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Why do we say it's okay to be fat?

I was reading this article and this man's story. Yes he's lost an amazing amount of weight and he's doing great, but why is his goal 250? Why if he doesn't lose another lbs is he happy with that? Why do people keep telling him he doesn't need to lose more?

I'm in the normal zone so I can understand mine more but people irritate me when they ask and I tell them I want to lose 10 more lbs and they tell me no no no you look great you don't need to lose anymore, but I'm down to a size 8 so I can understand it a bit more.

This guy is a size 44, it says he's 6 ft 2 which makes his current BMI 35.7 even at his goal weight of 250 his BMI is 32.1. Why is his goal to still be OBESE??? Not overweight OBESE! Maybe I'm wrong but to mean his goal should be more like 200 with a BMI of 25.7 which is still just slightly overweight but much better than still OBESE. Why are we telling the extremly obese it's okay to be obese as long as they've lost some of the weight???


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Tue. Jan 2, 9:13am

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It's easier to focus on a smaller goal and achieve it before setting a larger, more ambitious goal. It's easier for me, for example, to say I want to do a 3 mile run than to say I want to complete a marathon. That way if I fail, hey, it was only 3 miles (one pant size)-- and if I succeed I can move on to another goal, with congrats from friends and family.
These people are just not setting themselves up for huge disappointments and failures. And I'm sure it's easier to think about 10 lbs at a time than it is 100 lbs....not to mention that the guy the OP mentioned is just trying to get out of immediate, life-threatening danger with his weight.

Tuesday, January 02, 2007, 10:41 AM

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I do understand both previous posters. I think the best goal is to be healthy. (I recently moved from "obese" to "overwieght." I'm thrilled with that, but I certainly won't stop there.

However, I think a lot of times people with significant amounts of weight to lose (let's 50% or more of there starting weight) may benefit from seeing there weighloss in stages. A lot fear being told by others that their ultimate goal is unreasonable or unachievable. Many times they may say a certain number to others, while their goal in there own mind is significantly lower. We all do better when we have the support of those around us, and this may be a way of insuring this. It's also a way of masking the struggles of acheiving a weight in the healthy weight range. When struggles arise, comfort is taken in the fact that, to friends and family you've already achieved your goal weight. Jeez, I feel sheepish enough admitting I had a tough day here and this is a virtual space! (should add I've received nothing but incredible support here).

I think we should all strive to be healthy, but everyone's goals are based on many factors, some of them deeply personal. Just my two cents.

Tuesday, January 02, 2007, 10:44 AM

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I do understand both previous posters. I think the best goal is to be healthy. (I recently moved from "obese" to "overwieght." I'm thrilled with that, but I certainly won't stop there.

However, I think a lot of times people with significant amounts of weight to lose (let's 50% or more of there starting weight) may benefit from seeing there weighloss in stages. A lot fear being told by others that their ultimate goal is unreasonable or unachievable. Many times they may say a certain number to others, while their goal in there own mind is significantly lower. We all do better when we have the support of those around us, and this may be a way of insuring this. It's also a way of masking the struggles of acheiving a weight in the healthy weight range. When struggles arise, comfort is taken in the fact that, to friends and family you've already achieved your goal weight. Jeez, I feel sheepish enough admitting I had a tough day here and this is a virtual space! (should add I've received nothing but incredible support here).

I think we should all strive to be healthy, but everyone's goals are based on many factors, some of them deeply personal. Just my two cents.

Tuesday, January 02, 2007, 10:44 AM

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I agree

I am a newbie and I am right there with you. I was sitting up last night wondering why it is that I continue to stay obese. Pills, powders, and promises don't work. The miracle cure? Diet and exercise. That's it, plain and simple. I've been working my tail off for six years trying to make a better life for myself and at current I have a 3.95. Why is this important? It dawned on me that I made my academic success what it is, it didn't magically appear and it certainly wasn't a given. So with that, I'm going to put the same effort into weight loss. I know there will be days when I am tempted, but in the long run, if I diet reasonably and continue with the exercise, I will eventually hit my goal. For the record, I am 5'4 and 224.6 lbs as of today's weigh in.

Guys, I can't do it anymore. One day I'm going to wake up diabetic and it would greatly distress me to know that this was preventable. Today is day one. Who's with me?

Tuesday, January 02, 2007, 12:14 PM

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12:14

You go, girl!

Tuesday, January 02, 2007, 2:33 PM

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