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A change needed in PT etiquitte

Look, we all know that we come from different places, we work different jobs, lead different lifestyles. Some of us are married with kids, some of us are students, some of us are very religious, some of us aren't. We've been brought up in different ways and we have different approaches to our fitness goals and we feel comfortable discussing certain things, and uncomfortable discussing others. But I really find it upsetting how much arguing goes on in some posts. It seems like many people are offended by certain subject topics and the thread becomes a fight rather than answering the actual OP who just wanted some opinions or advice. Maybe we could try to make it a general rule that the subject of the post is clear in its title, whether it be sex or bodily functions or anything, and those who find that offensive or disgusting and dont want to actually answer the post just wont open it! This is an open discussion board, and if the person really IS out of line then no one will respond and they'll get the picture. Right now there are 0 responses to posts as simple as " ideal weight question" and over 80 is response to one simple post about sex. No matter our differences we all came here for support, meaning we were all adult enough to realize that we needed it. lets start acting like the adults that we are:)

Tue. Oct 24, 8:06pm

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as an FYI, we have been taking a real hands off policy recently in terms of "policing" the threads. There have been a lot of essentially rude comments that we have let go, simply for the sake of open discourse. When someone is being a total jerk, do you want us to leave it up there, or is there some stuff that we should take down- for the sake of etiquette?


Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 8:15 PM

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I was just thinking earlier today that the threads have been rather "drama -free" this week. :-)

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 8:43 PM

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here's my own personal rule: if you are opening the post to laugh at it or criticize the differences between you and the OP, perhaps your comments won't be too welcome. feel free to read what others say to learn about what else is out there, but if you find yourself laughing, rolling your eyes, or becoming angry as you read then maybe it's not a place to leave your opinions. this goes for religion, politics, fad diets, sex, bodily functions, cleansing rituals, etc, etc. you know what you're getting into based on the title of the post, so no one has an excuse for being exposed to the details of a subject they don't like. we all come here for support. you can criticize your group members for eating fast food or not exercising, but don't criticize other PT members on a post for personal beliefs.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 9:17 PM

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PT administrators, I agree with your hands off policy. As rude and offensive as I have found some responses to be, I believe it is up to the community to express their opinions and let thethe majority show through their responses how the bullies and discontent's comments really are not appreciated. Overall, I think the community is overwhelmingly positive and supportive.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 9:47 PM

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Response to PT

My opinion: I think there are some posts that are completely usupportive and detrimental to the purpose of this site. I would prefer that those comments were removed. But in so doing.. I would also like to see a notation from PT like "This comment was removed because......" That might let the poster know why it's gone and others know what is and is not OK.

You really can't avoid the nasty posts because they show up almost everywhere. If the topic is something that offends, then sure... just don't read it. But if the topic is of interest, there's no way to avoid the nasty comments within the thread without missing the good stuff too.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 9:51 PM

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PT - I guess for me it's one thing to be rude, but another thing to be profane. I would like to see the profanity go. Yes it is an open forum, but it's also YOUR website which you are graciously allowing us to use for our benefit for free. Maybe you don't care if people use profanity on here, but I personally would like to see it go. Thanks for listening to us.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 9:53 PM

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PT-I agree with the 9:47 poster. Good idea to keep a hands off policy.
As far as offensive posts go, I haven't seen any that were really all that bothersome to me. If a subject gets off base from where it started then it usually no longer interests me, and I just close the thread and check out another one. Whenever I post I try to keep it supportive and lighthearted. There's no need to be rude. :)

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 10:01 PM

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While there are some posts that no one could interpret as anything but rude, just as often someone posts something that could be meant any one of a number of ways and someone else chooses to take it as an offense. I can imagine it would be hard to draw the line sometimes.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 10:04 PM

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I agree with the hands-off policy.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006, 11:15 PM

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How about two forums?

Just a thought; maybe there could be one lounge strictly for "on-topic" threads, having to do with weight loss, fitness, health, PT use, etc. And that one would be a "hands-on" lounge, meaning PT could remove anything unsupportive or completely out-of-bounds. The second would be an "open forum" which would be for anything you wanted to post about and it would be "hands-off," for the people who don't want to be policed. That way everyone could be happy, because there are many people who prefer to keep things on-topic and non-controversial, and also many who prefer to have no holds barred.

Wednesday, October 25, 2006, 12:08 AM

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