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masseurs ok with large women?

this is a question for masseurs-do you find it unpleasant to give massages to overweight women? do you find the same benefits apply after one massage for large women and small women? thanks a lot!

Thu. Apr 6, 2:21pm

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who cares what the person thinks. You are paying them to provide you a service, it is their job. Thats like asking does the mail man like your neighbours box more then another one lol..

They may have to try harder to reach the muscles,but I know a lot of massage therapists that enjoy having to go deeper. Don't worry about it, they have probably seen it all!

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 3:06 PM

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i KNOW i shouldn't care, but somehow, when i'm there, i FEEL like i should care. i guess it's my issue i need to work on, not the masseur's issue, eh?

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 3:12 PM

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I don't think you should be afraid because of your weight. We had a masseur at the place I used to work. She would come in and any size/shape were welcome. I would at least try it once and see how you feel about it. You don't have to go back again if you don't like it.

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 3:24 PM

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I spoke to one of my friends that is a maseur. She said that it would definetly depend on the individual and she suggests that you take the time to find one and express your issues via consultation prior to getting a massage.

Everyone has 'issues' when they go in for a massage. I have to ask questions before I get one as well.....

So in short you should care, what is the purpose of spending your money only to come out more tense than when you went in because you are not comfortable?

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 3:26 PM

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thanks soooo much for the feedback!! it's like a bunch of friends in my computer helping me out! this is great!!

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 3:27 PM

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From a female massage therapist

Yes, of course your gender, size, age, race, etc. isn't supposed to matter, but the OPs concerns are not unfounded. However, the only problems I had were from gay male masseurs -- I'm not sure if it was my gender or my physical imperfection that put them off.

Coming from an NYC background (I acknowledge that the industry is different elsewhere), straight male massage therapists who work independently rather than for a spa are delighted to hear from ANY female client. 90% of their enquiries come from gay men who swear blind they only want a massage but then more often than not hit on the masseur (this is how plenty of straight men treat female therapists, so it's a comment on men rather than sexual orientation). I have gotten massages from plenty of straight male professionals who clearly had no problem with the extra 80 lbs I was carrying.

If you are truly worried about rejection, consider choosing a masseur from an ethnic background that generally likes their women on the thick side. Though honestly, I deal with 2 Latinos, 2 Irish-Americans and one French-American -- it really doesn't matter. Also, you will not face revulsion if you get a massage at a spa or gym and request a male therapist. They don't have a choice, because if they make you uncomfortable in any way, your complaint to the boss could get them fired.

If you're feeling very self-conscious about the covered-nudity aspect of massage, get a Thai massage -- it's done wearing loose clothing, like pyjamas or gym clothes. All you have to take off is your bra (shirt stays on) and shoes.

As for the benefits...there is no difference based on size. However, if you are very tall or very muscular, it's better to book a longer session. I can't do justice to my sore athletes or 6'7" giants in only an hour!

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 5:54 PM

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Hey :)
I am a Massage Therapist and weight is not an issue with me, other than if the clients needs a lot of work ,sometimes a 90 minute session is much easier to address everything vs. a hour session.

Your only concern should be to find a therapist that can keep quite during your session, many tend to gab. Just remember that it is your session , NOT the Therapists session, they should only talk if you encourage it.
Also, try to find one that has their own office vs. a spa... they tend to work harder and have more pride in the work since it is their business... and of course ask around and get referrals.
And ladies...we don't care if you didn't shave your legs, my clients stress to much over this issue. Good luck and take care.

Redmaiden :-)

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 5:55 PM

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I forgot to add that since I have done well over 2,000+ massages at this point that the women that you see in magazines and on tv, you know the medias idea of "beauty"....well they just are freaks of nature or have had surgery. It has been so refreshing to see that beauty comes in SO many forms.
Take care...
Redmaiden :-)

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 5:59 PM

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Redmaiden- Thank you so much for your comment! Its great to hear from a mans point of view! I love that you are so open- So, THANKS!

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 10:02 PM

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Poster 10:02 pm.... I am a female... hehehe........
Maiden is a female just so you know :) Anyway, you are more than welcome, let me know if I can be of any more help. Take care...

Redmaiden (redheaded female LOL) :-)

Thursday, April 06, 2006, 11:28 PM

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Saturday, April 08, 2006, 8:42 PM

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My bf is a mt and she says it makes no difference to her what shape or size her clients are, only that they are comfortable and relaxed, and that they don't feel as though she is judging them. She even said that some choose to leave on bras and undies until they feel okay with her. She said even the thin ones have issues and people should realize that professional mt are like doctors, they have seen it all and it doesn't phase her. 85% of her clients have been with her for over 5 years.

Saturday, April 08, 2006, 10:32 PM

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