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OT- How long after dating did you get engaged?

Sorry, this is way off topic, but after a conversation last night with my boyfriend I am curious for everyone else's perspective! We have only been dating for four months, yet at a friend's BBQ he kept introducing me as the girl he is going to marry.... atlhough he did have a few beers in him at this time. But, either way, I have to say that freaked me out! I am in my late twenties and ready to settle down, but four months just seems like way too little to know this.

How long did you date your spouse before getting engaged/married, or how long did you date before knowing you would marry them?

Sun. Apr 13, 4:03pm

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Okay, so I'm not the best example. We met young and dated 7 years before we married BUT I always thought, had we met when we were older (like the age when we married - late 20's) our 'dating' time would've been much, much shorter.

Four months? Hmmm...there's no real right or wrong, although in the early stages you're still kind of responding to the lust factor, that chemical high that only occurs in new relationships. Doesn't invalidate it, mind you - it happens to people all the time - they just know. Some will feel it in their gut much sooner than that, some much later.

Sunday, April 13, 2008, 4:55 PM

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How long after dating did you get engaged

I dont think you can put a time limit on knowing someone... we dated a year then got engaged and we are getting married in oct so we will have dated for 3 yrs before we marry. My first husband and I dated 7 yrs then married and we never saw our 2nd wedding annv. so you need to follow your heart. I knew I shouldnt have married my ex. Thats why i belive we waited so long to get married in the first place. Now the man I am with I cant see living without.

Sunday, April 13, 2008, 5:00 PM

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my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months - we knew we were each other's match after about 2 weeks - but I doubt we will get engaged before a year or two.
He's 35 and I'm 24 so I am too young to rush it and he is past the point where there is any point in rushing it.
Who cares how long you are engaged, as long as you give it some time before you are actually married. I thought I was going to marry my high school boyfriend and we were together for 2 years. Thank goodness we never flew to vegas!

Sunday, April 13, 2008, 6:11 PM

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We were friends for a couple of years before we started dating and then dated for almost 10 months before we got engaged. We knew with in a couple of months, though, that we wanted to get married. Our engagement was 8 months long. We will celebrate our 11th wedding anniversary this June.

Sunday, April 13, 2008, 6:33 PM

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We were a blind date, both separated from our first spouses about 2 years. We both knew pretty quickly that this was it. And yet we did not become engaged for 6-1/2 years. We got married 6 months later. Gun-shy, I guess.

Monday, April 14, 2008, 2:20 AM

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We met each other at an insanely busy time in our lives, never even had the chance to go on a date til I moved in with him (3 months after we met - it was supposed to be a temp situation) and I'd say right about 4 or 5 months after we met, we realized we were actually married in our hearts regardless of how little we had actually 'dated'. We got engaged 9 months after that (because the suspense was driving our families insane ;-) ) and married ~1 year after getting engaged. We probably would have married sooner, but since we were both students we needed to wait til after graduation or it would have adversely affected student aid. At that point though we couldn't have felt more married, so there was no rush to prove it with some jewelry and a piece of paper. We'll celebrate 7 years this spring.

Monday, April 14, 2008, 2:21 AM

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6 months. My mom always told me that if both don't know by 9 months, then you're not right for each other.

Monday, April 14, 2008, 7:27 AM

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My fiance and I, like one of the prior posters, met very young. We dated through junior high and high school, broke up around the first year of college, then got back together for another two years before getting engaged.

In the time we were apart, though, I dated a few guys. One of them, after two months, wanted me to move in with him, and I almost did had it not been for the distance he lived from my family. Sometimes connections need to be strengthened, other times they're strong from the start.

Monday, April 14, 2008, 8:23 AM

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We were friends for 4years, dated 4 months, engaged 3 months - still together after 5 years...

take your time - it is forever

Monday, April 14, 2008, 11:57 AM

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We're engaged and were together for five years before getting engaged but we had already bought a house together. We knew we wanted to be together within the first year. - talked about moving in together and that. But it's really different for everyone. They say the older you are the less time you need.

Monday, April 14, 2008, 12:40 PM

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