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Boyfriend in prison

Does anyone have a boyfriend who is in prison or jail? Mine has been gone since june 22nd 2007. He went away when I was two months pregnant. Now our son is 3 months old and I'm doing everything on my own. Full time job, mother and college student.

Fri. May 2, 11:41pm

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I just wanted to say I commend you for raising your son and going to school and holding down a job.. keep up teh great work.. make sure you get soem time for you in between

Friday, May 02, 2008, 11:52 PM

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thank you 11:52 it gets hard sometimes but I am actually going on on the 16th, woohoo lol the first time in a month and a half. Oh well I have more energy anyway when I dont go out

Saturday, May 03, 2008, 12:43 AM

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So what did your guy do, and why are you sticking by him?

Saturday, May 03, 2008, 2:16 PM

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umm, no. I don't know anyone in prison.

Saturday, May 03, 2008, 2:19 PM

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I am curious too. Why is he in jail? Why are you sticking with him?

Saturday, May 03, 2008, 2:29 PM

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I can sympathize, my husband and I went through this 17 years ago, right after we married and had our first child. He went away 6 mos after she was born for his third DUI arrest. He was there for 7 months and it was hell. I had a full time office job and had to work nights bar tending on the weekends as well to make ends meet. In addition to this had to travel an hour each way to go visit him and bring our daughter with me to see her father as well as secure daycare for all the hours I was working. He at least wasn't in a regular "prision setting" but it was still jail. It was specifically jail for vehicular offenses, etc and it was more like a boot camp/dorm setting but jail all the same. Very tough situation when they are calling you telling you how much they miss you and how lonely they are and all you are doing is trying so hard to keep your lives together and can't take listening to how "hard" it is for them at the time. I'll give you a bit of advice though that someone gave to me. "If you make it though this, your relationship will make it through just about anything" and they were right. Here we are 17 years later, my husband never took another drink since the day he got out (shows you what taking you away from your family can do to a man) and things are great between us. I felt like giving up on him so many times and now I am so glad I didn't because the man treats me like gold and I could not have asked for a better life partner. Hand in there and good luck to both of you!

Monday, May 05, 2008, 9:39 AM

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My boyfriend is going to County 8/10

My boyfriend got his 4th DUI over a year ago and got sentenced last week. His sentence was for a year in county with work release. He got his DUI before we were together, and has changed alot since. He no longer drinks, puts his energy into our relationship, fixing up the house, and work. Everyone in his family is so proud of him for the changes he has made, and its just such a shame that this had to happen when everything was going so well. He is a wonderful person, loves me for me, is great with our dog, and is dedicated to making our lives wonderful. I am going to stand by his side 100% thru this ordeal. I know that after all is said and done, that we will be great, wonderful, and forever in love. The good thing is that he gets work release during the day, and works for the local airport, so I am able to go visit him at work in the morning and during my lunch, and then at County after work at visiting hours. So, if anyone has any advice, itd be lovely. i never had to deal with this before, it is all new to me, and I don't know what emotional obsticals to overcome. I am not naieve, I was married before, going thru the final part of my divorce now from someone who wasn't so nice to me. My ex talked down to me, called me stupid, and was very demening. I got the strength to walk out almost 2 years ago, and met my boyfriend 6 months later and fell in love with him. He is everything wonderful in a man, I can't stress that enough. The only reason he even drank that night was because some girl stood him up on a date, and he sat at the bar and drank until he gave up on her. The good thing out of that is that the girl never showed up because if she had, we might not be together today. So, I know some might judge me and think that I am just in a situation I should get out of, but if you knew how happy I am after 33 years, you all would understand. I will be staying at his house with his father, and we are hoping that after a month, his attorney will put in for a change to home confinement for the rest of his term. Pray for us, that would truly be a blessing!!! Anyway, thanks for letting me share.

Tuesday, August 05, 2008, 10:27 PM

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^^ Not to burst your bubble, but that's his 4th DUI? And you say "the only reason he drank that night"... what about the other 3 nights? One DUI arrest should scare anyone into never doing again. You can kill yourself or someone else, and there's NO excuse for it. Ever.

Wednesday, August 06, 2008, 8:56 AM

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Wow these guys are lucky to have someone stick by them through this. I was in a relationship I thought was awsome. We had a big party to celebrate getting engaged and I drank a little too much. On the way home from the club I had an accident and one of the guys in the other car got hurt really bad, lost a leg and went in a coma. I got 14 months in prison. The prison was at the other end of the state 450 miles from home. Nobody came to visit me - ever - but they accepted my collect calls. After 5 months nobody was ever home at the time I called. So I wrote letters. My girl never answered. I tried calling her again and the phone had been disconnected. After I got out I went to see her. She had moved and left no forwarding address.

FYI - I was not a real drinker (only on very special occasions like weddings, holidays and my engagement party), I never had any kind of traffic violation before this, I never did anything illegal before this, so I never got arrested for anything ever. I had a really good job and was a normal regular guy. Can't for the life of me figure out why she dumped me when I was locked up.

Wednesday, August 06, 2008, 11:13 AM

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Wow! OP That has got to be mighty hard! How are you able to handle all of your responsibilities?

Let other people's mistakes and your's be a lesson. Was this the right time for you to have a baby considering the already full plate you had with a full time job and being a college student?

Is 10:27 the OP?

I like 8:56's thinking.


Wednesday, August 06, 2008, 11:23 AM

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