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Is your significant other smaller than you?

Is you partner smaller or healthier than you? Does it ever make you feel down? My boyfriend is a buff soccer player and at times it has me wondering why did he pick me? How do you feel about it?

Fri. Jul 28, 12:23pm

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My boyfriend is definitely not smaller (and I wish he would start working out) but I definitely crave junk food and will say, lets go get ice cream and he's like no Ill just have an apple. He loooveees fruits and vegetables and while some may think, wow thats really great, it makes me feel fat and disgusting when I know I want junk!

Friday, July 28, 2006, 12:28 PM

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hehe.. my husband isn't active at all. He's a computer programmer and I'm constantly on his case about working out and getting in shape. (just because I want us both to be able to keep up with each other when we're eighty.

He's really careful about what he eats though, since he knows he's not moving much. It makes me feel like a horse when I eat twice as much dinner as he does. :( It's almost embarrassing sometimes.

we've actually come out and started talking about it recently, and I've been cutting back what I'm eating so my portion sizes match his a bit more. It's also a pretty nice feeling of accomplishment when I watch him hogging out on chocolate chip cookies and I pass the plate :D

Friday, July 28, 2006, 12:33 PM

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I dated a guy that was smaller than me and I really didn't like it. Not because I felt fat, I wasn't attracted to him. Who knows if it was the physique or the personality at this point though...

Friday, July 28, 2006, 12:49 PM

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My boyfriend and I were the same size for a few years (150 pounds). Now I am down 30 pounds and he is up 10. He has no interest in exercise or healthy eating. It sucks.

Friday, July 28, 2006, 1:05 PM

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My fiance is much bigger than me (i'm 130 and he is about 205) but he's not fat at all, just big. He eats well and exercises like me. I love that we have the same lifestyle and LOVE how much bigger than me he is! It would be hard if we weren't both health concious though...

Friday, July 28, 2006, 1:18 PM

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my boyfriend too is a computer programmer and isn't active at all. It drives me crazy!!! I was active and eating healthy long before we met-and only recently have i been wanting to change his eating habits (doctor says his cholesterol is too high for his age . . .future problems if he doesn't do something). He is bigger than me (i'm 5ft 3, 165 lbs and he is 6ft 1, 212 lbs), and always goes back for second portions, skips breakfast, eats unhealthy lunches . . .yet i'm the one who will binge on the ice cream or other sweets if their in the house. He'll have a bite and be like "mmm, that's good" and that's all he'll have! haha!

the last few weeks i have been able to get him to go for a few walks after dinner with me . . .so that's a start!

Friday, July 28, 2006, 1:29 PM

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My husband is a programmer too! However he runs 4x a week, lifts weights 2x a week and for the most part eats very healthfully. For the longest time I was 10 pounds heavier than him, but now I'm 13 pounds lighter :-) Our problem is that we'll cave in to the convenience of pre-packaged convenience food or eat out waaay too often. I'll gain weight doing that, but he won't gain an ounce :-( Ah well - at least he enjoys my new and improved healthy cooking and is active. It would be a lot harder if all he did was sit around and game or watch tv. Instead he's so very thrilled that I am becoming more active and healthy that he's happy to go do things with me (like hiking, walks, etc..) because he too wants us to be able to keep up with each other when we're eighty.

Friday, July 28, 2006, 1:43 PM

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I'm single, but I've always had an issue with not wanting to feel big around a significant other. I'm tall (5'9'') and I carry my weight well... though I need to lose about 30 lbs to be in a good state health wise. I hate that I feel BIG around some men. I'd like to feel small, so I'm much more attracted to men that are tall and have a nice stature. (aren't we all?)

Friday, July 28, 2006, 3:19 PM

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I'm lucky - I'm only 5'1", so most guys are big to me! My fiance is 5'8", not tall, but taller than me no matter what heels I wear!

But... a year ago, we both weighed about 130 lbs! I hated that! I didn't look too fat and he didn't look too thin, but clearly, proportionately, I'll always be bigger.

Now, I'm 120 lbs, and he's 140 lbs. He's still "skinnier," but I feel way better about it!!

Friday, July 28, 2006, 5:08 PM

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My husband is a programmer too!!! :<)

My husband is a programmer and does not work out. However, he has always been super skinny and pretty much smaller than me the whole time I have known him. He has tried to put on muscle mass in the past, but it just didn't work out for him. Eggs and protein shakes and tuna mixed with lifting...He increased his strength but didn't realy increase mass.

I don't think I will ever be smaller than him. It sucks. As the female there is this social stigma that we should be smaller than our male counterparts. My best friend dates a really big dude, she says she feels tiny standing next to him. I don't think I'll ever have that pleasure.

Friday, July 28, 2006, 8:59 PM

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