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Love with a PT?

I have a hugungeous crush on my PT at the gym, I think this subject has been touched upon before, but anyway, here we go again, I was wondering what the deal is if say he is interested in me, is it work related for him to hold back his feelings until we are working together anymore or is it okay for him to say something, cause I am thinking that he likes me too. And should I say something or wait until our sessions are up? Anyone else have a similar experience? We have three more sessions together, all I gotta say is what a great motivator to stay in shape!

Thu. Jun 8, 2:16pm

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It's his job and career on the line. Let him make the first move.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 2:30 PM

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Let your sessions run out first. Then, either at the end of the last session, or after that, if you want, ask him if he'd like to do something not at the gym, like see a movie or go to a ball game, or whatever. Something that clearly isn't exercise, so he doesn't mistake it for you hiring him outside of the gym. Or just give him your phone number; if he wants to use it, he will.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 2:36 PM

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When I was younger, I used to "fall in love" with the guys who were being nice to me. i.e. just being friendly and paying attention to me as a friend. Once I got older, I attributed that to needing some attention, and that I truly didn't have a crush on that person, I just was feeling that way because I wasn't used to the positive attention. (Does that make any sense?)

I wonder if you have a crush on him because he is paying so much attention to you and helping you to feel good about yourself? I agree with the other 2 posters.

Wait until you are finished with his PT sessions. I'd see how he makes you feel once the sessions are over. (i.e. you go to the gym and work out, but not as part of his sessions)

Part of his job is to help make you feel good about yourself....(If you didn't would you continue to have him be your PT? Odds are, no.) Maybe after the sessions are over, you may not find yourself feeling that way about him any more--especially if his demeanor changes once you are no longer his client.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 4:24 PM

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Variety is the spice of life...

Let your sessions finish up and ask him out if you're comfortable. And hire a new trainer. A different trainer's point of view and ideas will only help you to build your own training repertoire.

I have a crush on my PT - but that's my physical therapist. I wish I could ask him out but I don't dare because he's really good and I just can't risk losing him! (But oh, is he cute!)

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 4:32 PM

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Romance and "business" relationships can get complex... I'd say wait until your sessions are over before you made a move, but in the mean time you could get to know him better during your session... find out what your common interests are and stuff like that.

When I was in college I had this really cute teacher (relax, he was my age... I'm a non-traditional student), well because he was my teacher I couldn't ask him out, but as the semester went on we started talking more and more during his office hours...I "needed" a lot of help with that class :) By the end of the semester we were totally hooked on each other and more then eager to begin dating! I can honestly say that having to wait until we could begin seeing each other only added to the excitement and made the relationship that much better (and yes- best sex I ever had!)

So don't be in a hurry to start dating this PT of yours, take your time and get him interested and make sure he's interested in you- when your sessions are over you'll be able to make your move confidently (or maybe you wont even have to).

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 5:12 PM

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I've only taken one PT session in my whole life, and I did lust after my PT - he's not even my type. Of course, if you have some major muscles and testosterone touching you, breathing at your neck and paying so much attention to you; what a girl to do?

I also think it's in their business interest to be nice to you, he wants you to buy more training sessions! Besides, a lot of PTs are gay and you never know if you end up in a really awkward situation, trying to enamore someone who's not into your sex at all!

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 5:30 PM

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You could always find out his current status by saying something like "I bet your girlfriend really loves having a trainer for a boyfriend." Just see how he reponds to that. Either he will say he doesn't have a girlfriend, he has a boyfriend, or yes/no she enjoys it. You will be closer to knowing where you stand.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 7:07 PM

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op here-

well good point I was thining of saying something like that, but the thing of it is is this, the last session we had we started getting to know each other and when the session was over he asked to if I wanted to do a spinning class with him this was after our hour session had been over with. Then throughout the whole class we were talking like kinda flirty but mainly asking questions like what kind of music do you listen to, what did you do this weekend, blah blah. Then we went into the gym to play a round of basketball cause we were talking about it competetively during spinning, this is all mind you during his free time. All the while he would introduce me to some of his work mates(fellow teachers) at the gym. It totally felt like we were on a date!
And this is when my crush started. Now I wanna go out for real!

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 11:51 PM

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So, sounds like it's already developing naturally. Just take it easy, and see where it goes.

Friday, June 09, 2006, 5:36 AM

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Since it is developing naturally, I agree with the poster from 6/8 @ 2:30. It's his career, your his client and you have sessions left. Since he's obviously expressing interest, let him take the lead. Yes, that sounds old-fashioned, but in this case, it seems like the best move. You're a business client of the company he works for; it's also similiar to your being co-workers.

anyway, that's my two cents.

Friday, June 09, 2006, 2:10 PM

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