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DF wants to go into the Army

And actually WANTS to go to Iraq. I have always wanted him to buckle down and get in sape and I am even okay with him going in the Army but I am really not comfortable with him going half way around the world and fighting in a war. It scares me.

Sat. Mar 29, 7:42pm

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I just need to say at this point God Bless them and any other American who takes on this incredible and heroic mission I pray for all of our miliatry daily and yet I empathisize w/ you. It is an incredible sacrafice on many families to send their loved ones half way around the world.

Saturday, March 29, 2008, 7:59 PM

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DF= Dear Fiance

Saturday, March 29, 2008, 8:04 PM

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Words of wisdom

Hey OP,
I do think it's admirable that your fiance wants to serve. Just be sure you understand some important info:
1. He should buy body amor and night-vision goggles (several pair) before going. The military is overstretched and a lot of this stuff that's supposed to be standard-issue is not getting to the soldiers. Or, they get one pair of goggles and then they fall and crack and that's it. Both are important to his survival, so stock up.
2. Be prepared to have him do two, three, and up to five tours of duty in Iraq. Right now the tours are a little over a year and a half. That means he has to be willing to have his total investment in Iraq be between 3 and 7 years there.
3. IED's, or improvised explosive devices, are the biggest threat there still. Most humvees are not armored. That means that his rate of injury or death is a lot higher. Soldiers there are using aluminum and steel that they take from abadoned cars to cover the sides of the humvees, but it doesn't quite do the job.
My brother died in 2005 in a roadside bomb attack. What happened was his unamored humvee hit a roadside bomb, and when the surviving soldiers were carrying his still-alive body out of the humvee, the insurgents ambushed them with gun fire and he died at the side of the road. These are realities you have to be ready for.
My other brother went to Iraq and came back. He's a captain in the Army. He's happy that he was able to help a lot of Iraqi families but it was hell there. A lot of bombings, a lot of dismembered bodies, a lot of seeing his buddies dead. It's a lot for him to handle, though he seems to be doing great so far.
So that's how I know what I know. Both my brothers are heroes as far as I'm concerned, but if your fiance is going out there make sure he has the gear he needs. It's expensive (you can order it online), so you may want to take up a family collection to make sure he leaves with it. Even before bootcamp.
My first brother didn't know this and had to order the gear from Iraq from the states. He was in heightened danger for several weeks while he didn't have the night-vision goggles he needed. It's bad enough already there without more complications.
Good luck to you and your fiance. I just wanted to give you some words of wisdom before he goes.
God bless,

Sunday, March 30, 2008, 8:16 AM

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what scares you? That he could die? That he could come home without legs? Either of those things can happen on his drive to the office in the city.

You can't be happy with him being in the army, and not happy with him going to war. That's why we have armies- to fight wars. They do other stuff, but the primary function of a military is fight.

So either start researching being a military spouse and suck it up, or break up with him and find someone who doesn't want to be in the military. It's not that hard of a question, just the follow through may be hard.

Sunday, March 30, 2008, 3:23 PM

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I just wanted to thank your family for their service and sacrifice. I come from a military family and was never in favor of this war. However I recognize the committment, dedication and loyalty of our military and their families. This war is invisible in many ways unless you've got "skin in the game". Military personnel and their families are sacrificing more than civilians can ever imagine. Thank you.

Sunday, March 30, 2008, 3:31 PM

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