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Love with a PT?

I have a hugungeous crush on my PT at the gym, I think this subject has been touched upon before, but anyway, here we go again, I was wondering what the deal is if say he is interested in me, is it work related for him to hold back his feelings until we are working together anymore or is it okay for him to say something, cause I am thinking that he likes me too. And should I say something or wait until our sessions are up? Anyone else have a similar experience? We have three more sessions together, all I gotta say is what a great motivator to stay in shape!

Thu. Jun 8, 2:16pm

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It's his job and career on the line. Let him make the first move.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 2:30 PM

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Let your sessions run out first. Then, either at the end of the last session, or after that, if you want, ask him if he'd like to do something not at the gym, like see a movie or go to a ball game, or whatever. Something that clearly isn't exercise, so he doesn't mistake it for you hiring him outside of the gym. Or just give him your phone number; if he wants to use it, he will.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 2:36 PM

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When I was younger, I used to "fall in love" with the guys who were being nice to me. i.e. just being friendly and paying attention to me as a friend. Once I got older, I attributed that to needing some attention, and that I truly didn't have a crush on that person, I just was feeling that way because I wasn't used to the positive attention. (Does that make any sense?)

I wonder if you have a crush on him because he is paying so much attention to you and helping you to feel good about yourself? I agree with the other 2 posters.

Wait until you are finished with his PT sessions. I'd see how he makes you feel once the sessions are over. (i.e. you go to the gym and work out, but not as part of his sessions)

Part of his job is to help make you feel good about yourself....(If you didn't would you continue to have him be your PT? Odds are, no.) Maybe after the sessions are over, you may not find yourself feeling that way about him any more--especially if his demeanor changes once you are no longer his client.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 4:24 PM

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Variety is the spice of life...

Let your sessions finish up and ask him out if you're comfortable. And hire a new trainer. A different trainer's point of view and ideas will only help you to build your own training repertoire.

I have a crush on my PT - but that's my physical therapist. I wish I could ask him out but I don't dare because he's really good and I just can't risk losing him! (But oh, is he cute!)

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 4:32 PM

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Romance and "business" relationships can get complex... I'd say wait until your sessions are over before you made a move, but in the mean time you could get to know him better during your session... find out what your common interests are and stuff like that.

When I was in college I had this really cute teacher (relax, he was my age... I'm a non-traditional student), well because he was my teacher I couldn't ask him out, but as the semester went on we started talking more and more during his office hours...I "needed" a lot of help with that class :) By the end of the semester we were totally hooked on each other and more then eager to begin dating! I can honestly say that having to wait until we could begin seeing each other only added to the excitement and made the relationship that much better (and yes- best sex I ever had!)

So don't be in a hurry to start dating this PT of yours, take your time and get him interested and make sure he's interested in you- when your sessions are over you'll be able to make your move confidently (or maybe you wont even have to).

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 5:12 PM

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I've only taken one PT session in my whole life, and I did lust after my PT - he's not even my type. Of course, if you have some major muscles and testosterone touching you, breathing at your neck and paying so much attention to you; what a girl to do?

I also think it's in their business interest to be nice to you, he wants you to buy more training sessions! Besides, a lot of PTs are gay and you never know if you end up in a really awkward situation, trying to enamore someone who's not into your sex at all!

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 5:30 PM

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You could always find out his current status by saying something like "I bet your girlfriend really loves having a trainer for a boyfriend." Just see how he reponds to that. Either he will say he doesn't have a girlfriend, he has a boyfriend, or yes/no she enjoys it. You will be closer to knowing where you stand.

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 7:07 PM

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op here-

well good point I was thining of saying something like that, but the thing of it is is this, the last session we had we started getting to know each other and when the session was over he asked to if I wanted to do a spinning class with him this was after our hour session had been over with. Then throughout the whole class we were talking like kinda flirty but mainly asking questions like what kind of music do you listen to, what did you do this weekend, blah blah. Then we went into the gym to play a round of basketball cause we were talking about it competetively during spinning, this is all mind you during his free time. All the while he would introduce me to some of his work mates(fellow teachers) at the gym. It totally felt like we were on a date!
And this is when my crush started. Now I wanna go out for real!

Thursday, June 08, 2006, 11:51 PM

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So, sounds like it's already developing naturally. Just take it easy, and see where it goes.

Friday, June 09, 2006, 5:36 AM

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Since it is developing naturally, I agree with the poster from 6/8 @ 2:30. It's his career, your his client and you have sessions left. Since he's obviously expressing interest, let him take the lead. Yes, that sounds old-fashioned, but in this case, it seems like the best move. You're a business client of the company he works for; it's also similiar to your being co-workers.

anyway, that's my two cents.

Friday, June 09, 2006, 2:10 PM

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I think you will need to make the first move. He's not going to be too happy about losing a client by hitting on her...take it from someone who's in a personal service industry -- if it turns out the client is not interested, then we risk losing their business. (Yes, I'm in that quandry right now).

I think of getting a crush on personal trainers, physical therapists, etc. as being a type of Florence Nightingale syndrom -- what's not to adore about someone who is fixing our problems and making us feel better?

Good luck - it sounds like there might be something there!

Saturday, June 10, 2006, 9:27 AM

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op here- thanks that makes sense.

Sunday, June 11, 2006, 2:40 AM

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Tell him you are done training

That it was so great and you feel you can do it on your own now, plus it is getting expensive. Then mention you want to go catch a band at a local bar. If he goes for it, let him buy you a few shots!

Monday, June 12, 2006, 1:22 PM

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op here

well today at the gym it was funny, he was working with a few clients, then as I was doing sit-ups in the corner, I could see him looking at me. After I went over to the eliptical and began to do some cardio, these machines are on the total other side f the gym from where he usually is. It was only me and another guy in this area. I saw him walk over to where we were both working out and he got on a machine next to me! I was all nervous at that point.

He was testing the head phone oulet that hooks up to the televisions. So he turns to me and said hi, and then brings up our previous conversation during the last session. I had mentioned that I went to highschool with his brother and asked if his brother had a girlfriend, (thinking I might know her or went to highschool with her as well). So he goes,"Hey member when you asked if my brother had a girlfriend?" And I said, "yes" He goes,"did you ask me that cause you are interested?" And I was like, "No...." and proceeded to tell him what I was saying before.

The whole time I am thinking,"oh my gosh should I say something now, like, 'no but I am interested in his brother!'" Then we made some small talk and before he left he was like, "oh yeah we are playing another game of basketball at our next session!" Which isn't obvious training.

Does anybody think this was a question for his own info, or really just the opposite, I am thinking it was because why would he remember that conversation (which took place two weeks ago or whenever memorial day was) and then bring it up again?


Monday, June 12, 2006, 5:57 PM

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I would think he is interested. He wouldn't look for you in the gym to make small talk about a conversation that took place months ago. When is your training with him over? I don't think its too risky to ask him if wants to join you for drinks somewhere after that last session. Or you could wait and let him ask you.

Monday, June 12, 2006, 6:48 PM

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we have three more sessions left to go, and supposedly after this next one we are gonna play basketball together and I am thinking that we will probably flirt and then what?

I guess I am just gonna take it as it goes and try to feel the vibes he's giving off.

Monday, June 12, 2006, 8:30 PM

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I think when he asked if you were interested in his brother, he was actually asking if you have a boyfriend. Just my opinion though.

Tuesday, June 13, 2006, 10:33 AM

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I have been watching

this thread progress... and I feel you have a pretty good shot... if he seems to keep this up- and mentions the brother- or says anything about anyone or looks... go ahead and say, "well, you are pretty cute yourself." or however you want to say something like that. I was watching that show last night on how to get the guy.. irrelevant to me in my life since I am married... but they were talking about eye contact... like 4 seconds of it... counting out (in your head of course) the one one thousand.. 2 one thousand and so forth.. smiling... there was another one, touch?
Maybe if he lets on that he knows you are interested and is interested himself, joke with him that you "want your money's worth.. and after your last session it would be ok to date."- unless of course you don't care about him being your trainer any more...
I am happy for anyone to find love.... cheers!

Tuesday, June 13, 2006, 3:57 PM

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op here

thanks! I am really excited about my situation, and I will be seeing him monday and will let everyone know what happens!

thanks for the positive comments it's getting me all excited!

Tuesday, June 13, 2006, 6:47 PM

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I'm enjoying your story. I hope everything works out for the best! And I can't wait for your next update.

Tuesday, June 13, 2006, 7:28 PM

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To the OP, I, too have been watching this thread. I can almost hear the "sparkle" in your "voice" as you type out your posts.

I really hope it works out for you!! :-)

Wednesday, June 14, 2006, 11:44 AM

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had a session with him today

It was fun, I am still not sure but there is something -

We started playing some basketball, and talked the whole time, about what we did over the weekend and we were being competitive and laughing, thats about it, then we go into the weight room to do my "real session" he starts out by saying "Yeah so I have been dreaming about the weather lately, it's really weird." I said "What do you mean" he said,"Well I have been dreaming about tornados, I have a dream book, I think it means that I am feeling like I have no control over my life right now." I was like, " Really, why do you say that?" He was like, "Cause I am not sure how long I will be staying at this gym." I was like,"How come?" He said, "Cause I am dating the girl at the front desk and we have been having some problems lately, I am not sure if it's because we work together or we aren't compatable but we have been dating for like 5 monthes and i am not feeling good about things, I just wanna meet a pretty girl thats normal." So then I start talking about my past relationship and I am giving him the sign that I am single and independent, and I am not flirty just giving advice.

We did the rest of our session laughing and talking and I made an appt. for next monday instead of a month from now because, it's great motivation for me and I think it will be good for him to see me again soon, then for our last session I am going to schedule it a month away. Then I think things will have time to grow if they do.

The funny thing is is that the girl at the front desk is pretty, don't get me wrong, but I am pretty and have muscle she is very thin and tiny. I feel like, I look like a woman compared to her teenish look, she is 23 and I am 25, he is 31. I think that I have a chance, I mean I have never seen her workout, he said she just sits at the front desk all day. Her hair is dyed too and mine is natural, I am not conceeded but I don't think there is much competition here. :)

Monday, June 19, 2006, 11:00 AM

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I wouldn't worry about the front desk girl-- he told you flat out he was having issues with her. I see two really good things about your last post:

1. He told you he had a GF, but wanted to meet someone new since it wasn't what he was looking for (he's being honest and upfront about his current "status" and has expressed intrest in getting out of it.)

2. He talked about his dream. Maybe I'm just way out of the loop, but guys usually don't talk about stuff like that-- even my close guy friends haven't told me about their dreams, especially ones where they would have to admit they feel "out of control".

There could be tons more signs, but I'll let the rest of PT community give their feedback. This whole thing sounds promising and exciting-- keep us all posted!!!!

Monday, June 19, 2006, 12:18 PM

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He's SO into you.

And besides he has a girlfriend, not a wife... So he's looking to "upgrade". Get him to ditch her first though or you'll be the other woman to the gym romeo's 200 other women.

Monday, June 19, 2006, 1:25 PM

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I don't know..maybe I'm wrong here, but I think it's a bad sign that he's flirting with you and trying to feel out his chances with you prior to breaking up with the woman he's been seeing for close to half a year. It says to me that he's codependent (doesn't want to be alone), and he's also sharing something intimate about his relationship with you, when he should really be either resolving things with the front desk woman or breaking it off. Hopefully no one will bite my head off for typing this, as up until now I've thought this whole chain was very sweet. I'm just pointing out something that could potentially be a red flag for down the road.

Monday, June 19, 2006, 4:11 PM

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although it may be a red flag, it could also be a building block to a "friendship first" type of relationship. By establishing a line of conversation about himself that is, apparently, open and honest, he is opening up the topic for further discussion (ie: what do we each want from a relationship? Are you currently involved?) Or maybe he is seeking another point of view, a woman's point of view, about his current thought patterns (dreams). It is good to remain aware of potential red flags, especially when one so very much wishes to pursue a relationship with someone. good luck!

Monday, June 19, 2006, 4:39 PM

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any guy whos willing to talk to someone other than his gf about probs with his gf that could warrant breaking up with, is a loser.

Monday, June 19, 2006, 10:33 PM

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LMAO

Codependent? Or just into "always having his options open" which means he always has one foot out the door.

Monday, June 19, 2006, 10:38 PM

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op here -

I thought about these things, am aware of men like this, and I have bit of a gaurd up at this point especially having thought about it all day. I am just going to take things slowly, and try to get these sessions over with. Cause after them I think will be when he does whatever he might do (ask me out, or not). I think he was just trying to tell me that he is with someone, by not saying "yeah so i have a girlfriend" I think he needed a reason to tell me this. But I have to say when I was breaking up with my last guy, I told everyone about it guys and girls because I had to get some input on what people might have thought, so I think this behavior is somewhat normal, although I am going to be cautious. In general it's nice when people are open though and talk about how they feel.

Thnaks for eveyone's insight and I will be in touch!

Monday, June 19, 2006, 11:13 PM

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I'm sure we've all dated someone before that we knew we weren't going to be with forever. Some people break up when they know that it isn't "the one," but some people still want to hang out and have fun until something better comes along. Maybe the OP is "someone better," and is reason enough for him to end things with his gf. Maybe she's "the one." But they won't find out unless they try!

I still say "Go for it!" What do you have to lose?!

Tuesday, June 20, 2006, 9:31 AM

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Also

Also, if he's been dating this girl at work, and hints that he'll have to leave the gym when they break up, that's a reason to stay with her until he finds something else, b/c he'll lose both a girlfriend and a job! So if he's showing that he's ready to move on from her, even though it means finding a new job, that's a pretty major step!

Tuesday, June 20, 2006, 9:36 AM

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Leave his job? We're talking about a GYM here!

Gyms are hotbeds for dating... it is like summer camp without the kids... everyone is dating each other, someone's ex, someone's future ex... Unless there's some kind of "Don't date the customers" policy, he'll date everything that says hello.

Tuesday, June 20, 2006, 11:45 AM

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Been following the convo

been following the convo and I hope you at least make a good friend out of it!

Tuesday, June 20, 2006, 2:56 PM

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op here-

man this is hilarious, you guys are awesome!

tonight I went to the gym to workout, and the cool thing about this whole situation is that I getting in great shape, and really busting ass in the gym, it so awesome to run into him all sweaty and looking like I am in great shape, anyway regardless tonight he was there and behind the front desk with her joking around and like play fighting - ;( - I was like oh good lord I don't wanna see that and rushed out thinking, ya know what this is retarted he's 31, I don't wanna deal with drama, I want a mature man who will treat me well, so at this point, even though he's hot and nice and ideal for me, I just wanna get these sessions over and move on!

But of course I will tell you all how things progress - : ) !

Tuesday, June 20, 2006, 7:48 PM

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I think you would be better off finding a man that doesn't have a girlfriend. Just because he says things aren't going well with her, obviously they are well enough that they are play fighting behind the counter. Do not let your heart get involved with a man that has a girlfriend.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 9:13 AM

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if you are attracted to him, maybe keep in touch with him, so when he is available, you could hang out.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 9:30 AM

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sigh, I wish I knew that in my early twenties, but... MEN WILL DO AND SAY ANYTHING JUST TO GET YOU INTO THE BED. trivial

Besides, say something happens or doesn't happen - that will keep you away from the gym. The whole gym staff will know he slept with you! This is one main reason people avoid dating at workplace.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 10:14 AM

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op here-

whao...

I am not this type to have a few dates and then sleep with him, I have learned to respect myself and have patience, I learned that if he's a good enough guy he will want to be with you regardless.

Plus this guy seems like he would be interested in just hanging out.



Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 11:33 AM

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i'm sure you are. Just FYI, guys are never into 'just hanging out' with women. Tha t will be very 'un-guy' thing...

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 12:00 PM

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i beg to differ on that last point. i have, and have since high school always had, many guy friends who are not after anything-just as i am not after anything. there are plenty of men who may not be into just being friends with a woman, but there are also many women who do not want to pursue a freindship with a man-unless there is a hope of something more. i really don't think this is a fair generalization.

i am eally enjoying watching this story unfold! it's way better than any tv soap opera! it's our own little PT reality show blurb!

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 12:14 PM

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I have to agree that most men are after one thing, especially trainers. They are in the gym all day long looking and talking to women (most with self esteen issues). Its just a wreck waiting to happen. I also agree with the person who said find someone with no attachments.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 12:55 PM

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do you feel the same about female trainers?

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 12:57 PM

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To the 12:14 pm poster

If you have truly good guy friend, ask him if he'd ever thought of sleeping with you. If they're honestly 'good' friends they'll tell you. I've read about it a lot mostly from men's magazines etc., and also on New York's craigslist RR board that question used to surface fairly often and anonimously all men admitted of at least once fantasizing about their good girl-pals.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 2:44 PM

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the fact that these are my friends is something that doesn't seem to be registering. i would no sooner ask my guy freinds if they were interested in me sexually than i would ask my girl friends. it's inappropriate and not the type of question i would respond well to. "if they're honestly good friends, they'll tell you". would you not think these are good friends if they said "no"? or would you conclude they are lying? is the idea so foreign in your social life? i hear many sexist comments about this issue and i just can't take it!

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 3:28 PM

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I have good guy friends (both married and single!) and the idea of asking him if they had ever thought of sleeping with me had NEVER crossed my mind!!

Why?

1) I'm married now (and I wouldn't have aske them that when I was single, either!)
2) To even ask that question would imply that I was thinking of sleeping with them.

I agree with 3:28 poster that asking a guy friend would probably change your relationship to that person and introduce a sexual element to your friendship that may not have ever existed...

That being said, I have asked some girlfriends (the ones I'm really tight with) what they would do if another woman approached them or if their male friends hit on them. That's different than asking someone "Hey, would you ever think of sleeping with me?" since it's not introducing yourself into the equation...

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 3:53 PM

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Oh, and I have asked "How come you never asked me out?" to a guy friend before-- but usually, those are friends that knew for certain that I was already with my boyfriend (now husband) and that I wasn't trying to get together with them. Also, that didn't involve the element of sexual relationship in the question...

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 3:56 PM

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You just contradicted yourselves - 'sexual tension' - there should be no sexual tension between friends. That's the reason guys are not into 'just hanging out' with us, as much as we'd like to think ourselves as 'cool' and 'not hysteric', they still think it's too much 'drama' or 'tension'.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006, 5:25 PM

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op here -

whoa this is intense!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 12:31 AM

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to the op

well, what's going on with your saga? how do you weigh in on this? looking forward to more on the story...

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 9:47 AM

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I think those on here who think their guy friends have never thought of having sex with them are deluding themselves. It doesn't mean they want to marry you or even want to be your boyfriend, but have they ever thought of having sex with you? Of course.

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 9:49 AM

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To all those that insist on writing about mixed sex friendships

Can we stay on track? Please move your guy/girl friends comments over to the other thread that deals with the issue. Thanks!

OP- Love this thread-- you're giving me goosebumps of excitment!!! Even if nothing comes of this flirtation it was still tons of fun- Thank you!!! Oh, great job with the improved body too- keep that up and you'll have even more drama to write us about ;)

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 10:05 AM

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op here-

Well I don't think asking your friends (guys if they ever thought about sex is a big deal, is some ways it's hypothetical and funny, but I think if I was older and married that would be inappropriate and awkward for both people unless they were really close and in a situation where they were joking around.

But I don't think that in general trainers are flirty and all about hooking up with people in the gym, most that I know are professional and take their job seriously, the younger trainer guys are probably more apt to be flirty. But the gym is a place for them (male trainers) to get a lot of attention when they might not get it otherwise outside of the gym.

I will say this though, as a single 25 yr. old, I do think about it (sex) when I am in the midst of a hot guy who might be single, and it's not because I sleep around or am all promiscuous or whatever it's just natural for people in this situation.

ps- not to sound all over the place, but yesterday I went to pick up my bike from the bike shop after getting it fixed I asked the cute guy behind the counter if he'd take me mountain biking sometime and he said sure! : 0 I figure that hey at least I am sticking with my fitness goals through all this, I mean really I am so motivated to stay in shape! That being said, I have come up with a new diet, it's called, DATE HOT ACTIVE MEN AND GO ON HOT ACTIVE DATES diet!

ha ha!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 10:55 AM

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Mountain bike guy sounds SO MUCH HOTTER than a PT! Gym rats suck.

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 10:59 AM

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LOL- I bet you could market that diet!!!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 11:03 AM

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wow!! props for you!! i am so psyched to read about your flirtations, it's so silly!! the move at the bike shop sounds very smooth-and in keeping with your fitness goals, too!! maybe you should invite the gym guy and his girlfriend to bike along with you? (just kidding about that...) keep us posted!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 11:08 AM

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to OP!

HAHAHAHA!!

I'm LOVING the new diet!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 11:59 AM

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That's the diet for me! It definitely sounds like a winning combination! Way to go girl.

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 1:28 PM

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Glad to hear you are expanding your options outside of the trainer who has a girlfriend. Have fun!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 1:31 PM

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To OP:
Glad to hear you're branching out! ;-) Who knows? You might end up dating the mountain biker, since there is "no pressure" from work (i.e. on the PT).

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 1:51 PM

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The PT with a GF was a no-brainer....go after the one that is unattached!

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 3:32 PM

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are we just assuming that the mountain biker has no girlfriend? i don't think i remember reading about his status?

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 3:39 PM

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Yes, finding someone that is completly unattached is the most important point. I don't think she said or has asked the biking guy.

Thursday, June 22, 2006, 8:54 PM

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looking for response from op

please don't tell me this thread has come to an end?!

Saturday, June 24, 2006, 9:30 PM

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no not at all guys!

but here's an updat, I have a session with my trainer on monday morning therefore more to come, and the bike guy never called me today, maybe not interested butit was raining out today so maybe he figured that a bike ride wasn't a good idea, who knows!

I'll fill you all in on monday!!! : )

Saturday, June 24, 2006, 10:15 PM

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holy crap!

this morning I had a session with the trainer, we started out by playing some basketball and he asked how my weekend went and we were talking, I was thinking 'man your so hot' 'but chill this guy is sketchy!'

so as I am about to take a shot, I hear him say, and I quote "Yeah I am breaking up with her today." I look cause I wasn't really sure what he was talking about cause it was kinda random, and he is looking outside the window at the girlfriend who had just pulled in to the parking lot and was getting out of her car.

Oh my god it was so funny, I was like 'really' kinda playing it cool until I realized my face was lit up like a christmas tree. So then he was like 'yeah I just can't take it anymore'

So we finished basketball and we were doing weights, and some of the things he said while working out were, "I think you are the strongest girl I know", "I asked my brother about you and his friend (who I also know) and they can't remember you". He also takes about how he needs to get bigger and gain more weight all the time, almost like how much girls talk about losing weight, it's weird, does anyone this this is a sign of him wanting to look better for me or what I don't get it. Oh yeah as we were working out she came down to the weights room and walked up to him and said something about an appointment or something and their faces both looked kinda awkward, and then she left. Then he goes to me, "see how she was trying to be all professional right there, that was something that could have waited, she didn't have to tell me that now," then I say, "well maybe she's trying to keep tabs on you," jokingly, and he was like "she is".

So I am thinking he likes me, I scheduled our next session for next monday, and that will be the last one. This week I am going to tear it up in the gym and really look great for monday. I don't want to be a rebound girl, but I sure do want to date him.

Monday, June 26, 2006, 10:49 AM

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as sand through the hourglass...

this is really fun to pay attention to!! this is my new guilty pleaseure (no more cookies!)

i think it's great that he is sharing his story with you and asking for feedback. he seems to be looking for something that he's not getting from the soon-to-be-ex. and, let's not kid ourselves, he may not find that "thing" with you, either, but it's worth a shot!! what does this mean for the mountain bike guy? let's not cut him out completely, yet! if nothing else, you've made a friend and gotten yourself more fit in the process!!

good luck!

Monday, June 26, 2006, 11:10 AM

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Go for it

The sexual tension between you two is killing me. You have to ask him out next Monday. I would say something like " I know you just broke up with someone, so you may not be looking to date right away, but when you are, perhaps we could go out sometime?" With that approach he can take some time, if he needs it, to fully move on. It sounds like he is ready to move on today though. Good luck.

Monday, June 26, 2006, 1:06 PM

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Troll?

Has anyone thought of the OP as a gross old overweight guy making up all this BS behind his PC?

Monday, June 26, 2006, 2:04 PM

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No, but I have now, and it's cracking me up. Actually, it's fine with me if it is, because it's still darn entertaining.

Monday, June 26, 2006, 2:10 PM

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LOL, such a random comment, 2:04pm poster!

I love this post, it's like a romance novel!!!

Monday, June 26, 2006, 2:35 PM

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oh my god - this is the op - I want to be the troll with the pink hair
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I'll tell you I live in Ct I am 25 and I am 5'8 155lbs, blonde, blu eyes.

Ha ha :0 lol!!!!!!!!


Monday, June 26, 2006, 2:42 PM

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I don't think an overweight guy troll would even know how to begin writing a thread like this... as the 1:06 poster said, I can totally feel the sexual tension- this is genuine alright!

Monday, June 26, 2006, 3:21 PM

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way to goo

Just my thoughts... This thread is way to good to be fake.. if it is... i'm a fool.

Monday, June 26, 2006, 4:37 PM

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op here,

oh yeah, mountain bike guy never called : ( oh well : )

Monday, June 26, 2006, 7:10 PM

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Nothing like watching a train wreck about to happen.

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 9:12 AM

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Even if it is fake, I don't care. It's fun to read.

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 10:08 AM

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"...a train wreck about to happen." what does this mean? if you want to contirbute to a thread, shouldn't you try to be positive and supportive, or at least be constructive with your criticism? this thread seems to be losing it's train of thought.

i happen to be interested in the op and her story and would like to follow it as it unfolds more. good luck, OP!

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 10:38 AM

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op here,

I think she means, a train wreck between my trainer and his girlfriend, and I totally agree I felt really awkward yesterday when he said that and she was there.

thanks to the last poster!

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 10:57 AM

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maybe you oughtta look for a tire patch kit or some other biking accessory-i know!-you need a map of the best local areas to go biking...are you getting my drift?

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 12:58 PM

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yeah I don't think bike guy is interested, plus we already talked about bike paths and all that.

I saw the trainer today and he glanced over at me, so I said, "hey ya know I am really sore from yesterday!" And he said,"oh your a jerk,"cause I think he thought i was kidding but I am not I am really sore today!! And he was like "oh really you are!"

I seriously cannot wait to finish these sessions to find out whay happens.

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 8:53 PM

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Trolls usually start out much differently. I'm on a backpacking website and you can usually spot a troll from a mile away! :-)

Tuesday, June 27, 2006, 11:35 PM

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Op here-

Went to the gym today hoping I might run into my trainer and sure enough I did!!!

I was in the gym playing basketball for a good half hour and he poked his head in. I said hi and he came over and started catching the ball and passing it to me while we talked. He said how are you and I said good and I said how are you and he paused for a minute with a smile on his face and said "good" like in a weird way and I instantly thought ,'oh maybe he got rid of his baggage' So then we talked about whatever and he wasn't really bringing things up just listening and asking questions, I didn't feel like it was appropriate to ask about his girlfriend.

Then he had to go back upstairs, but it was for a good 20 minutes that we talked, I definately don't get the trainer vibe from him. :o :)

Friday, June 30, 2006, 12:14 PM

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OMIGOD! that is soo cool! it seems like he's very friendly towards you, not sleazy, so i think it's genuine interest! and it shows a lot of respect that he's not forcing himself into your social life; just stopping by for a friendly chat (cause he knew you were there?) i am so excited to check out this thread on monday...best of luck!

it's funny how i reaaly enjoy being informed about your social adventure with this guy!

Friday, June 30, 2006, 12:23 PM

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I love this story. I really do. It actually reads like some of the emails my friend Em and I would pass back and forth to each other. (We lead parallel lives and have similar boy situations.) But I'm gonna throw this out there to the OP, read "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo. It's a fun book and an easy read. And it may give your self-esteem a boost to either do something about it or drop this guy. I hope you guys get together, I really do. But I read the book and it gave me a completely different side to look at my own situation from.

Saturday, July 01, 2006, 1:46 AM

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op here-

thanks for the suggestion, I will look for it.

You all should know that I am pretty self-confident when it comes to these situations, but I have learned from coming on too strong at first, guys are either intimidated by me or I jump into a relationship that is a waste of my time. I am totally leaving this situation up to him. And if I am totally wrong and he is just a friendly guy then I will deal with it, I realize that is possible too.

My friend at work last night said,"Ya know maybe you should'nt think about it too much until he asks you out or something, don't get your hopes to high." And he meant this in the nicest way, and I said that I know.

But for now I am just gonna assume he dreams about me at night!! : )

Saturday, July 01, 2006, 8:36 AM

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Maybe he IS a friendly guy, and/or maybe he IS into you... :-)

Or maybe neither of the above. Perhaps because of the field in which I work, I have a lot of contact with men who like to play power games. There are guys out there who have a psychological need for you to want them, because they feel like it gives them power over you. They don't want you. They just need you to want them. Beware of these types -- they are not good people.

Saturday, July 01, 2006, 10:00 AM

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I totally vouch for the "He's just not that into you" book. I was thinking the that the whole time while reading this thread but kept my mouth shut. Women tend to totally overthink and try to interpret a guys actions. As they said "don't waste the pretty"

Saturday, July 01, 2006, 12:20 PM

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op here -

I was at borders today and saw that book you are talking about, I flipped through it.
The funny thing is I know all that stuff already, it's kind of common sense, the book is more for women who are insecure about their situation, I am guessing or maybe about guys in general.
I just like talking about this cause it is fun and interesting and I happy to get everyone's feedback too, until I understand all of this I gotta talk about it ya know!

Saturday, July 01, 2006, 3:10 PM

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the whole point of the book is to quit trying to "understand" to just let things be.

Saturday, July 01, 2006, 4:56 PM

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personally, i think life is all about understanding your own perspective, recognizing other perspectives, and going in the direction that feels most right for yourself. i certainly would entertain reading books that seemed to pertain to a situation familiar to me, but am not usually persuaded to change my style because of the author's experience. i like to be informed and enlightened but am secure in my own skin. that is not to say that my mind is never changed by something i've read-but generally, i find self-help books are best looked at as something that worked for someone else enough for them to write about it, and is just an opportunity to see that you too can help yourself if you find the right way to do it. but i strongly believe that it should be your own way.

Sunday, July 02, 2006, 10:03 AM

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well said.


Sunday, July 02, 2006, 1:31 PM

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this is why women will never rule the world.

Monday, July 03, 2006, 12:02 AM

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to the op...

i am sitting on the edge of my seat waiting to read your next post!!!

Monday, July 03, 2006, 10:47 AM

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op where are you?

op where are you? Dying to know what's happening.

Wednesday, July 12, 2006, 5:56 PM

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nothing happened, he's still with his girlfriend, who he told me he was going to dump!!!

guys do suck afterall, but I am better off than being with a guy like that.

Wednesday, July 12, 2006, 8:19 PM

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I just remembered this! thanks for updating us. Are you on to someone new?

Saturday, October 21, 2006, 2:53 PM

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i think perhaps that the OP is better off. better not to get entangled in the relationship problems that would undoubtedly occur between the trainer, the OP and the receptionist. If the OP started dating the trainer, the receptionist would totally find out, and it could be ugly...and then she'd never want to get back to the gym! lol! anyway, hope a new romance is just around the corner for you.

Sunday, October 22, 2006, 1:50 PM

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It's too bad this thread ended - I ran into this thread by accident....this could be a TV show!!!! I wonder what happened to the OP? Any updates???? :)

Monday, December 31, 2007, 11:15 AM

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I know!! I've been on PT for almost 2 years now yet never went to the message boards until last Spring, but I never looked at this thread. Boy, this girl's story got me jumping out of my seat to see what was going to happen next.

Tuesday, January 01, 2008, 6:48 PM

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date pt

i have a personal trainer! i signed up for a 12 month agreement and we just started JANUARY 25! IVE ALREADY HAD 3 SESSIONS WITH HIM! i started talking to my co-workers seeking advice of what to do because i havent been single in 3 years so What to do?!!!! they told me to take the inative and ask him out but im a girl...not thirsty! lol so i flirt text him about working out and what to eat just so he would text me lol! in our sessions we connect, laugh, talk, but mostly laugh i enjoys them. but recently last friday he asked me if i wanted to hangout some time wwe totally can if im down... then he quickly said not to be unprofessional! i thought iy was cute and since ive been wanting to ask him i said omg yea sure we can hangout! he replied by saying sweet well tomorrow if your not busy we can do something meet up somewhere! everyone told me not to go to his house but i did i was taking no opportunity for granted i seezed every moment! so saturday i went over to his house watch movies it was cute, i was comfortable, he defiantley made me feel warm and welcomed in his home oh and btw his roommate was the other trainer from the gym how blessed was i!:)to be there but he gave me a blanket and covered me up with it because it was pretty cold that night! so after the movies were over because we watched 3 of them until 2 in the morning! i told him i had to go it was getting late a pulled a cinderella lol and he seemed sad i was leaving but him and his smile could nnot express to me enough on how much he enjoyed us spending time lol:) he said he wanted to take me to dinner and he saiid he wanted to take me some places around the state only because i just moved here to texas! and i thought that was really sweet! he walked me to my truck and gave me the warmed hug! i felt in that moment i was already knocked up! lol jk but yeah it was legit! he said once more he enjoyed hanging out with me! but my session with him is on tuesday and i dont know how to act or say what to do?!

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