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OT: how thin do I have to be to get a boyfriend?

All my friends are so fit, they all have guys drooling over them. Before you think I'm 16, I am 25 and yes, looks still matter. I need to lose about 15 pounds and I read everywhere that it's all about what's inside but it's hard when I go out and my friends look better in their jeans. Any words of wisdom are appreciated.

Tue. Jul 25, 4:24pm

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You don't want the guys that only drool after those girls and don't even look in any other direction! Trust me.

I was overweight when I met my husband...who is trim, muscular and handsome and could have gone after a woman much fitter than I am. However, because he is a good person, he was looking for more than just whether I could fit into a slim size jeans. Anyway, not that he doesn't appreciate a good looking woman, but it really is what is inside that counts in the long run...try to focus on the future and not right now. Also, make sure you are getting healthy for you and not to get a boyfriend...that never works!

Tuesday, July 25, 2006, 4:35 PM

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i totally agree with above poster.
just believe in yourself and the true you will shine through. a good man will
see what a catch you really are. if you pay attention you will see that most of those girls don't last long when they do get a google eyed guy because they are ready to run to the next shiney object.
patience pays in the end.
i wonder every day how i caught my love of my life. i am not thin but work on being fit, while he is very handsome and built yet to boot. we have been together for 15 yrs now and women still turn thier head to look. i'm sure we look like quite the pair.
best of luck to you. :)

Tuesday, July 25, 2006, 5:00 PM

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I'll third what they said. I managed to snag my husband before I lost weight -- and I was more like 30 pounds too heavy. He still likes me now that I'm thinner, but he has told me he doesn't want me to be too thin! It's funny: I think most of my friends look way better in their jeans, but my husband thinks skinny isn't attractive. (I mentioned Halle Berry the other day as someone I thought was one of the most beautiful people out there, and he said, "Isn't she way too thin?")

The point is: There *are* men out there who don't think that flat abs is the only thing to look for in a woman. And I hope you realize too that you have way more to offer than your looks!

Tuesday, July 25, 2006, 5:12 PM

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I don't mean for this to be taken the wrong way, but ...

... it has been proven through science and some amazing research that there are certain shapes that men and women "typically" look for.

Now, I'm not saying that one should try every diet and kill themself just to look like a movie star or to get a date. I just wanted to point out that there is something hard-wired in us to be natuarlly attracted to certain shapes and sizes and we connect those shapes and sizes with emotional reponses.

I have a friend who would really like to be in a relationship but is struggling. And, he has a beach ball for a stomach. Knowing the nature of attraction, I think if he lost about 20 (or maybe 30 in his case) pounds, he'd be more attractive to the opposite sex.

Tuesday, July 25, 2006, 5:42 PM

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I agree that a hot body will turn anyone's head, but she isn't looking for a one night stand...she wants a boyfriend. There are plenty of folks, me included, who have never had that certain shape that you talk about, but I still managed to find the man of my dreams and he supports and loves me no matter what my shape is. By the way, round is a shape! :)
Anyway, the point is that self-confidence and a great smile will turn heads too and is more likely to maintain the interest of a good man than a hot body will. :) If you are overweight and that makes you feel self-conscious or unattractive, then you will give off that vibe and have problems in any relationship. So, focus on being healthy inside and out and then see what happens!
Good luck OP.

Tuesday, July 25, 2006, 7:29 PM

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