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DF wants to go into the Army

And actually WANTS to go to Iraq. I have always wanted him to buckle down and get in sape and I am even okay with him going in the Army but I am really not comfortable with him going half way around the world and fighting in a war. It scares me.

Sat. Mar 29, 7:42pm

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What is "DF"?
I just need to say at this point God Bless them and any other American who takes on this incredible and heroic mission I pray for all of our miliatry daily and yet I empathisize w/ you. It is an incredible sacrafice on many families to send their loved ones half way around the world.

Saturday, March 29, 2008, 7:59 PM

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DF= Dear Fiance

Saturday, March 29, 2008, 8:04 PM

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Words of wisdom

Hey OP,
I do think it's admirable that your fiance wants to serve. Just be sure you understand some important info:
1. He should buy body amor and night-vision goggles (several pair) before going. The military is overstretched and a lot of this stuff that's supposed to be standard-issue is not getting to the soldiers. Or, they get one pair of goggles and then they fall and crack and that's it. Both are important to his survival, so stock up.
2. Be prepared to have him do two, three, and up to five tours of duty in Iraq. Right now the tours are a little over a year and a half. That means he has to be willing to have his total investment in Iraq be between 3 and 7 years there.
3. IED's, or improvised explosive devices, are the biggest threat there still. Most humvees are not armored. That means that his rate of injury or death is a lot higher. Soldiers there are using aluminum and steel that they take from abadoned cars to cover the sides of the humvees, but it doesn't quite do the job.
My brother died in 2005 in a roadside bomb attack. What happened was his unamored humvee hit a roadside bomb, and when the surviving soldiers were carrying his still-alive body out of the humvee, the insurgents ambushed them with gun fire and he died at the side of the road. These are realities you have to be ready for.
My other brother went to Iraq and came back. He's a captain in the Army. He's happy that he was able to help a lot of Iraqi families but it was hell there. A lot of bombings, a lot of dismembered bodies, a lot of seeing his buddies dead. It's a lot for him to handle, though he seems to be doing great so far.
So that's how I know what I know. Both my brothers are heroes as far as I'm concerned, but if your fiance is going out there make sure he has the gear he needs. It's expensive (you can order it online), so you may want to take up a family collection to make sure he leaves with it. Even before bootcamp.
My first brother didn't know this and had to order the gear from Iraq from the states. He was in heightened danger for several weeks while he didn't have the night-vision goggles he needed. It's bad enough already there without more complications.
Good luck to you and your fiance. I just wanted to give you some words of wisdom before he goes.
God bless,

Sunday, March 30, 2008, 8:16 AM

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what scares you? That he could die? That he could come home without legs? Either of those things can happen on his drive to the office in the city.

You can't be happy with him being in the army, and not happy with him going to war. That's why we have armies- to fight wars. They do other stuff, but the primary function of a military is fight.

So either start researching being a military spouse and suck it up, or break up with him and find someone who doesn't want to be in the military. It's not that hard of a question, just the follow through may be hard.

Sunday, March 30, 2008, 3:23 PM

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I just wanted to thank your family for their service and sacrifice. I come from a military family and was never in favor of this war. However I recognize the committment, dedication and loyalty of our military and their families. This war is invisible in many ways unless you've got "skin in the game". Military personnel and their families are sacrificing more than civilians can ever imagine. Thank you.

Sunday, March 30, 2008, 3:31 PM

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everyone who has served, is serving, is thinking about serving needs a big thank you and vote of support.


Sunday, March 30, 2008, 8:33 PM

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CJ, Even though I'm against this war, I too come from a military family and my heart goes out to you. God bless you and your brothers.

Monday, March 31, 2008, 6:45 PM

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My son is a Marine He is getting out this August. He is a enlisted man. Marines tours are 7 months by the way. He volunteered to go to Iraq in boot camp.. They didn't let him go till after he completed his training. He was a machinest.The first time He went He wasn't a machinest so he saw some action. The second time He was a machinest. He did wonderful as a Marine. He has unblievable confidence now. He Has about a years worth of college credits. They made him take a writing course. The Marines put him in charge of his shop. He is now a Corporal. When he leaves, he can attend college or get quiet a few jobs due to his military experience. It was the best thing in the world for him. I am very proud of him !

Monday, March 31, 2008, 9:27 PM

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I was in the miltary. I got out at the start of the First Bush's desert Storm. My son is 17, I just got his passport updated in case I have to stash him somewhere if another war mongerer, 100 years in Iraq type gets elected. So I am not anti-military, I am not anti-war if the cause is well determined. But using the lie of WMD's and the persuant coverup by these oil company mavericks called the currrent adminstration has led me to not believe a word they say. Therefore, my son does not go.

Tuesday, April 01, 2008, 1:47 PM

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We have no right being there, or in Afghanistan. It is not for us to decide the fate of a country, and by "us" I mean in terms of the United States, Canada, UK, France, Australia.
I can't stand to hear another innocent life has been taken because of the sickly war, that applies to allied soldiers and Iraqis, Afghans. The United States has always tried to exert its influence on the Middle East (for what else but oil).

I am sorry to hear your DF wants to go and fight in it, it is wrong for someone to risk their life for something so meaningless.

Tuesday, April 01, 2008, 2:05 PM

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