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I just had a co-worker say "don't do it!" to me at the cafeteria because I picked out a small cookie. Of course, this is the same person that gorges on fatty ribs and greasy food, and has a huge gut. I don't know that I would have been less pissed if she had been fit and healthy, but the hypocrisy just sends me over the top!
I responded "Everything in moderation is fine."
But what I really wanted to say was "Mind your ^^#$^^#^ business!"

Tue. Jun 6, 11:45am

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She was probably jealous, or is insecure with her own issues. Not to say it makes it right for her to say anything to you, though.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 11:49 AM

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I hate when that happens! The time it really pissed me off was when I was picking up a burritto at Chipoltle for my boyfriend... some guy in line behind me actually scolded me when I asked for x-tra rice!!! He said, "More rice means more carbs which means more fat...."

I wanted to kick the nosy a$$ where it counts- instead I just shot him the look of death for a moment and coninued on with my order (I was sure to ask for x-tra cheese and gaucoverly loud just to piss him off- my bf couldn't have been happier).

People really should mind their own business. OP- Have your cookie and be sure to enjoy it too!!!!

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 12:14 PM

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Yeah, ditch the "food police."

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 12:47 PM

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I would never say that to anyone, certainly not a stranger or acquaintance! On the other hand, I would never buy a cookie from the cafeteria, even when I'm not "dieting," per se. You never know what's in them or how they're made; one cookie could be half a day's worth of calories! It is hard to understand when people are actively trying to become healthier, but then choose things that actively make them less healthy.

I'm not trying to be "that bitchy poster" who ruins this thread, by any means. Cookies are great! But, it's funny that there have been tons of threads of someone saying "I bought a cookie, it's sitting on my desk. Now what?" and everyone answers "throw it out! Don't take a bite! Give it away! Get rid of it!" But, since you were insulted in the cafeteria, people respond instead, "Eat it and enjoy it!" Weird! We all complain about emotional eating, but here we are, supporting it!!

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 12:49 PM

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haha what kind of people say to someone " more rice more fat" like COME ON! Do they think they are so important and wise to the world that they feel like impressing themselves upon unsuspecting people...

I was walking somewhere and I had a sun burn on my chest and I have about 10 people like " whoooa have enough sun" and things like that and this was walking down a random street!

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 12:51 PM

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I think the guy in chipotle was flirting ... duh.

I have been accused of being the food police. When you knwo someone is trying to eat healthily and you see them verring off course, naturally if you care about them, you want to encourage them not to! If that makes you so angry you are redirecting your own feelings of guilt or remorse.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 1:35 PM

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I am so glad I have people in my life that will NOT say something. Not that I would take it badly, but the person must clearly say, " Please say something" and really mean it for someone to have a right to say something.

-Yeah cookies aren’t the best choice, but having some overweight person tell you not to eat a cookie gets a bit much. I always take it like they seem to think they make better choices then you do... but still are heavy. I agree with the “Oh come on” posters of this board. Do people really have that much time on their hands to analyze what people are eating? I know I don't.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 1:49 PM

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12:49 PM poster...

You say that the others were supporting "emotional eating," which is inaccurate in this case. It really all depends what eating plan you're on- mine allows small "treats" in moderation. I'm not "one of those people" that has something "naughty" on my desk and then doesn't know what to do. If it's there it's because I put it there and plan to eat it, and enjoy it. Cookies, and everything else, are fine in moderation, and unless your total daily calories are less than 400, the cookie I ate doesn't take up half the calories.
I have focused on moderation and portion control, not really eliminating anything, and have lost over 25 lbs. I am healthy, and if I want a cookie or anything else for that matter it's not naughty, indulgent, or bad. It is what it is, which is my plan, my choice. It's not up to anyone else to judge or impose their own eating plan or guidelines on. You think cookies at the cafteria or anywhere else are bad? Fine. Don't buy them. But don't assume I bought mine because I was eating/choosing emotionally.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 1:57 PM

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chipotle poster here-- non-"food police" people this is not intended for you, but please enjoy :)

1:35 poster-- Don't "duh" me-- he was not flirting. And I was very offended (all 300 lbs of me)

12:49 poster-- I see nothing wrong with having a small cookie and enjoying it which is what I recommended the OP to do. Now if OP had grabbed the tray of cookies or bought a massive giant cookie we wouldn't be having this thread now would we?

Here's the deal- we all slip up- yes, even you perfect dieters. Instead of having someone jump on your back about it, wouldn't it be nice to be able to enjoy a little guilt free treat once and a while? By having the OP's co-worker say "Don't do it" all the joy of having an office treat like everyone else is gone. It is one thing to be checked by a close friend and quiet another to be checked by a co-worker (even if you do have a great working relationship and "care" for one another). The guy in chipotle and the OP's co-worker had no idea what "other side" of the story was-- that type of "food policing" is disrespectful, insulting, and inappropriate.... even if by some miracle they are "flirting" or have good intentions.

Please support people's right to choose what they eat- even if they are extremely obese (keep in mind a person may have a mental issue with eating, think emotional childhood scarring, and your correcting could damage them more than you realize). If you have an intimate and/or close relationship with someone then it is okay to point out potential bad food choices because you are more likely to know the back story and truly care and want to help. That's the point of this thread-- deal with it.

ps- yes I'm trying to be a bitch, but only to the "food police" since apparently that is the only way you can get a point across to them.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 2:15 PM

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OP again

2:15pm poster:
thank you for saying all of that.
You made my day, bitchiness and all! :)

Tuesday, June 06, 2006, 2:27 PM

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