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I am a relatively muscular guy and at 185 and 6' and want to lose another 15 pounds, but I am starting to get "you are looking too skinny" comments from people, Including my wife. I am SO not too skinny...I don't want to hide what I am doing, but how do I deal with people starting to tell me I should eat more or, "You have lost enough now, you should stop" ? ?

Mon. Mar 31, 5:56pm

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i get this alot, im 110 lbs, 5/2 female, and everyone tells me im too skinny when i say im on a diet. then i try to tell me that mainly im trying to gain muscle that has turned into fat. they still kinda of judge you. i just try to not talk about losing weight and just say im trying to build muscle, its usualy gets them off my back

Monday, March 31, 2008, 7:53 PM

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Well my husband is '6 and 155. He's naturally skinny and can't gain any more weight (yes he's tried) so I definitely don't think your too skinny. I got that when I was losing weight. From my experience many people don't want you to succeed when losing weight. If you succeed then it's in their face that it can be done, if you fail then they feel okay that they can't lose weight.

Monday, March 31, 2008, 8:48 PM

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I'm 5'2, about 135 or so, and I get different responses. I've had a couple make comments about my weight while others tell me I'm skinny. Like when I've talked to my therapist about losing weight and binge eating, she'll change the subject as soon as possible....even though I say I want to create healthy "relationship" with food...ya know, like not using food to cope.

I'm no way skinny; I'm definitely a bit chunky. I've been sticking to loose tops and jackets to hide my midsection for several years now since gaining weight, and I can totally tell in my face when I look at pics of myself.

I think because more people in this country are overweight and then we have skinny celebrities, we have a skewed version of what skinny and fat is.

I, myself, just want to be fit and decrease my body fat/gain muscle. Don't see anything wrong with that.

Monday, March 31, 2008, 8:48 PM

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I think it is different for a guy...I am a female triathlete and see and hear many comments about a few guys I train w/ being to skinny...some honestly are jealous and some are right, they are too skinny .I would just maintain a healthy diet and note that on a general H&W chart you are actully in perfect range 147-187lbs for 72" male...

Monday, March 31, 2008, 8:50 PM

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Haha there are two 8:48's....but I'm the second one.

Anyway, so yeah I was going to also say my dad is 6 feet and 162 or so. He tries to gain weight the healthy way (eating whole grain bread and pouring on olive oil and such), but he can't.

I also agree that I think there are some ppl who don't want others to succeed when it comes to weight loss or any other goal.

Monday, March 31, 2008, 8:52 PM

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My husband is 5'11" and 142 pounds.. he eats healthy food and works out twice a week.. he just doesn't put on any weight..

Monday, March 31, 2008, 9:05 PM

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I think that people remember what you may have looked like, if in fact you have already lost weight, and believe that you are much thinner than you were, so of course now you are too skinny.

Monday, March 31, 2008, 11:09 PM

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I think it's all subjective....I personally like men who aren't skinny, not fat, but just have some bulk to them. one of my male friends is 5'11 and 165 and I think he looks way too thin. But that's my opinion and personal taste only. However, I think 15 lbs. might be a little excessive. Yes, some people may try to sabotage dieters, but I find most people (that you can trust anyway) are just being honest.

Tuesday, April 01, 2008, 10:44 AM

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-OP here
Thanks for all your comments, I just want to stick to my goal and am continuing to find it difficult with not just a lack of support, but seemng subversion and opposition from those closest to me - 170 is totally not unhealthy for me, what can I do to stick to it despite my family?

Tuesday, April 01, 2008, 11:04 AM

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I think you need to get your wife on board. You can just ignore the comments (and avoid the topic all together) with the rest of your fam, but that won't work with your wife. And anyway, she's supposed to be on your team, not working against your goals.

Talk to her - convince her that losing 15 more pounds isn't going to be unhealthy. And, reading waaay more in to this than I probably should - make sure she's not feeling insecure about your weight loss. Is there a deeper issue going on here that you need to work out?

Oh, and just because I'm on a rant about this - why do you care so much about the number? Your wife isn't going to know when you've lost 15 pounds or not, unless she's watching the scale when you step on it. (Who can accurately guess weight just by looking at someone? Maybe some people can get within 10 pounds...but I seriously doubt that anyone can consistently do better than that.)

I'd say focus instead on the visual, or get your % body fat tested and focus on increasing muscle and losing fat. Numbers are just numbers. What's important is to be healthy and look like you want to look.


Tuesday, April 01, 2008, 11:40 AM

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