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have you ever met a lover/life partner through internet?

I am starting to meet people on some websites, and I am realizing how much of a resource the web is as far as meeting people on a wider scale.

Anyone have luck with this process, would love to hear your story!

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Mon. Aug 21, 7:59pm

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My roommate just bought a house with a guy she met on Match.com. In two weeks they'll be celebrating their 1 year anniversary. I can't give you details since it's not my story, but it's worked out for them.

Monday, August 21, 2006, 8:05 PM

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My sister is going to marry the guy she met online this fall. I also know two other people who are married to people they met online. Just be safe.

Monday, August 21, 2006, 8:13 PM

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I met my significant other online over five years ago. We are very close and bonded well, even from across the country originally. It's just another way to meet people that you connect well with and weed out the not so great up front.

Have fun, be safe and enjoy the experiences!

Monday, August 21, 2006, 8:13 PM

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I just celebrated my 1 year anniversary with a guy I met on an online dating site! I know a lot of people who met onilne. I highly reccomend it. I actually had a great time with it. You meet a lot more people than you would any other way and it also gives you a chance to get to know aspects of a person's personality you might not get to know right away when you meet somebody in a more traditional way. I thought it was great. There are creeps out there, but just like in dating in real life, you have to be smart and use your best judgement.

Monday, August 21, 2006, 8:44 PM

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I think as long as the web is not your only social outlet it is a wonderful tool for meeting those with similar interests who you might not normally run into (or have a chance to befriend) IRL. It gives you a chance to correspond with someone and then decide wether or not you'd like to meet. I think any negative connotations come in from those who abuse this tool and use it to prey on others. I know several people who met their SO's online and, as of now, they are all still going strong. i didn't meet my husband there but I met almost my entire circle of friends there (with whom I am quite close) and we use Yahoo Groups to keep up with each other's day-to-day lives in between get-togethers. Thus, not only did we meet online, but we still socialize there. To me the trick is to make certain you connect most often in the material world, not the online one.

Monday, August 21, 2006, 9:14 PM

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My hubby and I have been married for 7 years now. We met almost 10 years ago online but did not have an agenda to meet people to date or marry. I was looking for a computer network mentor as I put in a complex new computer lab. We talked professionally and then personally for 6 months before ever meeting each other in real life.

The big drawback to meeting people online is that we tend to fill in all the gaps with our own made-up perfection. Like, you have no idea if that other person is a perpetual nose-picker or is rude to wait staff. Those little but important things are only discovered when you spend actual space and time with a person.

Monday, August 21, 2006, 10:16 PM

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I met my husband online two years ago. We've been married a year and a half now and couldn't be happier. We make people sick (really, LOL). Good luck to you.

Kate (kissmekate02)

Monday, August 21, 2006, 10:18 PM

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i met my wife online 2 yrs ago. best decision i made in my life. she was in Los Angeles to Chicago. She dropped everything and moved her with me. She makes half as much as she did there and is without her family and is trying to find right people to click with socially. All in all we are very much in love.

Monday, August 21, 2006, 10:27 PM

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I have had some nice realtionships with people I met on line, but none that have succeeded ... BUT I am not giving up because I know three couples who met on-line and married over the past three years - they are the happiest couples I know!

Monday, August 21, 2006, 10:40 PM

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I met my boyfriend on LavaLife 3 years ago. This summer, I went to the weddings of two other LavaLife hook-up couples.
It's a totally viable option when you've exprired all your other options (friends' friends, the people in your neighbourhood etc). As long as you're not meeting in a dark alley on your first date, go for it!

Monday, August 21, 2006, 11:12 PM

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10:27: your situation sounds very much like mine. :) My husband lived in MS and I lived in PA. We met each other on a silly online video game while we were both in college. The funny part is that the first couple months I knew him on the game I hated his guts.. lol

He dropped his whole life down there to move up, change schools, and date me. I started the Anniversary thread not too long ago since this friday's our fifth. :)

I've had more luck meeting people online in coincidental places like games and forums and such. I've found a lot of people on networking sites are just trying too hard. I know it's worked out for some people though, and I wouldn't trade my guy for all the tea in China. (and that's saying something because I REALLY love tea.)

:D

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 7:14 AM

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I met my husband 7 years ago online, we have been married for 5 years. Many of my friends have met spouses online, just went to a wedding last month;thye met through E-Harmony.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 8:57 AM

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My sister and her husband met online and have been together for several years... they were just married in June!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:32 AM

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I had a lovely fling with a girl i'm still friends with who i met on craigslist, and have dated a few men/boys i messaged on myspace or friendster. last night i went on a quasi-date with a craigslister who responded to MY ad- so far so good!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:27 AM

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my landlady met a great man last year on a dating site (match.com, i think). she joined because her friend found success dating that way and she encouraged my landlady to try it. well, it's been about 15 months, and the man she met proposed last week !! they seem to have a great relationship, and the initial awkwardness / quirkiness surrounding the way they met doesn't even exist anymore. best of luck! just remember to use your judgement, just as you would in any other setting.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:48 AM

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My brother met his wife on one of the dating sites as well (not sure which one.) It turned out that she worked for one of our aunts in the town next door to the one where my brother was living at the time!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:06 AM

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My sister-in-law met someone through match.com -- they dated a year and then got engaged! Now they are married and expecting their first child in December. They make a great couple!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 12:03 PM

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My friend met her BF on EHarmony.com. They'll be married next year!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 12:04 PM

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I met my BF of 1 1/2 years on the internet. We are really really good together and I love him very much. I don't imagine us moving in together/getting married anytime soon because neither of us want to move our kids out of their current schools. I found the internet a nice place to meet people and tell them certain details about me, (details that turn alot of guys off), without having to meet them and deal with the will he won't he call situation....

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 5:14 PM

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together 3 yrs here. met on match.com.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 5:29 PM

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my sis & her fiance met on match.com and my bro and his gf met on eharmony. (me and my BF, well, we met at AA!)

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:39 PM

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oh yeah I posted earlier, and wanted to say though I did meet on Match.com, and always talked on the phone prior to a meet, and always meet in 1) A place I knew would be full of people but quiet enough to talk and 2) I knew how to get there and back because there is nothing worse then not knowing where you are!

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 10:21 PM

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I met my fiancee in December through American Singles. We got engaged in March. We are planning a wedding in May 2007. We are completely "perfect" for each other ..... more so than any other relationship in my life and I have been in some very long term relationships. I highly recommend dating on the internet, however, take your time. I went out on dates with many men from the Internet............a lot of strange people, people you don't click with, etc etc etc. But I finally found "him" :)

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 11:45 PM

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i met my bf over the internet

i am now 17 years old wen i was 14 i went into a aol chat room and met this rele amazing boy called dave we carried on tlking for two years untill we both plucked up the courage to meet eachother last year when i was 16 we were both so in love with eachother that we couldnt wait or bear the thought of eachother being with anyone eles as we knew we were made for eachothe so we met eachother in southsea portsmouth where he lived and we have been happiley together ever since we are so both in love its amazing i love you sooooo uch baby ave if you see ths

Wednesday, January 10, 2007, 7:59 PM

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I am currently engaged to a wonderful man that I met online. At first I was really scared and unsure about the whole online thing, but I had just moved across country and it seemed worth a try. I definatly wasnt trying to meet the love of my life- I was just curious. But it was a great way to find someone who has the same interests and desires as yourself.

One thing I do have to say though....is that you are a little too late. I arleady found the best man online has to offer :)

Wednesday, January 10, 2007, 10:12 PM

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My mom met my step-dad on the internet through yahoo personals.
He was advertising for a running partner, and he got a wife!
Best match ever. Can't hurt to try it out yourself!


Wednesday, January 10, 2007, 10:32 PM

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I met my husband in an IRC chat room when I was in college. We talked for 4 years before we ever met. When we met, we were even more madly in love than we were online. We got married and now have a 3 yr old. The hardest thing for us has been to combine each of our lives - I had friends from PA, he had friends from TX. There were a lot of quirks to understand between each other. I think it helps for him to know my friends, and the people I grew up with, as much as it helps me to know his friends.

So, I totally support online dating, and some people get lucky and really make a good match. My one piece of advice - pay for your dating site. Regardless of what site you use, you will find the people who are serious about meeting people will not have a free account.

Thursday, January 11, 2007, 7:30 AM

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MET MY HUSBAND ON MATCH.COM

I found my one great love on the internet in 2003, and we have been married about a year and a half. We are expecting our first child in June, and we couldn't be happier!

Neither of us was looking for a mate, just someone cool to hang out with. I just wanted to expand my social circle, and it was the best thing I ever did. I made sure to be very honest about myself (more overweight than not, can be grumpy, etc.). The thing that I liked best about the online process was that I could scroll thru the profiles of guys, and was able to weed out pretty quickly what I wasn't into by what they listed. I am not into Nascar, so I wasn't about to try to meet a guy who goes to races every weekend, etc.

The neatest part was that neither of us had posted pictures yet, but got to talking and just hit it off. While we are very much into a lot of the same things, I never would have had the opportunity to meet him as we ran in very different circles (he works in video games, I was in human services).

We had our first meeting/date at a local restaurant, and that is where he proposed a year later.

I wish you the best of luck. Be open to the idea of just meeting neat people, and look to expand your social circle...you'd be surprised what you may find!!!

Time2Lose (Nicole)

Thursday, January 11, 2007, 8:49 AM

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I met him through a site called WAYN (where are you now)
He added me
we chatted for 2-3 years.
He lives in another state from me about 3 hours flight away.

Saved up the money and got the courage to go and meet him.
I stayed with him for 10 days, was the best days of my life so far.
& six months late of chatting again, im going back to stay with him in 2 weeks, for a month!

Monday, October 01, 2007, 11:44 AM

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YES! Married 5 years now!

Monday, October 01, 2007, 12:00 PM

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yep...and we've been married for over two years and are expecting our first baby this month!

Monday, October 01, 2007, 12:57 PM

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Yes..married 6 years last July

Monday, October 01, 2007, 5:54 PM

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Yes, married five years, no regrets!

Monday, October 01, 2007, 10:30 PM

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Just married, now pregnant, very happy -- thanks to match

4 years ago I got fed up with trying to meet men the "normal way" -- I took a lot of fun classes (filled with single women), went to bars (ugh), art galleries, and met friends' friends. Oh, and met someone in a cafe who during our first date freaked out upon learning I had a higher degree (he practically keeled over). I watched Harold and Maude one night, and said, dammit, I'm going to grab life by the horns! (because I was terrified to do match.com for some reason) Anyway, within a week I was emailing back and forth with a wonderful man, then some phone calls, then the first date... now we are married and starting our family. He is fantastic, and I would *never* have had the chance to meet him otherwise.
So go for it! Esp in a big city, there is a huge cross-section of perfectly normal single people. I think match is best because a) it is huge, b) since people write their own profiles, IMO they are HIGHLY revealing of true personality if you know how to read them, c) it's pretty cheap. My tips are 1) esp if a woman, write your profile honestly, "warts and all". Create your own jerk filter. Remember, you don't want EVERYONE to want to contact you, you only want the people who would really like YOU to contact you. For me, a PhD and "a few pounds to lose" were excellent jerk filters. But have friends edit it for you too. 2) Read profiles with a skeptics' eye -- if they sound perfect, run away. 3) if a woman, wink people -- this gives you some control, and you won't just be responding to the guys who contact everybody. 4) look for signs of integrity -- does he pose with his hot rod? Does he want a thin blonde five years younger? Bad signs. Does he seem open, kind, down-to-earth, honest, perhaps not wealthy but stable and mature? Good signs.
-- Good luck and have fun!

Tuesday, October 02, 2007, 10:23 AM

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friday is my 3rd year anniversary.. very happy andmuch in love.. best thing ever! hes amazing

Tuesday, October 02, 2007, 1:24 PM

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I met my BF on Match.com. We have been together officially for 8 months. I hesitated about doing this because I was going through a divorce about a year and a half earlier but with much encouragement I did it. I am so happy that I did. My BF's sister was the one who put him on Match and the funny thing is I've known her for years and didn't even know she had a brother!!! She saw my pic and profile on there and emailed me!! My BF and I started emailing and talking of the phone in October of last year and we finally met for our first date in February of this year. We have been together ever since!! So yes it is possible to find that one person on-line!!! Good luck!!!


Tuesday, October 02, 2007, 2:05 PM

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myspace

mine is a funny story.

i met my now husband on myspace. i have a few of my oil painting on there are he commented on it. i told him thank you and we started messaging some. i found out that he went to the same highschool as me and graduated only one year before.

i knew who he was but didn't really know him. i then found out that he did technology for the local school district which is where my mom and several of my aunts work. i asked my mom about him and she was like "oh yea i know him, he works on my computer all the time. and i taught him second grade"

CRAZY!

we started spending all our free time together and the rest is history. :)

Tuesday, October 02, 2007, 2:33 PM

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I have a family member who's spouse met someone online and left the kids and went and married the person. They are now divorced. Not just my family member but who the person later married.
Then this family member of mine met someone online and they married. Been married 6 or 7 years now.

If you ask me they are nuts. How can you know the person? People can say whatever they want and you never know.
I would be VERY cautious.

Tuesday, October 02, 2007, 11:25 PM

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Mine's a ridiculous story. *nervous laugh* I met my boyfriend on a "adult video" sharing forum and website. Certainly neither of us was looking for a romantic partner, but he had a good user-name, and posted interesting content. i wrote him, and the first IM conversation we had lasted 10 hours. He was more nervous than I was. I had to push him to call me teh first time. And it took a year of talking for hours every day before he came to meet me. We've been dating for over a year now, and it's brilliant.

It's rare to find so close a friend this way. I see him every three weeks for several days at a time. He's the most sensible, solid, kind person I know.

Wednesday, October 03, 2007, 3:32 AM

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I met my bf on line on a poetry site...we have been together 4 years and I moved from another state to be with him-we are very happy and in love...never thought I would do something like this, just kinda happened...our kids get along great, we have fun ( even if being in a different state w/o my family) but I am starting to go back and forth and see them more, so now the best of both worlds!!
I agree about being safe...I have never done the 'on line' thing but just be careful!

Wednesday, October 03, 2007, 10:58 AM

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why are there so many silly topics like this on Pt when we should be talking about ways to eat healthy and trim fat?


Monday, October 08, 2007, 1:58 PM

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will we live happily ever after?

haha, i just registered on this site JUST to post this comment.
Okay well. Theres this boy called Ross. He's been one of my msn contacts for about 2 years. And i've been talking to him for about 8 months. I met him through a friend, it was on bebo. It's really sad, I know. he's 2 years older than me. I'm still in school he's in college. we talk on the phone, and we always can't stop talking everytime we talk to eachother, seriously we never have those akward quiet moments, we jsut keep on talking, we can never shut up, esspecially when we have to go. we make youtube videos for eachother lmfao. I know he's not a paedofile by the way. and we've already talked about getting married ahaha, we sound proper crazy, everytime i've told my friends they're jsut like 'what the hell?', and i've promised not to have a boyfriend till i meet him ahahahahaha. he has his driving lessons next feburary, so he can come up and meet me (he lives right across the country from me) but we hope we meet before then. OH and also, his step dad hates me and really doesn't approve of me. he thinks i'm gonna put his son on the sex offenders list or something, so we have to talk secretly. he's been caught talking to me about twice, and he always gets his stuff taken off him (ie. pc, ipod, phone) and his step dad said if he talks to me again, he'll get kicked out. we both think this is all exciting and stuff but i really don't want him too get kicked out but the thing is i love him LOADS he's
my homeboy, he can't stop talking to me, otherwise i'd be so upset :(. i'd be so bored, with just a normal life. the funny thing is, before i started talking to him, i'd always go out and party and stuff, and get into trouble, but i've stopped all of a sudden, everyone has noticed. but even when i always went out and partied and stuff, i was never really as happy as i am now. i just can't wait to meet him. he wrote me a letter it was well cute :) we have so many views in common and we like the same usual stuff like music and everything, and i don't think i'll ever find anyone like him. aha, he made me promise him that we'll get married and live happily ever after. he's well fit too LOL. we're still kids right now, I know. and all of you are proberly like 'oh she's so naive at that age' but i really do hope it'll work out, how exciting would that kind of life be.

(graveofopportunityx)
I wish i could put my name and my e-mail, but if his step dad likes googles me and this page comes up, then he'll get kicked out. :(
i'm glad it worked out for all of you!
<333

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