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OT What do you & your spouse do at night?

Was wondering what couples that live together do at night. Do you spend time doing things together or doing your own thing? I have noticed that lately, we are doing separate things and wondering if this is normal. I will go to bed and read a book until I fall asleep and he will play computer games and stay up much later. Once in awhile, we watch a movie together or something, but just wondering if this is normal? Do most couples spend their nights together? We have only been together about 14 months and living together 8 of those. But recently we have been stressed out about buying a house and work issues.

Wed. Feb 7, 11:14am

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We do separate things almost every night. He usually can't deal with the kids so I'm taking care of them until they go to bed while he works on the computer. After they go to bed, we might watch a tv show together but then he goes back to his laptop and I read a magazine or take a bath. I saw my parents do the same thing. I think the whole family being together is a myth created by TV shows to make you feel bad about your own life.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 11:27 AM

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So funny, OP, your situation sounds almost exactly like mine. My husband I generally eat dinner together and maybe watch a TV show or a movie that is on that we both like. However, my husband goes to bed much later than me. So often I'm in bed either reading or watching TV while he is working on the computer. When he is not tied up with something, he will come in bed and cuddle me for 15 to 20 minutes while I fall asleep. It is really sweet and I love it when he times it right and I'm ready to fall asleep....but not so much when I want to read because he gets frustrated that he can't cuddle me "properly" when I'm reading so I end up not reading and watching bad TV instead.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 11:38 AM

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We do our own thing. Steve's in school, so he's up studying all night, and goes to bed sometimes when I get up. I generally work out or do whatever, and he studies.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 11:39 AM

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When I was married, my husband would get all worried every time I went into another room to read a novel - he thought I was upset or angry with him. I like to read, I like my 'alone' time, and we did not have perfectly compatible tv preferences.

But...I believed then and I believe now even moreso that going to bed at the same time is really important.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 11:41 AM

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Even if we are doing separate evening activities, we try to watch at least 1/2 hour of TV together each night. This 1/2 hour usually includes a back rub or a head rub for one or the other. Somehow the TV allows us to just be together in a relaxing way. If we miss it, we feel the difference the next day. BTW, we've been married 30 years.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 12:21 PM

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My boyfriend and i go to bed at the same time every night, eat dinner together, but unfortunately we end up both on a laptop in front of the TV for a lot of the night.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 1:13 PM

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My husband and i have been married for 4 yrs and tend to do things like everyone have mentioned. One of us on the laptop, while the other is watching tv.
I too go to bed before my hubby and he also cuddles with me before i fall asleep- i love it ;) Private alone time with no tv or anything !

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 1:28 PM

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I have been with my husband for over 3.5 years, lived together for 2 and recently married. Honestly I can say we spend every evening we are at home doing things together. We usually cook dinner together, watch our shows together, walk the dogs together, and go to bed together! Sometimes we read our own books but both in bed or both ont he couch. We go to dinner with other couple friends or go to sporting events together. Don't get me wrong, sometimes we have "boy" nights or "girl" nights and I shop with my sister but most of our time is spent together...Is this weird...?

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 1:40 PM

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You're not weird 1:40pm!

My husband and I sound about like you guys. We've been married 10 years, together for 11 and other than when we're at work or school, we're always within talking distance.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 2:20 PM

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1:40pm - my husband and I are like you too! We've been married for 5 months, and living together for just over a year.

We just really like to hang out! And to cook dinner and veg in front of the TV. With work, etc., we both just want to relax when we get home. We rarely go out during the week; we spend most of the night on the couch. Of course, sometimes we go do our own thing, but, mostly, if we're both home, we're hanging out.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007, 3:51 PM

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