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afraid to get thin????

i have come to a point in my life where i want to get to my ideal weight for looks and health .(now 5.7 240 lb) i have been on diets in the past and have always exercised dailyi am in good physical shape for my size. but in the past i sabatoge myself everytime. i finially sat down to ask myself why and it shocked me- i am afraid of what i will look like thin! i'm afraid that once i lose the fat i will look like a deflated balloon. has anyone else ever felt this way???and how do you get past the mental image.

Fri. Feb 3, 4:11pm

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I also had fears of losing the weight but not because of your reason. Mine was because the weight made me feel safe, safe from myself and men and mostly from my past. Its true that some people look not so good after losing a large amount of weight but if you lose it slowly (1-2 pounds a week)and exercise regular as you lose your skin should look okay. Really at 5'7 and 240 I don't think you look as bad as you picture yourself, we are our own worse enemies. Losing the weight you will be healthier and feel and look better.. Even though you are healthy now doesn't mean you aren't putting a big strain on your heart and over time, well you know. Just start out slow and exercise. I have lost 66 pounds and I look fine, although I see myself as I was still. Good luck, and I hope that you find lots of support.

Friday, February 03, 2006, 4:24 PM

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I know how you feel but for different reasons. I'm afraid that once I reach my goal weight I won't be able to maintain it. It's like the fear of success. I'm trying to not think that far ahead too often. Because if I can make a lifestyle change then it will all fall into place. I'm trying to set goals for myself that are not just weight loss related but health related and activity related. I don't think I'll ever look thin. But I do think I will look strong and healthy. When you lose weight it is all progressive. It's not like your balloon is going to pop overnight and noone will recognize you. :) I just have to keep telling myself to stick with it. That I'm doing it for my health and my life.

Friday, February 03, 2006, 4:33 PM

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yea but for a different reason

I'm also afraid of losing too much weight because
a) I'm afraid of jealousy from other people
b) I'm afraid I might actually look worse.
c) I'm afraid that people will think I'm anoreixc
d) I'm afraid of regaining what I lose, which is the worst feeling ever
e) I'm afraid that people might not like me anymore

Some of these feelings make no sense.
but in the end, it's what will make you the most happy.

Tuesday, February 07, 2006, 6:33 PM

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I totally agree.

When I decided to start loosing weight, I really didn't want to because:

My expensive suit wouldn't fit anymore
I didn't want to fail
I didn't want to have to maintain
I love going out to nice restaurants
I didn't want to obsess too much (I know myself)
I hated exercising
I'm still afraid I might have to have a tummy tuck due to saggie boobs/tummy.

But I weighed that against the pros:

My insurance will cost more if I don't loose weight (bcz obesity is now a pre-existing disease)
I'm going into a profession where being overweight makes you uncredible (no, not stripping)
I wanted to stop wheezing while walking (it was also the ciggies)
I want to shop in Ann Taylor, not Talbots for Women

And I decided to go for it.

Tuesday, February 07, 2006, 11:21 PM

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I totally understand this. I have been afraid of losing weight mostly because I'm afraid of not being able to maintain it. I don't want to lose it just to gain it back again. It's really hard to change lifelong habits. Food has been a good friend to me even though our relationship is only superficial and its effects are short lived. I need to find a way to look at food as nutrition and fuel rather than as a treat or comfort. And there are times when I do. When I first joined PeerTrainer, I was doing great for a few weeks, but then the holidays came and I had all sorts of excuses for not following my new habits and then "relapsed." Then I *gained* five pounds because I just gave up. Now I'm on the slow struggle back again. I wish it were easy.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006, 10:29 AM

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If you're afraid of what you might look like, look at KissMeKate's before and after pictures from her blog. They're really intimidating b/c she's lost so much and looks so good, but, she looks soooooo good! Not at all like a deflated balloon! Just like a cute girl.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006, 11:26 AM

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I so agree guys! I think about this all the time! Ive been essentially the same size all my life, and I am actually scared sometimes to the point of tears that it'll be worse when I get thin. I feel I have an awesome persaonality and I dont want people to be looking only at my body. I think we are afraid because, well I think because one day I may get up and be a different person. I just think that it wont be so bad because weight loss does happen slowly, so it can't be all that scary if its a gradual change you know? Maybe when you look at the before and after kinda shots it'll be weird, but I think we'll all be okay, if nothing else we'll be healthier and live longer being thinner, and that something I wasnt even more then looking good =D

Wednesday, February 08, 2006, 12:16 PM

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Afraid to get thin?

Wow, this thread hit me like a ton of bricks!!! This makes so much sense. Now I can name some issues that have been holding me back but, what do you do with that knowledge? How do you become unafraid?

Friday, February 22, 2008, 8:50 AM

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I had/have the same problem. When I started losing weight, I was only 20 lbs. over weight (according to the chart of weight vs. height). I was scared to death of losing, but I wanted it so badly. I think I was mostly scared of attention from men, and losing my dearest friends to jealousy. Now that I lost 20+ lbs., I realize the adjustment wasn't that bad. I have a few friends that did get jealous, but we are still friends, and I think they are getting used to me being smaller. I do have a little more attention from men, but I think that's due to a higher self-esteem. I can handle them, no problem. I, also, think I was worried about being able to maintain my weight loss and not seem like a failure to family and friends. So far, so good because I changed my life style.

I realize that eating made me feel comfortable and let me burry my problems. Now that I don't binge eat or eat to cover up my feelings, I have had to deal with the real issues-not food, but issues I didn't want to deal with. That part is over and I discovered a whole new me. I'm so glad I decided to lose the weight. I got past my fears and so can you.

Friday, February 22, 2008, 12:18 PM

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I have a huge fear of losing the weight.
I have lost a huge amount and yet have more to go but I am at the point where men start to notice me and talk to me and hit on me.
I have never had that before except the last time I got to this weight. And the last time it scared me so much I gained it all back. Plus more.
I don't konw how to get over the fear. I am fighting it every day, it is always in the back of my mind every time I leave the house.
I don't know what to do or how to deal with it. So I am taking it one day at a time and try and overcome it for today.
I even have thought of seeking a councelor but don't know how to find someone that deals with this.
When the weight has always been my protection from the outside world as well as a comfort when things go bad and now I have neither. I don't know how to do this.
Ya I am afraid. How do you know you will be safe?
You don't you just have to pray and hope.
So that is what I do.

Friday, February 22, 2008, 6:53 PM

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