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the mysterious fourth group member

Does every group have one? Someone who joins, never logs anything, never posts even a hello, then disappears as mysteriously as they showed up? Worse yet, is when they are soon replaced by ... yep, another mysterious fourth group member. Just curious!

Thu. Mar 15, 12:24pm

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I have seen that many times.
What's worse is when they log just enough to NOT get bumped off... and they really don't even have to log anything, just go to their log and click "update"!

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 12:29 PM

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do you think there are just tons of people who feel motivated at first, and then forget about? Or does PT just plant members to keep track of activity or whatever?

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 12:31 PM

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I have a group member that hasn't logged in months but is still there too! What is the point?! Leave the group so someone who would benefit from it can join!

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 12:32 PM

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I have also seen this many times. I've just gotten used to it, I wish other people would stay active once they join a group but we can only be accountable for ourselves..I try to be as active as I can in my groups.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 1:25 PM

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It has happened twice in 2 weeks. I keep hoping the new will be bumped off in 7 days too. It pisses me off, because we are very active group and someone out there could use an active group, but will never be able to join because of that damn 4th person!!!! Get out of our group!!!! You know who you are!

Sorry, it just bothers me. A little.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 2:45 PM

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It's gotten so bad that I don't even bother responding to a "hi" comment from a new group member until she's logged for a few days. Most of the non-posters are people who just join and then never return. It might help if the link to "See how a live group works" on the homepage was a little more prominent so that newcomers won't just join a group to see what this site is all about.

Wouldn't mind if there was a way to evict a group member if it's a unanimous decision amongst the others, but maybe that's just a little to Survivor-esque to do on a site that's all about support. Sigh.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 3:18 PM

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I think there should be a way to boot a member. Perhaps if they haven't LOGGED in 7 days (even though they have visited the site) the following members can opt to kick them out.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 4:59 PM

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I had a situation that made me scratch my head. A woman formed her own group, then went on vacation. I joined the group the same day that she formed it. I never did hear from her, ever, and this was HER group!!!! Eventually she was removed, weeks and weeks later. That I just found very odd.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 5:30 PM

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This has been an issue for so long, but no one wants the atmosphere fostered by girls ganging up to kick out a poster. We want to be supportive but it's irritating when we're all trying and few are bringing it down.

Well, 4:59 made me think "what if you chose how active a group was when you started one?" For example when starting a group you would have the option of checking a box to indicate desired activity - 1. active (must log at least once every seven days). 2. moderately active (logs once every 14 days) or 3. low acitivity (log every 30 days).

Then folks could join groups with the desired activity level and you would be bumped out if you did not log at the desired activity level.

It was a thought.....

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 6:45 PM

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I guess you can call me a "mysterious fourth group member" it's just no one on the teams can i connect with. I find a team which sounds good i meet the people, i read their comments etc. and they're either too old, too young, etc. just in a total different world than i am! which is very frustrating so i don't comment and then later i forget to sign in and just for a month or so i am in there group doing nothing. then i come back, and leave. Sorry for the nusense.

oh, and now i've learned to join the groups, it's a better range of people. I am not on any teams.

Thursday, March 15, 2007, 11:33 PM

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