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Do people treat you differently now that you are skinnier?

I've had this question bobbling around in my brain for quite some time now. When you lose a significant amount of weight, let's say 20% of your original weight, has anybody felt that others treat them any differently, good or bad? And I don't just mean the opposite sex being more attracted. Are random people nicer to you? Do you act any different? Are you friendlier or more outgoing?

I've lost about 45 lbs in a year, but I haven't noticed any change in my behavior or others peoples interactions with me.

Tue. Oct 31, 7:28pm

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Really? I totally notice the difference in how I'm treated. (-70lbs later) I feel like now I'm finally "passing" for "normal". It's most clear, ironically, when people make snotty comments about fat people in my presence, because they don't see me as one of "them" (I thought I heard the worst when I was fat, but now I'm hearing what people really think, ugh). Just in general, I feel like I am less pre-judged, people smile at me more, and yeah, guys seem to notice me more. Kindof a shame I had to work so hard just to feel normal.
And perhaps I am more positive or happy now, but otoh, I am actually much more obsessed now with food, since I have to be so vigilant... People who didn't know me before think I'm just a health nut for no reason. It's nice if people treat you the same -- maybe they were treating you without bias from the beginning!

Tuesday, October 31, 2006, 11:45 PM

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I have lost about 25 pounds, and I wasn't quite "overweight" by BMI to begin with. People sure do treat me differently. Everyone (not just guys) is a lot friendlier, and gives me opportunities I might not otherwise get. However, I do think that I work in an unusually appearance-conscious and appearance-favoring workplace. (And it's not that way for any good reason; I'm not a model or anything!)

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 9:25 AM

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Oh yes. Sales guys are more helpful, guys on the streets are nicer. People think I'm more successful. It's a fact, based on experiments that individuals who are thinner and more attractive are percieved as being more successful.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 9:35 AM

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I've lost about 45 pounds and what surprises me is how many people comment on it. I do a lot of trainings and public outreach events for work and I tend to see a lot of the same people at these events - not people I know well at all - many more by sight than by name. What has been weird for me is how many people have come up to me and told me how great I look for having lost weight. It's a little weird to have people I barely know commenting on my appearance so much. It's like who knew they were paying so much attention one way or the other as to how I looked.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 9:42 AM

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I've lost 25-30 pounds and I'm surprised at some of the comments I get from people who don't know me. A gym staff member implied that I don't need to work out with "Oh, you're just naturally skinny". Then there was the dress sales woman who said "I wish I could be small like you". I simply don't know how to respond to these unexpected comments. I'm not naturally skinny, and, dear sales woman, I wish you could put aside your wishful thinking and see the blood, sweat, and tears I put into being this size.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 11:56 AM

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I notice it too. I was never obese, but I was 30 lbs overweight and I got down to a size 4. I am treated more normal and sales people are more helpful. I get attention from guys (which is unwanted - I am married) so it can be negative. I do have other thin friends who treat me like "one of them." And some overweight people I know are jealous. One lady commented, "Well now I have another person I need to hate for being so thin!" She didn't mean it in a negative way, but I am sure there is a part of her that feels this way. There is always a little truth in sarcasm.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 12:13 PM

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I feel like I'm treated differently after losing 75 pounds, but I think it's more about how I view myself. When I was overweight, I didn't want to stand around and chit chat with old friends. I didn't want to smile or make nice with people I passed, and I certainly didn't want sales people helping me find my size. So I guess what I'm saying is that I'm treated differently because I present myself in a different way.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 2:21 PM

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i don't think people treat me any different (i've lost almost 60 lbs!)-but i view myself differently, i make eyecontact more with strangers and i definitely am more aware that others notice me. before i felt invisible in the grocery store, or at the bank, now i see men looking at me and women too (not in a lewd way, just that i didn't notice if they did or not before).

i too have gotten some comments that seemed bizarre. i waitress and i've had customers say to me "did you lose like 40 lbs or something?". you would never go up to someone you didn't know well who gained some weight and say "wow, did you put on some weight?". while i take it as a compliment that my efforts are showing, it does put me a little on the defensive. my boyfriend's mother says to me all the time "oh, but you're so lucky that you can eat like that and look like you do!" I try to explain to her that i count every darn calorie that goes into my mouth and exercise 6 days a week . . . .that is how i can look/eat like i do!!! this is not some easy skinny gene i was born with!

i guess we should all just be happy that we are getting healthier and the bonus is that we look better and others notice that!

Wednesday, November 01, 2006, 2:41 PM

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I've dropped around 60 pounds, and have definately noticed a marked difference in the way people around me treat me. Complete strangers will come up to me these days and have a chat. In some ways its a positive thing as I get great enjoyment from interacting on a deeper level with people. I have felt a bit sad though that it's so strongly present in human nature to treat overweight people in the way that we do, and makes me feel, why couldn't you all treat me this way before?? Im the same person inside!!!!!!!

Monday, July 30, 2007, 12:07 AM

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I agree with most people. But I think I was the main reason for the change in everyday interactions. After I lost 125lbs I found that my attitude changed. I was more outgoing, which I think had a lot to do with people being friendlier to me in general. I walked head high, not pointed to the ground.
I also found that women were a little meaner to me, maybe it was a jealousy thing- my best friend at the time accused me of flirting with her man...!

Monday, July 30, 2007, 12:26 AM

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