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Women with Shorter bf/husbands

I am really having a problem choosing between two guys....

One is my ish height but smaller framed...

One is taller and thinish

Issue: I am tall and not big but bigger then the shorter guy in terms of physical size... and the other guy I'm just chubbier but I still look comparitivley smaller...

Please tell me ladies, how you got past the fact your husband/bf was shorter/smaller then you. Thanks!

Sat. Sep 9, 6:55pm

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I had several boyfriends who were shorter than me and I hate to say it but I never could get over the 'sisterly' feeling I would get leaning down to kiss them. I was also physically stronger than them too, so I'm not sure if I would have felt less so if the guys had been a bit buffer. I realize the polite, correct thing to say would be 'go for the guy with the best personality', but the physical attraction would just fizzle when any attempts at kissing started and so that was the end of it as far as i was concerned. My husband isn't much taller than me, but that's just fine. Also - he was skinnier than me when we got together but now I am :-) (because I've lost not because he gained I'm happy to say)

Saturday, September 09, 2006, 7:17 PM

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I think that either it bothers you or it doesn't, and you have to be realistic about what turns you on.

Personally, shorter guys have never been a problem for me. (Was it Heinlein who observed that everyone's the same height lying down?) But I'm turned off by chubby guys. And I have to work with that -- I can't make the chemistry happen if it's just not there.

Saturday, September 09, 2006, 10:33 PM

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My boyfriend is shorter then me and it's just not a problem... I love him and he's certainly the guy for me... I had the chanced of dating a guy who is 6'7" and built great, my bf is 5'7" and on the thinner side (certainly smaller then I am) and it just doesn't matter, he makes me feel gorgeous and sexy and he loves me and the height thing just melts away in importance after that, and yeah, I'm conscious of it every now and then, but it's definitely not something that would keep me from being with him... but at first, it took me a little bit to get used to the idea, haha... good luck with your decision!

Sunday, September 10, 2006, 7:26 AM

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Anyone else? I'm not the op but I'd like to hear from more of you!!!!!!

Sunday, September 10, 2006, 2:50 PM

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My husband is about an inch shorter than me in bare feet, but I wear heels a lot so it seems like I'm a lot taller. It's never bothered either of us; in fact I never have really given any thought to it. I guess I'm just not that superficial to think that it would matter. I know guys are usually more sensitive about being shorter than the woman, but my husband doesn't really care either.

Sunday, September 10, 2006, 8:58 PM

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If it doesn't bother them...

At 5'11", it's easy for me to have a shorter counterpart. I've found that the ones it bother, it bothers me. On the flip side, my bf is about 4 inches shorter and LOVES the looks he gets walking around with me, especially when I'm in heels. He says it makes the other men wonder what he's got going on to keep that much woman happy. ;)

Sunday, September 10, 2006, 9:49 PM

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I am 5'11 and I can't get past it. I've tried.

I can do 5'10 but that is the most I can go shorter.

I personally do not like having sex with a person who is much shorter (more than a few inches) than me.

Sunday, September 10, 2006, 10:56 PM

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Seems odd that this is even an issue. Who do you like more? How do you feel when your with them? If you can't get past the height issue now chances are you won't in the future. It might always bother you. Of course I'm 5'3 so I have never had that issue. I have certainly dated men who were short but damn were they built like a brick shit house. I often notice the shorter guys are really well proportioned. Good luck.

Monday, September 11, 2006, 1:43 AM

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hmmmm-for me, general attraction has always made the height thing a non-issue. i definitely have found myself really attracted to men who we short and/or thinner than me and i got over it.

if it's that much of an issue for you, perhaps you aren't that into this guy for other reasons?

Monday, September 11, 2006, 1:49 PM

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Women with Shorter bf/husband

I have a shorter boyfriend right now. But I really like him. He is smart, cute, and funny. Yeah, he may not reach my face, my chest, buy he is really sweet. He talks to me, we have a lot in common and before I really didn't like him, I thought we would never wor but I gave it a try because I thought he was nice and I knew he liked me ever since we met. Now I am happy I said yes to him.

It doesnt matter if he is short or wimpy, but helikes you for you he's nice, funny and smart. That's my kind of guy. :-)


Saturday, May 09, 2009, 7:50 PM

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for me, its not so much about the guy.. I think shorter guys are sexy too. but I am tall and I cant go with a shorter guy.. and its not becuse im not attracted to them.. its because of how it makes ME feel. I feel like amazon woman with them and I dont like that feeling.. I would rather feel like the smaller one.. perhaps an insecurity but thats just the way it makes me feel.

Monday, May 11, 2009, 3:23 AM

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I liked being with someone around my height. (now married to someone taller, but height was not the deciding factor.) With same height man you can see eye to eye. You don't get crushed during sex when he's on type. And I alwys thought one guy i'm thinking of felt he had to be good at sex and he was !!! I di d have to get past the feeling like an Amazon because he wore smaller jeans, but it was worth it. I was sorry we weren't ultimately a match, but not due to physical reasons -- more due to living in different cities and having some differences that made a committed, long term relationship diffcult.

Monday, May 11, 2009, 10:42 PM

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I'm short, 5 ft. tall and I don't like being with guys my height. I feel like we're a couple of little dolls that look so small and cute. It is unattractive to me, and everyone probably thinks how perfect to pair us up~Yuck.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009, 6:12 AM

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I'm only 5'2.5" so I don't have the issue of a guy being taller than me but I have had issues with guys being skinnier than me. For a good part of my life, most of my boyfriends were 20-40 lbs lighter than I was and skinny as a stick. I wouldn't really mind it so much unless they made comments about how fat I was compared to them, which unfortunately most, if not all of them did, a lot, which is why I'm not with them anymore.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009, 6:24 PM

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short boyfriend

yup - mines short - really really short! Im 5'8" hes 5'4". He was thiner when we first got together over 4 years ago - and I find that now that Im getting my life together - career and health wise, its really bothering me that hes not really pulling his weight - for lack of a better term! oh well...

Friday, July 03, 2009, 10:01 PM

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I'm 5'7" and He's 5'3"

My bf is great! Some of my friends have a hard time accepting the height difference and some have actually distanced themselves from me because of it. I have even found out that they have talked about me and my bf behind my back. Right now, I am distancing myself from them...... pretty sad, right?

Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 9:27 PM

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good story- I am about 1/2 inch taller than my bf- not a big deal unless you factor in fun shoes. I mentioned this factor to a fun, stylish friend with a shorter husband, and she told me "you've just got to get over it. wear what looks best and don't worry about the height difference." From that point on I have made a conscious decision that I will not let it bother me!

Wednesday, September 23, 2009, 9:37 PM

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im 5'9.5'' hes 5'6''

he is much shorter than me specially when i wear heels cuz with my heels im 6ft. in the begining i was dating another guy and my boyfriend now and i really liked the taller guy better cuz i had to look up to see him and he was attractive so is my boyfriend but i couldnt get his height out of my head! then the taller guy turned out to be a douche was never really real with me 100% on the other hand my bf a chef cooked for me introduced me to his parents and family and wanted to meet my mom(i kept putting it off cuz i already knew my mom wouldnt like it) anyway he never cared about the height he actually likes taller girls. and now i dont really notice it anymore because he just treats me so good<3

Monday, October 18, 2010, 2:09 PM

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Ok...I was so hung up on the height thing that I cancelled my first date with my husband. Later, I realized that there were so many other qualities that were important to me...that the height thing was not high on the list. My husband is 1.5 inches shorter than good looking, loving, successful, a great dad and has a great sense of humor. We are in our mid-50's now. Funny, some of those studly taller guys that were in the running now look much older, are unstable, fat, and lots of other things that I would not have seen coming. Choose for the substance...height is superficial. Besides, my husband once said (when I was dating him and asked him if my height bothered him) no...he figured everyone would just look at him with the tall beautiful woman and wonder what he had! He still thinks I'm hot...and that's not a bad thing!! :-)

Wednesday, October 20, 2010, 4:20 PM

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