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are women really into heavy men?

i see many television couples in which the wife is a fit, trim, healthy size and the husband is completely out of shape and overweight to the point of it being a danger to his health. i don't see a lot of couples like this in real life. usually, either both people are the same or the woman is heavier. what do you all think of this? is the big guy, little woman image portrayed on some shows real in your community?

Mon. Jan 8, 10:04am

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It's just the entertainment industry. It tolerates men with "character" but rarely women below "stunning." It's not meant to reflect reality. What on TV does?

Monday, January 08, 2007, 10:15 AM

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I think many men tend to get lazy and comfortable when they are in a long-term relationship....but many more women WORK at it to continue to look good. I lost almost 20lbs since my fiancee moved in and he gained 20lbs.

I don't mind a guy that has a few extra pounds. However, I think they are couples of all shapes and sizes. But what you rarely see is a very attractive man with an overweight woman.

Monday, January 08, 2007, 10:30 AM

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Just Hollywood. Women who maintain themselves like that don't want a man who's going to let himself go to pot. I know one couple where the woman is thin and fit and beautiful and the guy is grossly overweight. I know another where the woman is thin and fit and beautiful and the guy is probably in the normal BMI range but flabby. All the others I know the girl is the chubby one, or they both are chubby, or they are both fit and trim and beautiful.

Frankly fat men are as attractive to me as fat women are to most men. I'm sure there are some women attractive to a fat man just like there are some men attracted to the fat women. But as a rule this is a just a Hollywood double standard.

Monday, January 08, 2007, 10:40 AM

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Where I live there are plenty of attractive, reasonably fit men with overweight wives. Many of the women I know are mothers several times over, with little time for themselves and daily priorities that get in the way of the kind of hours-at-the-gym, eat-nothing-but-salad lifestyle a lot of actresses live.

Off the top of my head I could probably name ten couples where the wife is heavy and the husband fairly fit. My physical therapist...a friend I'll be visiting today. I see that as far more common than the reverse shown on TV, of beautiful women with slob husbands. But as was said above, TV doesn't reflect that kind of reality, and the entertainment industry is very, very sexist.

While I agree that men often tend to relax a bit (and eat better) after marriage, I also think there's a combination of factors that slant things a bit. Women often bear children after marriage, which means a huge body change comparable to nothing men experience. In addition, weight management is not equal across genders. Men have some advantage.

Monday, January 08, 2007, 11:01 AM

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I am an overweight woman with a thin attractive man, and its awful to be paired the way we are. When we go to town women hit on him while i am standing right there. It is rare to find a thin man with a big woman but, if ya see them together dont hit on him it makes us fat wives feel like crap. k. thanks

Monday, January 08, 2007, 11:16 AM

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I like big men - tall, broad shouldered - and it doesn't matter to me if they are somewhat overweight as long as they are agile.

Monday, January 08, 2007, 1:12 PM

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11:16 Just beat the crap out of them -- unless of course you are swingers and they want a 3-way because they find your voluptuousness equally attractive. Honest to God, what kind of a skank tries to pick up a married man right in front of his wife, anyway? That's not about you being heavy, it's about them being bad people.

Monday, January 08, 2007, 2:38 PM

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how does your husband react to these come-ons? in my opinion, it is more his responsibility to send a clear message that he is with YOU than it is the responsibility of other women to leave him alone. maybe it appears the two of you are just friends when you are out together?

i see more average weight men with over weight women than the other way around...

Monday, January 08, 2007, 2:55 PM

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I had an over weight boyfriend in my 20's and he was fantastic in bed!

Monday, January 08, 2007, 5:45 PM

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One of my girlfriends likes overweight/big men cause they make her feel smaller.

Monday, January 08, 2007, 6:44 PM

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