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I need some serious guidance.. I cannot stop eating!
I am 21, going back to school for my senior year in college, and weigh almoist 170 lbs. I never used to make it above 160 no matter what I ate, but I am starting to blow up! I do think I have a pretty face and I really dont want to be overweight. I have lost 15 -20 punds 2 or 3 times in the past before and looked good but I cannot seem to do it anymore. I can stay ona diet for 3 or 4 days then I cave in once and say screw the whole thing, Id rather be a little overweight and enjoy life.
But then today I went to Khols to try on some new clothes and everything barely fits and looks horrendous on me- I almost started crying.
I can tell my boyfriend would prefer it if I ws a little smaller although he would never say it and loves me no matter what- but I want to feel more atrractive to him and more self confident when I am with him and in genereal for myself.
I feel like I have tried everything and cannot stick to anything. I need something with s a strong start to get me moitvated.. anyone with any ideas, please help! I am soooooo frustrated.

Tue. Aug 22, 9:18pm

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well, i'm glad you found PT. this is a good place to start the getting healthy journey. perhaps take it one step at a time... write in your food journal everyday and start to look at how healthy your choices are. start counting calories if need be. if you're not exercising, start with walks 3x a week. if you do exercise, add another session or get a new video to shake up the routine. read other people's logs... how are they doing it? the biggest thing i learned on PT is not to give up b/c i ate too much at one meal or for one day... this is a lifetime change and everyday will not be perfect. getting back on track is key, that's what i learned from my fellow PTers. good luck to ye, OP.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:33 PM

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start small. What have you changed that you use to not do? I know I have gained a few pounds, it is because I am a stress eater. Now that I have figured it out, I am only eating what sounds really good at meal times, then I am done till the next meal. This idea could help you, I know it is helping me.

Tuesday, August 22, 2006, 9:48 PM

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Try to enlist the support of your friends and/or family - anyone who will encourage you as you strive towards your goals. If you're in a good PT group, you should be getting support and feedback from others.
Maybe your diet approach is too strict and so that's why you cave in by the 4th or 5th day. I might suggest taking things slowly as you change and modify your diet. Just incorporate one or two changes that you can stick with and make a habit and then add more changes each week or every other week. Also, like another poster mentioned, do you know what triggers your eating? Stress? Emotions? Try and pinpoint it and maybe it'll help - b/c then you can try and avoid those situations.
Also, are you doing any exercise or is food your main focus right now? I would recommend exercising b/c it helps with the weight but it also helps in having a more positive outlook on life b/c of all the endorphins it releases. I also notice that I feel a lot better about my body image when I work out regularly. Can you sign up for some aerobics/kinesiology classes at school?

Good luck and hang in there! =)

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 1:06 AM

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What goes wrong after 3 or 4 days on a diet? Are you eating enough? Are you eating foods you like? There is no time like the present to create a healthy lifestyle for yourself that you can take with you when you leave college and embark on the rest of life. Keeping track of everything you eat (both when you are "dieting," when you are "blowing your diet" and everything in between will help you (and anyone you might consult) to better understand your eating - what you do that works, what you do that doesn't work and what might take a little bit of tweaking. If your school's health center has a nutritionist or even a really helpful nurse or nurse practioner, you might try sitting down w/that person to figure out a healthy eating plan. If you can't find someone like that (or even if you can), then you might try a mainstream plan like Weight Watchers or something (which you can do on-line if you prefer and/or there aren't groups in your area) to provide you with a structure to create a healthy approach to eating. As for exercising, now is the perfect time to figure out what kinds of activities you enjoy and how you can incorporate them into your lifestyle. It only gets harder to find time to figure out, much less find time to do, activities that you like once you are working full time. Maybe you will like running or weight lifting or swimming or yoga or karate or hiking or taking long walks. It doesn't really matter what kinds of physical activity you like, but you will need to find something you like enough to find time to do every week, even when you have a full-time job (and later, perhaps, a house to clean, children to take care of, in-laws to deal with, etc., etc.) Healthy eating and physical activity are key for the rest of your life. If you take time now to figure out how to incorporate these things into your life, you will find the healthy weight for you and you will figure out how to stay at that weight throughout life's many challenges.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 6:12 AM

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Sometimes it helps to get a whole new mindset. Once, in total frustration with my diet, I walked into a bookstore, stood in the diet aisle for a long time, pulled down some diet books that looked interesting, and sat on the floor looking through them until I found a diet I thought I could handle. I bought the book. It took me about a week to adjust to the new mindset and learn to eat by the new method. I went on to lose 30 pounds with that diet book. One nice thing about a book is that it is always available to read and re-read for encouragement and help.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 9:40 AM

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I think we all feel your pain! It is hard to lose weight when you feel like you are depriving yourself of certain foods. That is what always caused me to fall off the wagon. I have changed my whole mindset and my whole lifestyle has changed. Cut out all fast food, if you haven't already. Only go out to eat once every two or three weeks.
I started weight watchers and it is working really well. Portion control is huge, and one of the things that I have struggled with.
I agree with above posters, log your food on pt, everything you put in your mouth. Sometimes it is suprising how much you are really eating once you really start to log every single thing you eat.
Good luck!! Don't give will feel so much better in the long run being at a weight you are comfortable with.

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 10:18 AM

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i think by changing your thinking to "eating for nutrition not fulfillment" might help. you can still enjoy life and enjoy great foods, but maybe by altering what you evaluate as good food could offer some relief. and i have found that by not DIETING but just instead eating small portions and really focusing on the question "what does this food offer me nutritionally?", i have greatly decreased cravings. don't be fooled-this takes time and a lot of effort. you can jump-start a car, but will need to maintain its engine, check out the fuel and other fluids it needs, and get it checked out regularly at certain mile-markers. it will be the same with your body. please do not give into the tempting, highly marketed, so-called miracle-cures that you may come across. YOU CAN DO THIS! think of this as a non-accredited course that deserves as much time and effort as your other classes...

Wednesday, August 23, 2006, 10:37 AM

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