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pregnant and feeling fat!

I started at 162 which is over weight for me. I am 5'6 and have close to no muscle mass. My goal was to gain only 25 pounds and I have already gained 26 and I still have 8 wks to go! Any advice?

Fri. Jan 5, 10:36pm

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I'm afraid i don't know enough to be able to give you solid practical advice, as I haven't been through a pregnancy myself - we're just about to start trying to conceive. I'm sure others who have experience will give you good advice, but I would only say that I hope you can be kind to yourself, as its an amazing thing you're doing right now and it is always a major challenge to meet ones goals for weight around this time I imagine. Best wishes for a good remainder of your pregnancy and a lovely healthy baby.

Friday, January 05, 2007, 11:02 PM

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Please be kind to yourself

We all have goals; but when it comes to preparing for labor and birth there needs to be a degree of flexibility. I have two kids, and most of friends have at least two kids. In each instance, I truly believe we gain the weight we need to support the baby. Don't worry, if you set your mind to it -- you will lose the excess weight later. Right now, you need to focus on healthy living for your baby.

Choose healthy foods for you and baby: fruits, veggies, smoothies, etc. It's hard but you can do it. Also, don't criticize yourself over the gains. You need it for the baby.

I have a father who gave my sister a terrible time for gaining a ton of weight during her pregnancy - like you can really control it and like it's something you want to hear. I think us women need to focus on the journey at hand and appreciate the fact that you can carry the baby, the baby is healthy, you are healthy, and you are having your own baby (that's an accomplishment right there).

If you are sincerely concerned, you can have your blood sugar tested to make sure your not approaching diabetes or toxicity. Just be careful and you will be fine.

Saturday, January 06, 2007, 12:55 AM

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the last two months of pregnancy is all baby weight you can gain up to a pound a week. Don't worry about your weight you'll lose ten -twelve pounds when you have your baby.

Sunday, January 07, 2007, 11:35 PM

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Do not get too crazy about this weight gain during pregnancy. The baby is the most important thing. If you are hungry choose healty snacks and drinks. Everyone feels fat during pregnancy and yes the weight that is left afterwards is a pain to take off. I am still trying to get the weight off, but I have a very healthy and happy baby for which I am grateful. The weight should be the least of your worries. Best of luck to you!

Monday, January 08, 2007, 8:50 PM

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pregnant and feeling fat!

I am 17 weeks and it is hard not to think about the weight. Before I got pregnant I lost 70 pounds. I am in fear I will get fat again...

Friday, March 07, 2008, 10:27 AM

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As long as you eat right and healthy and gain a reasonable amount of weight there is no reason to think that you won't be back at your pre-pregnancy weight when all is said and done. If you eat like crap and gain 40+ pounds because of it you will have to lose weight. But if you eat healthy and gain 20-30 pounds within 2 months after birth you should be fine, of course the whole shape of your body will change and things that fit before won't quite fit the same if at all even though you are the same weight or about there. I gained 25 pounds with my 2nd and within 3 weeks was back at my pre-pregnancy weight, nothing I wore previously fit anymore. Everything had shifted and some things really went south. But with work and good sense I will be able to do a bit of something about it. I say a bit because I am pushing 40 and just had my 2nd so things aren't like they were when I had my first at 33.

Friday, March 07, 2008, 2:02 PM

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This is a question for a Dr...not Peertrainer buddies...IMO.

They should be able to help you better

Saturday, March 08, 2008, 11:24 PM

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OP, remember that towards the end of your pregnancy you feel "fatter" than you actually are... You are carrying more weight than your body is used to so the strain of that swells your legs etc
Its difficult not to be uncomfortable, ya feel heavy and gassy and tired lol and that plays a role in how you feel about your body. Its hard not to feel like its out of your control. But let nature take its course - childbirth has this amazing ability to make you realize how much your body can really do. Your baby is due in the late spring and so you will have the summer to get in some exercise strolling with your new family around the park . Plus remember that breastfeeding burns 500 calories an hour! :)

Sunday, March 09, 2008, 10:42 AM

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My understanding is you can gain up to 35 pounds and still be okay. Don't make yourself crazy about it because you may find yourself feeling discouraged and eat bad foods because of that. Think of being good to your baby and good to yourself. Eat good foods, fruits, veggies, and complex carbs. Allow yourself one good, homeade (either by yourself or someone else) dessert one time a day, one serving. If you have time to do it yourself, put love and caring into making that one dessert. Something decadent and indulgent that you wouldn't just have a crazy amount of.
This way you give yourself permission to have something sweet, that's made with love, but only once per day. Every other time make healthy, maybe even organic, a priority. It will be the best for your body and baby.
Also, swimming is great exercise for mommies-to-be. It's gentle on your body but a great workout.
Walking also helps with preganancy, labor and delivery, and post-pregnancy weight loss and overall recovery. If you can, try to walk a mile or two a day. It will also give you great endorphins and make you feel great about your body!
Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS! You're doing what only we women can do. That is so special and so wonderful. Love and hugs to you!

Sunday, March 09, 2008, 10:47 AM

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You're pregnant = you're fat. That is just the way it is. If body image was such a concern you should never have got pregnant in the first place.

Monday, March 10, 2008, 8:17 AM

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That's the dumbest thing I've heard in a long time. Being pregnant does not mean fat, yes you get bigger but you are carrying a human, not sitting around eating ho-hos as an appetizer to a pizza then taking a nap, waking up and having a pre-dinner whopper. That comment makes you sound like a jerk. It's normal to be body-conscious when you are pregnant. No one would have babies if it meant not getting pregnant because you care about your body.

That being said, I gained 35lbs during my pregnancy and am 30lbs below my pre-pregnancy weight. I wish I hadn't of worried so much about the weight. Enjoy these last few weeks, they are precious. Just eat as sensibly as possible.

Monday, March 10, 2008, 12:07 PM

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You're el prego and probably adorable. My best advice is to sit down and rub your belly. Talk to your baby and tell them how much you love them. Forget about the weight and focus on how healthy you and your baby are. Being able to give birth is a blessing, embrace it.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008, 5:41 PM

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a Dad

a Dad here...

When my wife was pregnant with our firstborn I kept telling her how beautiful she was because you girls forget that (pregnancy makes women look fantastic - it is an exciting time and that is fun to see the body swell to grow a little person) Now that she is pregnant with our second boy she doesn't ask me (much) anymore because I was being real when I told her that and she could tell and so she believed me.
26 lbs at 8 wks to go? Just check with your physician on where you are at and if it is healthy. It is important to eat enough for the both of you but eat healthy food, take a prenatal vitamin and get some exercise like a walk or something easy.
Ask your doctor about this concern and they can tell you how many calories is good and what kind of exercise for your situation and then just stick to that.

hey 12:07 - "eating ho-hos as an appetizer to a pizza then taking a nap, waking up and having a pre-dinner whopper." - ha ha that is really funny!

Tuesday, March 18, 2008, 6:03 PM

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If you have "no muscle mass" then maybe after the baby comes you can try to start getting more exercise and stuff (because it sounds like you are not too healthy now but at 7 months pregnant that is not a good time to start restricing calories and starting a new fitness program. Once the baby is born then commit to being more healthy so you can live to see your baby raise a baby of his / her own :)

(just don't use pregnancy as an excuse to eat way too much or eat lots of bad stuff.)

Tuesday, March 18, 2008, 6:14 PM

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I'm thinking she may have given birth by now!

Tuesday, March 18, 2008, 8:00 PM

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Setting a weight gain goal during pregnancy is unrealistic. Yes, there are guidelines. I was always told 25-35 by my dr is ok. But if you set a number in your head you're only going to be disappointed when you pass it because obviously you can't diet. Even if you eat relatively well, you can't predict how much fluid you will retain, how much your baby weighs, amniotic fluid, etc etc. You don't want to wish away this fantastic time in your life. If you're eating healthy, then you're doing everything right for yourself and your baby. Accept the weight gain for what it is, and be assured that no one else sees you as "fat". I know you feel that way, I did too, but it's the last thing anyone is thinking about!! And chin up, you'll be so busy with a new baby you won't have time to eat and the weight will be gone! :)

Wednesday, March 19, 2008, 10:42 AM

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