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My husband is not happy with my workout schedule

Does anyone else have this problem, and if so, what did you do about it?

I recently joined a gym but my husband is not interested in joining. He knows I want to lose about 40 more pounds. Last night I was at the gym for about 2.5 hours, first eliptical, then two classes, one for weight training, 1 for yoga. I was so happy with my workout last night that I decided that every M&W night I would do that routine, cardio, weights, yoga. On T&Th I would not work out, and play the other days by ear. Well, my husband told me today he is not happy with this schedule b/c then I don't come home until almost 9pm on M&W. He doesn't want me gone that late twice a week. I don't think my schedule is unreasonable, and I wish he would be more supportive. You can't say you are supportive if that means only when it doesn't affect you. To be supportive you need to sacrifice a llittle bit.

What do you think?

Thu. Feb 23, 5:17pm

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Tell your hubby, that on Mon and Wed nights, that you ARE going to take time for yourself, and this is what I am chosing to do- workout at the gym.
Let him know that it is just 5 hours a week, and that it will make you a better person etc. and the rest of the week, I will be home and what not. But I Need this time.
I would not urge him to join you just yet, let him get use to some time alone, and maybe he can find a hobbie, or better yet, clean the house while you are gone.

Maybe help him find a hobbie, or something to ocupie his time, or even a honneydo list. But I do not think you are being unfair, But please dont give up your point, just make him understand it, and dont back down

I study Karate twice a week, and it took some time for my hubby to get use to it, but trust me they do. My hubby usaly works late or cleans the house while I am gone.

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 5:57 PM

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To the original poster - just curious, do you have kids?

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 6:10 PM

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Absolutely take that time for yourself. You are bettering your health and you said you really enjoy it. Hopefully when you explain this he will understand. You need to think about yourself as well as your husband. It is only 2 nights a week.

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 6:36 PM

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OP here. No, I do not have kids. One complaint he had was that he would be automatically stuck making dinner. I suggested we make a schedule that he would cook on M&W, I will cook on T&TH, or I could just bring home dinner on M&W. He said that was just one of the issues of me coming home late. Really he just wants me home. He doesn't have any hobbies except for playiing video games

To the first responder, I like your point that it's only 5 hours a week. That's nothing in a 168hour week.

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 7:42 PM

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Grrr to your hubby! Take time for yourself, work out, and take care of yourself! I think he will eventually realize he is being selfish, and I'll bet he notices that you have more energy, etc, to spend time with him!

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 7:46 PM

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Here is an idea, buy him a new video game, a really really hard one, and make a deal that he is only to play it while you are at the gym.

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 8:51 PM

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I have a video game playing hubby too. Make it sound like he has special time to play games while you are at the gym. The only thing that works for me going to the gym on Tue and Thur nights is setting those nights up for something easy to make for dinner. Either something he can make himself or something easy you can make when you get home.

It is important for you to continue what you have started. Make sure to let hime know how good you feel after your workout. It will make a difference in all areas of your life.

Thursday, February 23, 2006, 9:37 PM

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Myabe this sounds ridiculous - but reading these postings makes me want to never get married. He can't be home alone 2 days a week for a few hours - that sounds as high maintenence as a 5 year old!! He must have been alone at least 5 hours a week before he met you. And men that can't eat dinner unless its made for them - dear god! I'm not some crazy liberal women - and I like cooking occasionally for my significant other. But I can't imagine that a person would actually complain about you coming home late 2 nights a week. Think of all the people that are in school part time, or work really late a couple days a week, or have an intense hobby - all these things take up much more time then a few hours at the gym. Especially since in the end - it benefits him.
Sorry for the rant....

Friday, February 24, 2006, 10:13 AM

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Doesn't he have friends of his own?? Can't he invite them over and have a Halo party or something? Either make dinner ahead for him if he's totally helpless in that department, or authorize him to order out for pizza.

I do think that if you both have hectic schedules anyway, it is important to make time to be together and have fun. And you'll have to negotiate when those times are, and be just as protective of them as you are of your gym time.

Friday, February 24, 2006, 10:13 AM

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When I'm going to be out late, sometimes that morning, before I leave for work, I dump a bunch of stuff in a crockpot. Then, when my fiance gets home, he has a hot dinner waiting for him, and if he just doesn't touch it other than to serve himself, then I have a hot dinner waiting for me when I get home too! Then I don't have a cranky/hungry fiance, and our timing doesn't really matter b/c it's always hot and ready!

My new favorite: 1 cup barley, 1-2 packages of stew beef, sprinkle some beef bouillion and some onion and garlic powder, 1 package frozen stew vegetables, 1 package mushrooms, and add water until it covers the barley and meat, and some of the veggies. Put crock pot on low. First day, it'll be more like a soup; second day, more like a thick stew. Yum!

Friday, February 24, 2006, 10:15 AM

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