can Boost Your Energy
Reversing Disease Through Nutrition

New Diet and Fitness Articles:

Weight Watchers Points Plus
How To Adjust Your Body To Exercise
New: Weight Watchers Momentum Program
New: PEERtrainer Blog Archive
Review Of The New Weight Watchers Momentum Program
 

Weight Loss Motivation by Joshua Wayne:

Why Simple Goal Setting Is Not Enough
How To Delay Short Term Gratification
How To Stay Motivated
How To Exercise With A Busy Schedule

Real World Nutrition and Fitness Questions

Can Weight Lifting Help You Lose Weight?
Are Protein Drinks Safe?
Nutrition As Medicine?
 

Everyday Weight Loss Tips

How To Eat Healthy At A Party
How To Eat Out And Still Lose Weight
The Three Bite Rule
Tips On How To Stop A Binge






PEERtrainer Is A Free and Powerful Online System For
Weight Loss Support

Click Here To Learn More and Join!