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your old and new paradigms.....

I will start. When I went through this exercise with Jinny the one thing I honed in on was that "I am hard on myself and others." The new paradigm that I created to replace this is "I bring out the best in people."

I am still working on this (as I write this on a Sunday when I should be playing with the kids instead of working). But I have made a concious effort to really work at reinforcing this new belief.


Sun. Jan 3, 1:24pm

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Old and New Paradigms

Thanks for the great article!

I came up with a long, long list of things to shift -- every time I thought of one, another popped into my head! Maybe one of my limiting beliefs is that I have too many paradigms to shift? But my mantra for January is I Slow It Down. So, here's my one limiting belief to shift for now:

Limiting Belief: I don't have enough time to take care of myself I use this an excuse to comfort myself in old was - with junk food, disconnection and escapism. Comforting myself in healthy ways is too hard."

New Paradigm: I am a leader at comforting myself and taking care of myself in healthy ways!

What an exciting thought! Thanks for the inspiration!!!

Sunday, January 03, 2010, 10:28 PM

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Thanks so much for these articles. Just taking the time to think about my excuses has made me more aware of my limits.

I think mine is a little more complicated. I create distractions at home with buying "bad" food because that's what my husband wants, so therefore I have temptation all around me at home. I have always wanted to teach my kids to eat healthy, but how can I when the wrong things are starring at them and me?

So, I think what I need to do is to sit down with my husband and explain to him how hard it is for me to lose weight and teach our kids healthy habits when he doesn't like healthy stuff.

I know that I am making him the cause of my weight issues and that I'm not strong enough to say no to eating the "bad" things, but how do I get past this?

Sunday, January 03, 2010, 10:51 PM

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old and new paradigms

My old paradigm-I am a worthless person. What I say or think doesn't matter anyway. If someone said hi to me in passing I would even turn my head to see if they were talking to someone else. How is that for feeling insignificant?

My new paradigm-I am a person worthy of all the blessings life has to offer. I do have plenty to offer. My opinion matters and my words are important. When i walk past someone now I smile and say hi even if they don't.

What a great exercise. It's no wonder I love this site so much. Thanks again for all you do!


Sunday, January 03, 2010, 11:03 PM

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WOW! Powerful stuff! This article REALLY resonated with me. I had an 'ah ha' moment. I have always felt that I am teetering on the edge of reaching my goals. I have felt like I am on the 'outside looking in' to where I want to be. My limiting belief is that I don't deserve to be on the inside and that I am not worthy of abundance and success.
My new paradigm is that "I am on the inside where abundance flows!"
I am looking forward to exploring this and owning this new paradigm!

Monday, January 04, 2010, 8:35 AM

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I enjoyed this article. I even gave it to a family member who is struggling with some emotional issues unrelated to weight because I htink it was a valuable tool to examine where one is and why and lose the inevitability of the future when viewed through a limiting lens.


Monday, January 04, 2010, 9:43 AM

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Can someone link the article?

Habib - your statement about being hard on yourself and others resonates with me, as does your new paradigm: bringing out the best in others. In fact, I beat myself up b/c I'm not 'that kind of person.' But, who says I can't be?! Being hard on myself and others is how I automatically think/act; bringing out the best in others will take a conscientious effort - something that will take daily attention - like everything else I want to do to improve my life :)

Monday, January 04, 2010, 10:07 AM

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Here you go!


Monday, January 04, 2010, 10:32 AM

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I want us to eat healthier meals, but sometimes I'm just too busy to put one together. Mac & cheese is quick and easy!

I make a weekly plan of healthy meals and have an ever-growing arsenal of ideas. My family and I enjoy eating healthily!

Monday, January 04, 2010, 10:37 AM

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One of many

First one that I thought about is:

Old thinking: "I am an all or none type of person." I often say this when faced by the choice of having a cookie, or other type of snack/dessert. This often leads to deprivation of things I like which in turn turns into a binger further on. May not be the same day, but it eventually happens.

New positive Paradigm: "I can have all in moderation. I have strong will power." This will help me have all things I want, as long as I can keep my portion control in check.


Monday, January 04, 2010, 1:41 PM

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I think my old paradigm is something like "I was born a lazy person and I always will be a lazy's a part of who I am, and I can't change it." It's a great cop-out for when I don't feel like doing the work of creating a better life for myself.

My new paradigm will go something like this: "I am in control of who I become. I make choices everyday that lead me in a certain direction, whether I am aware of them or not. I can and should change my trajectory because I am worth it!!"

Monday, January 04, 2010, 2:34 PM

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Thank you for the articles!

I have two that build on each other. Old: I never stick to my plans. I don't have self control.

New: I have as much self control as I want. I work for the results I want.

Monday, January 04, 2010, 3:00 PM

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I can't believe how relevent this article was to not just weight loss, but EVERYTHING in my life. I was a little surprised when I discovered my limiting paradigm, because on the surface it sounds like a positive. I am a terrible procrastinator, and I think that stems from my belief that I am intelligent, capable, whatever--basically, that I don't have to work too hard for anything, because one day I will just wake up feeling inspired and it will happen effortlessly.

Old: I could easily do [whatever--fill in the blank] if I wanted to, but there’s no hurry. I’m going to relax/have fun today, and tomorrow I’ll just jump right in and get it done.

New: I am a normal person who has to struggle every day to overcome challenges. What I am working to achieve is not easy, but it will be worth it.

Monday, January 04, 2010, 4:50 PM

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Limiting beliefs


I have so many I don't know where to start... truly eye-opening

I guess the biggest is: Although I have had successes in many areas, everything is a struggle- career, motherhood, staying fit.

The new one will be to relax, enjoy the process and let success flow naturally.

Monday, January 04, 2010, 5:12 PM

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Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Beliefs
#1 If I'm with someone, I have to compromise my plan so I don't make them uncomfortable.
Instead: Following my plan when I'm with someone, limiting what I eat and exercising self-control, is a gift I impart by modeling good choices.

#2 When I'm craving something, I have to give in because it's so painful and I want it to stop.
Instead: If I'm craving something, I can just ride it out until it passes. It always does and I can look forward to the positive results.

Tuesday, January 05, 2010, 6:49 PM

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still so relevant!

Even if this article was written 1 year ago, it is still so relevant for me! Thanks for re-sending it, Jackie!
my old limiting belief: it is too exhausting to aim for the last 5kg.
my new belief: I enjoy taking good care of my body, soul and spirit!

Friday, December 17, 2010, 3:47 AM

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