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my husband snores so loud i can't sleep and i'm sick of going to the couch

any help here? I used to post my husband issues here all the time and everyone gave me such good advice so I'm going to try again. He doesn't think his snoring habit is a big deal. He has no idea how loud it is. Maybe he does but it doesn't matter. He wakes me up all night, at least 4 times a night and I'm ready to pull my hair out. This is a real problem. Sleep is important, i swear this is the reason I can't lose weight. He falls asleep in the bed and every once in a while he'll go to the couch but usually he just gets mad when I wake him up to stop his snoring. I don't know what to do. Please help me if you've had this happen and how you made the situation better. Thank you.

Thu. Dec 5, 11:03am

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the first thing you need to do is fig out why he snores? has he been to a doc.. does he have sleep apnea, does he have a deviated septum . is he overweight.. can diet and lifestyle play a part in why he snores..once you fig out the why.. you can deal with it more effectively..

the second thing is be patient. try to stay calm.. I know you need sleep.. we all do,but. remember hes not doing it on purpose. the third thing communicate about it. come up with ways that may minimize the snoring.. maybe you could go to bed a bit earlier than him.. that way your sound asleep before he comes in? maybe he could try different sleep positions.. try different things, but don't get angry and bitter with each other. that will only put strain on your together to find a solution this could make you even closer coming up with the solution instead of fighting and getting mad at each other

so take a step back.. breathe center yourself and look at this together.

here is a really good article

i hope this helps



Thursday, December 05, 2013, 12:35 PM

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Thank you for reminding me that's he's not doing this on purpose! You are right I have started to take it as an insult personally. He doesn't want to go to a doctor. I don't know if he has sleep apnea. I have more to respond but I have to come back in a minite. Thank you for your help so far!

Thursday, December 05, 2013, 1:50 PM

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My husband often snores and wakes me. Believe me: I understand your pain.
I am able to elbow him and ask him to move. About 50% of the time, he moves into a different position and stops snoring and then I'm able to fall asleep again. Of course, there is the other 50% of the time when either he doesn't move or he continues to snore in his new position....
Good luck.

Thursday, December 05, 2013, 2:16 PM

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that used to be my life. until my husband went to the doctor. turned out he had a deviated septum. he had surgery, and it was good for the first year... and then the snoring returned. his doctor said that only a small percentage of folks who get this surgery need a second surgery. this just wasnt an option for us. his snoring the second time around wasn't as bad as was originally the case. but enough for me to notice. sometimes I nudge him, and this makes him stop... but sometimes it wakes him up. all groggy and grumpy. sighs.

Friday, December 06, 2013, 2:11 PM

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Well, just because he isn't doing it on purpose doesn't mean he can't take steps to stop! As Lynneta said, snoring can be a sign of a number of conditions and going to the doctor is a good idea.

My experience in general is that if people don't hear a noise themselves, then it doesn't exist. And if they aren't as bothered by it as you are, then they think it's your problem. I have this problem with my neighbor about her dog, which barks 24/7. But I'm not married to my neighbor! Seems to me your husband could take you seriously.

Saturday, December 07, 2013, 8:57 AM

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yes 8:57! OP - I'm sure you are taking it personally b/c your husband has 1) discounted the fact that it is a problem 2) dismissed how it is affecting you, and 3) isn't doing anything about it! Not to mention you aren't getting quality sleep (and doubtful he is either)!

Saturday, December 07, 2013, 10:01 AM

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Do you have a camera or phone with sound and video recording capabilities? He can't hear it so when he does, he will be shocked at how loud and horrible it is. Perhaps it will motivate that trip to the doctor.

Saturday, December 07, 2013, 4:49 PM

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A camera! This is the best idea! I'm going to do this. Thanks!

Sunday, December 08, 2013, 2:14 PM

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Try recording him snoring. Use your phone or something. Maybe if he hears it for himself he'll understand. I fought the same battle and my husband finally went in and was tested for sleep apnea which he did in fact have. He now has a machine and life is great!!! No one is sleeping in another room or the couch!!!

Sunday, December 08, 2013, 2:39 PM

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So what happened here? Did you record your husband???

Saturday, December 21, 2013, 10:54 AM

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Soft pallette snoring

I was desperate to stop snoring so that boyfriends would stop dumping me (women will put up with it, men won't). I had my soft palette lasered to stiffen it so it wouldn't make me snore. It didn't heal right and now I snore, plus I feel like I always have strep throat.

Monday, January 06, 2014, 4:52 PM

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Good advice. I'm sure a doctor could help.

Friday, January 31, 2014, 5:57 PM

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I know a lot of people that have had great success in stopping or reducing snoring by using Valor Essential Oil on the bottom of their big toes each night. I actually use it and my husband THANKS me. LOL

Monday, February 03, 2014, 1:28 PM

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My husband has been snoring for over 20 years. Finally, 10 years ago he went to sleep study, hated it, reminded me how horrible it was often. They said he needed a machine he refused to use, got a mouth piece he refused to use. Finally His health and energy got so low he started with the mouth pieces and found a couple that really work.. they really do. And so do EAR PLUGS!!!!

Monday, January 12, 2015, 3:39 PM

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