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Are you close with your family?

I'm not. I know a lot of people are, especially my friends. I feel like every time I meet a guy it's a knock against me because everyone is looking for someone who is close to their family as a measure of success of a wife for the long term. I'm bummed about it, but what can I do?

Thu. Feb 8, 1:36pm

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I'm not. My family is crazy. I keep in contact with them, but I wouldn't say we are close. I know for me, the more distance I have kept, the happier and healthier I am. You haven't found the right guy yet.

Thursday, February 08, 2007, 1:40 PM

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I'm very close to my family, especially my mom. She did an incredible job raising us since my dad is very off. I love my dad, but we will never be close. His life is the church. My brothers and I are fairly close; my oldest brother is very conservative and family oriented, which is wonderful. My next older brother is very shy and private, but we are super close. My youngest brother is very outgoing. We're close as well.
I'm very lucky, I guess. I have many of my dad's mental traits, and I like to keep to myself, but at the same time, I've got some of my mom's outgoingness.

Thursday, February 08, 2007, 2:20 PM

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2:20 person again-my husband isn't overly close to his family, but he had a different childhood. His dad was a little physically and mentally abusive. While my dad never really talked to me, he was never physically or mentally abusive. However, I am not an overly expressive person, either mentally or physically. That does bother my husband.

Thursday, February 08, 2007, 2:22 PM

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My parents died (seperately) when I was a child. There wasn't really much left after that as my sister and I raised ourselves. She and I don't have much in common, but we get along. I do not live in the country of my birth and so haven't seen her in years. I agree. This puts me in an awkward place when I meet someone. "What do your parents do?" "Oh, they're dead." Is usually a conversation killer. But I just don't think I should have to make something up (done that before too). I can't help it if it makes people uncomfortable. That's nothing to the effect it's had on me, I assure you. Also awkward to be around friends and their families. I avoid it whenever possible. I function well enough in society and am contented until, however unintentionally, it gets shoved in my face how things coulda/shoulda/woulda been.

But I don't think not being close to your family is an indictment on someone as a person. It's a crap shoot who we wind up with in this crazy world, and sometimes it's just not that great of a match. I would say, however, not to hold grudges over petty things though. Trust me, you never know when they won't be there anymore.

Thursday, February 08, 2007, 2:32 PM

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I'd say that I'm "close enough" with my family, or at least as close as I want to be. I've been around super-close families, and the degree of obligation is overwhelming - they suck up your weekends with housepainting and poker and some nephew's 7th birthday party. I like that we're all geographically too far apart to expect that sort of thing, so that when we're together, we really enjoy it.

One of my least favorite things about being married was spending every damn Sunday on his parents' couch secretly glowering at everyone fulfilling their Leave-it-to-Beaver roles. It made me itch.

Thursday, February 08, 2007, 2:34 PM

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