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Starting a new one because it needs to be said. Some of you sit here and complain, well if that approach worked, you wouldn't be complaining anymore.

Stop whining and start doing something. Anything.

Wed. Oct 11, 11:14am

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don't you think that people who are on this sight are doing something? what you see as complaining, i see as venting and sharing experiences in an attempt to point out to others and ourselves that we are not alone in our struggles. the people you ought to preach to are those not yet familiar with a sight like this one. why not direct your energy into recruiting people for peertrainer or a local gym? obviously people who are here have done something already...

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:18 AM

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While tough love can be great, of course, not everyone finds tough love useful in their weight loss efforts. But I'm sure others will be sure to let you know!

Hope you're finding this site helpful for your needs!

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:21 AM

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i agree with the second poster. most of us on here are doing something!

who are you that you are so perfect? do you never need to vent? do you never slip up? tough love works when given w/ love not from a complete stranger who doesn't know the personal struggles of those they are addressing.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:36 AM

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yeah, i think you might do better to turn some of that love towards yourself.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:41 AM

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While I agree in principle that most of us on this site are 'doing something' just by being here. I'm not sure that I agree completely. I've been in many groups where people join, but don't log or post, or even take active steps towards managing and working on their goal.

It IS tough and not everyone is ready to jump in with both feet. But in my mind, being on PT and not actively engaging with your log, groups, and exercise goals, is sort of like buying a gym membership but not going, or just reading a book on weight loss, but not incorporating the changes in your life.

Sometimes I think 'tough love' gets a bad rap, really what we are talking about is 'honesty' and 'candor.' Sugar coating doesn't help you lose weight.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:42 AM

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i'm sorry, but referring to someone's perspective of their struggle as bullsh*t and advising to get off one's fat bum is not productive. i can't find honesty or candor in these comments. these are blind opinions that were offered. agreeably, buying a gym membership and not going is defeating in and of itself, but those who don't participate actively on their logs or in their groups/teams can at least see that others are making strides towards reaching the goals they have set for themselves and that is motivating. the first step to fixing a problem is to admit it exists...people have taken that step and should not be blasted for progressing more slowly than others or byneeding more emotional support than others. i'm not one to sugar coat things, but i am decent and respectful to others when offering my opinions.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:49 AM

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There's a line between honesty and nastiness & I think the OP was more on the nastiness side of that line.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 11:54 AM

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You know I think your secretly morbidly obese and hate yourself for it. That's the only explaination why you take a topic that has nothing to do with complaining and turn it into a I hate complainers then start a whole new post on the topic.

Grow up.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 12:46 PM

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i don't see a correlation between being morbidly obese and being downright nasty. are you one of the people who think fat people are angry? i think you could use your own advise to grow up. your comments are no more productive than the original post.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006, 12:52 PM

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