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So I have this three month Biggest Loser contest at my office and so far I am winning...


I really appreciate my wife's cooking/baking but this weeekend she really pulled out all the stops:
Saturday morning she insisted we go out to a breakfast place for "breakfast food" since we have been so stressed...
Sunday morning she made her incredible handmade giant Cinnabuns for a church event
Sunday night she had catered Buona Beef sandwiches, pasta, chicken...
and she made her astonishingly decadent four layer key lime cheesecake
I really do have incredible willpower but these are just kryptonite to me!Everything that I cannot resist !

I totally lost it and ate three Cinnabons, two pieces of cheesecake and just tons of food this weekend and gained five pounds!

If I lose the bet I am going to be so mad - what do I do in a situation like that - she KNOWS about the contest ! !

Mon. Apr 21, 10:40am

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You guys need to be on the same page. You certainly have willpower but like you said..this is sabatoge. Ask her to help you, suggest menus.

Have you asked why she went all out on the calorie front this weekend knowing how hard ou are working?

Monday, April 21, 2008, 10:51 AM

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is she trying to lose weight as well? has she been following the same diet as you? maybe she was having a "moment of weakness" and needed your support to get through it. or...
if you really feel as though she was sabotaging you, then you need to talk to her about it and get on the same page. suggesting menus is a great idea pp or maybe take the initiative and make a few meals for her - let her see how good something healthy for you can taste.

Monday, April 21, 2008, 11:01 AM

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well, to answer your questions...
I work out and eat really healthy and my wife never works out, but eats pretty healthy, she is not very overweight - just a bit...
She just loves social events and her cooking and baking is a real skill that she loves to show off and share - usually I can indulge in moderation but not with his top level of deliciousness when I am so hungry from all my working out and good eating (I have lost over thirty pounds in the last six months)...
I feel like she is not on my team here but also that it is just bad timing - I just don't know how to deal with a weekend like that ! ! GRRR.


Monday, April 21, 2008, 11:17 AM

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Well - my SO doesn't bake, but he has been an athlete all his life and doesn't have to watch what he eats at all. For the most part he prefers healthy food and we have few issues, but from time-to-time we do have the situation arise where he brings home something decadent, there's lots of it, and I can't indulge. I do think it's unreasonable for him not to be able to indulge if he can, and the first few times it really threw me off. After that we established some ground rules.

1. Don't offer me any. Put it away and don't ask if I'd like some. This is not rude and I'll thank him later even if I'm looking at it longingly.
2. Put it away where I can't reach it. If I have to dig out the step stool to get to a treat I generally think twice and don't go for it.
3. If I do decide I can afford to indulge, I take a small piece and put the rest back in its inacessible place.
4. If I'm really having issues controlling my urge to eat the treat - I ask and he hides it from me. It's just better that way.
5. The exception is that I can ask him to take a slightly bigger serving and I can have 3 small bites, which is enough for me to appreciate it and savor the flavors, but not enough to really do major damage. I can only do this once.

Now - I do understand where you wife is coming from. I adore entertaining and cooking for a crowd so I appreciate your wife's cooking prowess and her need to be social. However part of living healthy is learning to reconcile your new lifestyle choices with your current activities. I'm considered to be quite the chef myself, but I've put those skills to good use coming up with gormet healthy recipes that don't taste 'diet' (including some great desserts). Perhaps the two of you could do some brainstorming?

Regardless you need to let her know how it makes you feel when she does this and have her help you keep on the path. To be fair you are an adult with free will and don't have to partake, but she has to know that you hold her cooking in high regard and that even though she may be able to be pround of shaking your resolve, that it's not very nice. Sabotage is something we all have to learn to deal with though - next time it might not be her, so some strategies for dealing with it are definitely helpful, but it's nice to not have to deal with it in your own home.

Monday, April 21, 2008, 12:05 PM

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I can see that it's really annoying to live with someone who is dieting... so compromise. If you go out for breakfast on Saturday, there needs to be healthy food on Sunday.

It sounds like your wife is a really good cook... look at lf recipe books together. Maybe buy one or two fancy ones with pictures and then go through them together, cook together, etc.

Monday, April 21, 2008, 2:20 PM

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