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A bit overweight and now thin

Just a bit of a vent/rant here. I've been dieting since February and have lost 35lbs gone from a size 16 to a size 7 and feel great. I was at a family get together this week and people kept commenting on my weight which made me feel great but the comments where kind of like you're getting too thin and you shouldn't lose anymore type stuff. What irks me is I have members of this same family that are teeny tiny people who think a size 7 is huge and they are never told they are too thin. Its like once people know you CAN put on weight and you're not one of those people who can eat anything never excercise and stay skinny they think you should never be thin again.

Fri. Nov 17, 7:47am

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You're not alone. If I mention the word "calorie" my family freaks out. I don't have a lot of weight to lose, and am by no means overweight. I watch what I eat for health purposes. But I frequently get comments about being "skinny"... and it's just as rude as calling someone fat. I've learned to just shut up about it.

Friday, November 17, 2006, 8:15 AM

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Exactly - I just firmly tell people that simply because I'm not longer overweight that does not make me skinny by default. I am *healthy*. I've lost 30 pounds and my doctor practically does backflips because my weight, cholesterol, blood suger levels, etc are all optimal for a woman of my age and height - not too high, not too low and neither is my weight! That usually shuts them up. I suppose I should just ignore them, but I am an example of a healthy female and I will not be lectured, condesended to or scolded for being right where I should be!

Friday, November 17, 2006, 9:41 AM

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I deal with the same issues. I was about 20 pounds overweight and have lost all the weight. I am by no means "too skinny" I am 5'4 and weigh about 123 pounds. However several people have said "no more, you are too skinny". It's so frustrating and I wonder why people would feel they need to say this to me. I am healthier than I have ever been and feel better than ever! Just be happy for me! Also I will note that the weight loss was done in a healthy way, diet and exercise over the course of about 8 monhts! Not extreme!!!

Friday, November 17, 2006, 12:07 PM

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yeah family can be the worst with that stuff. i've lost 50+ lbs over the last few years and no matter how many times i see them-all people can talk about is my weight. the compliments were really great to hear at first but now i just feel like an anomaly. my close family is cool about stuff but it's the members i don't see all the time that are a pain in the butt. one of them told me last time i saw them not to lose any more weight because my face was starting to look "drawn". hello?? i'm 5 ft 3in and 147 lbs!!!! i'm not gaunt by any means!!!

i wonder sometimes if people are uncomfortable w/ our new bodies? maybe they don't know how to be around us? so many people act like you are a different person when you loose weight. maybe this is part of that?

Friday, November 17, 2006, 1:17 PM

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I really think that people don't even know what "healthy" means any more. As the population in general has gotten heavier and heavier, what seems normal to people has changed.

In the early 80's I weighed the same as I do now and I was a laughingstock for being "fat." Now people tell me I'm "too thin." Well, then I was heavier than most other women my age and now I'm thinner than most other women my age. It wasn't me that changed....

Friday, November 17, 2006, 1:31 PM

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Well said 1:31. America has SUCH extremes in both directions it's hard to know what is normal anymore.
As someone healthy who is at a very healthy weight it gets old to keep hearing "you need to stop losing weight" or "are you anorexic?". I'm not even underweight, let alone super underweight.
Is fat so normal that healthy people are now considered too skinny?

Friday, November 17, 2006, 1:45 PM

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I think the way a person carries themselves also makes a big difference. I'm 5"7 and 134lb - well within the "normal" range. But because I walk tall (ballet classes together with my parents commands of "don't stoop!") people think I'm lighter than I actually am.

Friday, November 17, 2006, 2:41 PM

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there's all the information about how sizes have chaned with time to make americans not feel as fat as they are. I think i heard that marilyn munroe wore what was like a size 12 or 14 or something in her day, and today should would be like a 2 or 0. Amazing! why does the consumer market want us to stay so fat and unhealthy?

Friday, November 17, 2006, 3:18 PM

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with measurements of 35-22-35 and a 36DD bra, i doubt that she would be a size 2 today...but i get what you're saying.

Friday, November 17, 2006, 3:26 PM

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lucille ball wore a size 18 and a size 20 in many episodes of i love lucy. imagine! i am a size 20 and i don't look anything like she did!

Friday, November 17, 2006, 3:32 PM

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