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do you ever feel too fat to go out?

i am supposed to go to this event tonight to hear a speaker I am really interested in. I can zip up a shirt I used to wear and I just feel too fat to go. Any suggestions? thanks!

Wed. Mar 14, 6:04pm

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ugh - i know the feeling. But if it's a speaker you really do want to hear, don't pass it up just because you're feeling fat. You'd be sorry. Just try to find something passable - even if it's not what you'd rather wear - and go. Do yourself a favor, though - and this is easier said than done, but try! - give yourself a little pep talk before you leave. Chances are you don't look as fat as you feel and others are most likely not going to notice, so just put on a happy face. A good personality can carry you through a tough night of not feeling your best.
And try to enjoy the night! : )

Wednesday, March 14, 2007, 6:11 PM

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I often feel the same way I think everyone does just think skinny thoughts LOL

Wednesday, March 14, 2007, 8:10 PM

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In my sociology of women class the other day, my Prof told us about a study done on 200 American women of all sizes. 100 % of the women thought that they were larger then they actually were.

We all have fat days but that dosn't mean that other people notice. A great personality that exudes confidence is more apparent in a crowded room then a shirt that dosn't fit just right! You will be fine. A pep talk is a great idea! I started working on my confidence levels and everything else in my life fell into place, weight loss, social life, professional life. You can do it to!!

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 7:19 AM

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Yes, but that is my depression, not reality, so I go anyway. It is good for me

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 8:07 AM

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GO. Not only will you get to hear a speaker (usually motivating and interesting) but you'll be out of the house so you can't sulk, snack or get depressed about not being there. Just think of the calories you'll burn getting there too. Even getting in and out of the car burns more calories than sitting on the couch.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 8:14 AM

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I totally understand. I am always dreading going out because of how I look!

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 9:05 AM

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all the time. I have stayed home probably over 1/2 my life because of it over the last few years. when I was thin in my 20's you couldn't keep me home.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 9:19 AM

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OP here,

thanks, everyone! I did go. The speaker was interesting. I didn't socialize but I got out and it felt good and it actually got my mind off feeling fat and it help me to avert a binge. Thanks!!

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 10:01 AM

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OMG-- I've done this all week

I've been hiding out in my house all week because I've felt too gross to go out... It is starting to get hot here and I'm sooooo blech! That's it. Back out there tomorrow.

Friday, March 16, 2007, 4:07 AM

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too fat to go out

I'm glad you attended the lecture. Although I know I'm fat, I realize that there are some functions, such as lectures and museum trips,where my weight doesn't matter.

Monday, June 09, 2008, 7:05 PM

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I understand- there are plenty of places I avoid because of this. Rmember though, it's your Spirit that matters. Your Spirit is the picture, your body is just the frame. Don't miss the picture for the frame!

Thursday, June 12, 2008, 4:18 PM

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Welcome to the story of my life.

Thursday, June 12, 2008, 5:05 PM

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In all reality if you go to a public place which is not based on socializing (ie. bar or restaurant) people will not be critical of your appearance, you are the only one who will be thinking "OMG I am so fat, how could I ever think I could go out amongst people". Don't be so hard on yourself, your persepective if different from everyone elses.

Thursday, June 12, 2008, 6:35 PM

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