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weighing over 200 pounds

I don't understand how it happened. One day I got on the scale and I saw 202. How does the weight creep up? I think it all started when I got depressed after I had a pregnancy loss. I'm having trouble accepting it. How in the world did I get to weighing over 200 pounds?

Thu. Apr 12, 1:34pm

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You probably ate and eat a lot of foods high in fat and low in nutrients. Is your log public- maybe we could all help you along and get where you need to go?

Thursday, April 12, 2007, 1:37 PM

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Um...you answered your own question - depression.

Thursday, April 12, 2007, 1:52 PM

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Now that you recognize where you are, you have the power to put a stop to it and reverse it. You're here, which is a great first step. Now, don't say in the future, "how did I get to 210?" or 250, etc. Say, "wow, I'm glad I got ahold of myself and am back under 200, on my way to my goal!"

Thursday, April 12, 2007, 2:31 PM

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i think the incredulous tone of the OP's posting comes from associating or assigning a certain persona with a particular weight. i know for me, i had been up and down with my weight for many years, but when i would calculate how i felt about the weight gain, i'd think, "well, at least i don't weigh over 150lbs!" then that changed to, "well, at least i'm not at 175!"...it was an awakening for me, too, when i stood on the scale in the dr.'s office and weighed in at 208lbs. i thought, "no!! not ME! i can't weigh THAT much!" in reality, it's just another number that i arbitrarily decided i never wanted to see. don't let the number stop you! i can totally relate and report that it's possible to change the direction that the scale is moving in!

Thursday, April 12, 2007, 3:20 PM

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I am very sorry for your loss. You may want to (if you haven't already) find a support group for women who've experienced miscarriage in addition to getting your nutrition and exercise habits going, just so you don't totally fall off the wagon when your mourning cycles again.
A heartfelt good luck to you-

Thursday, April 12, 2007, 7:00 PM

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I know how you feel (about being over 200 lbs). I remember telling myself for years that my weight wasn't a big deal, as long as I never saw the 200 mark or close to it. My weight climbed steadily in college, from 165, 175, 190 and then one day on a friend's scale I saw 212! I almost fainted. I had no idea I was that big. It took me a couple more years to do something about it-I'm not sure why, but you are recognizing this now, and you are in the right place by coming to peertrainer! Go slowly, don't see setbacks as failures (just try again and again), and start exercising if you aren't already. You will get to a healthy weight again!

Sorry for your loss-I can't imagine how awful it is to go through that. It is not surprising that you have suffered from depression since. Good luck, and I hope you find the support and strength that you need!

Thursday, April 12, 2007, 11:50 PM

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I can relate also. I realized how fat I had gotten when I couldn't fit into the 14's I thought I was, when I couldn't fit into the 18's either I braved the scale and was absolutely horrified that I had gotten up to 220 pounds. I didn't feel that big but once I saw the size and the number I thought the same thing, how did this happen, it was like overnight I had become fat, obese by many standards. I realized also that for 3 years I live in stretchy clothes, avoiding anything that buttoned or zipped. I also was depressed. It scare me enough to start moving my ass and I managed to lose 85 pounds in the next 4 years. Now that your aware of how much you do weigh don't let more time go by. Pick yourself up and do something about it. I also had a miscarriage (not then during that depressed time) but I can also relate to that and understand. But don't let it get so out of control that the next time you are aware your shocked that the scale says 250.

Friday, April 13, 2007, 3:23 AM

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I know how you feel

Believe me I know exactly how you feel. I am over 200 also and it is not easy to lose the weight but gaining the weight was easy. I have been doing weight watchers and also about three weeks ago joined curves.

Friday, April 13, 2007, 11:37 AM

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Wieghing over 220lbs and need to lose the weight

Hi I was wondering can u be able to help me out too...I really ned help with losing me weight, Im 23 yrs weighing 225-230 lbs this is very bad for my health. I really need to lose at least 50 lbs..HELP!!! HELP!!! I think my weight has creeped back on me after being so depressed about the way my body looks. I just simply dont like the way my body has been designed so im dying to do something about it. And this time I really need to be determined and concerned about doing it.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 4:56 PM

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I was always thin for most of my life, but within 5-6 years I put on 30 pounds on my 5'2" body. It's "funny" because in elementary school I was the tiny kid who would sometimes get picked on, and now, the last few years I have had people commenting about my weight. When I was 17 years old (I'll be 21 soon), I knew I had put on a good amount of weight, but didn't think it was a big deal. One day I was sitting at the exact same spot where I am at (at the computer), looked down at my thighs, and was shocked at how huge they got now. I understand why I put on the weight and still struggle to lose it-- I use food to cope with the anxiety/depression that I've had for half of my life (as well as other emotional issues) and I got diagnosed with it just last year. Yeah I don't know why I'm ranting but it's nice let it out to others who get it.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:09 PM

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Wow - I can't even imagine how anyone gets to that kind of weight. Major denial.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:20 PM

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5:20, what are you doing on this site? Are you just here to pick on fat people and make us feel worse about ourselves? Because you clearly have no idea why people become significantly overweight. Go exercise your superiority complex elsewhere.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:35 PM

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Epitome of Hypocracy

I see, so it is fine to codemn someone for undereating, or being too skinny which is also related to "food issues" yet it is the overweight / obese people that must receive our sympathy / support / understanding.


Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:43 PM

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Hardly hypocrasy if I didn't call anyone "too skinny".

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:45 PM

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My Goal weight's 215, which will actually be a healthy weight for me (That's what I used to weigh when I used to work out , go to football practice three days a week, and worked 60 hours of construction - I was NOT fat).

For me, I've always been a big guy, and I crept up over 300 before I realized I had a problem. I never really weighed myself, but I also never changed my eating habits when I got a desk job, and stopped working out. I always just told myself that it was because I'm a naturally big guy (which I am). I'm going to have to say for myself it was denial that I had a problem. Luckily, since then I've turned things around a lot, and have lost over 70 pounds (following the weight watchers diet) and I'm still going.

Don't worry about what you weigh now. Accept it, and start making the changes you need to make for the long run. The weight went on slowly, it won't be fast taking it back off either, but if you go about it the right way, you can make sure that it stays off for the rest of your life.

Focus on eating healthy foods, and maintain realistic goals. Don't try to lose the weight too quickly. If you slip up, don't get bent out of shape and quit. Keep track of your progress. I would recommend a line graph showing your weight. Think of the next meal as a fresh start. Keep a positive outlook! You're really going to be proud of yourself when you shed the weight.

You're in the drivers seat now.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:46 PM

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The only people who should be "condemned" are the inconsiderate idiots who make stupid comments like the 5:20 poster. The word troll comes to mind.

Under-eating is a problem, just like over-eating is. Isn't this site about encouraging each other to achieve our health goals?

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 5:51 PM

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Yes but it seems that the same people on PT will be quick to admonish one persons behaviour (eating too little) and yet deem the overeater as having an emotional issue.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 6:13 PM

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The overeaters are here trying to change their habits and lose weight.
The undereaters are here trying to eat less and less.
See the difference now??

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 6:26 PM

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I can relate!

I remember thinking kind of the same thing after having my first child. How did I get this big???? I had to go to Lane Bryant for the first time to buy a pair of jeans. I remember the clerk asking if I wanted a credit card and specifically saying "Oh, no, I don't plan on having to shop here much longer. I want to fit back into Lerner again" laughing a little to myself. Eight years later I am still shopping there!!!!!!!!!!! UGH! But the good news is we are here and we are making changes, healthy ones and someday we will shop at Lerner again!

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 8:35 PM

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I opened this thread just knowing I'd find a rude comment!

And I was right.

You know what? I was in a major state of denial when I found myself weighing well over 200 pounds and not even knowing how I had ended up there. It is sad. I beat myself up over it for years and packed on more weight. Why not? In my mind, I was already a fat slob that nobody could love anyway. What's a few more pounds?

I finally woke up one day and realized that I was slowly killing myself.

I've gone from 260 to 220 and I'm working very hard to get back under the 200 mark, hopefully to never see it again.

I just wanted to comment that I didn't need any outside help to realize that I was living in a state of denial. It's jerks like the earlier poster that helped drag my self esteem down so low that I didn't care about myself enough to do anything about it. I have to find the inspiration from within every day to keep working at it. And it will work!

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 9:19 PM

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5:20 You are gonna hte me! I know how I got to 250. The problem is I know what I need to do to get to to 150 but I don't seem to be able to do it. thats why I am always checking out PT. I have tried groups and failed. Maybe someday I will get like you happy thin people. I know I know you are saying it is all my fault I just have to push away from the table I try!

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 9:21 PM

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Yeah, 5:20 sounds soooo happy. That's why she's on this site slamming fat people who are trying to do something about it.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007, 9:36 PM

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Uummmm - People

5:20 wasn't being rude, he /she simply stated it must be denial which from the sounds of things is being said by others.

You are denial about getting heavier, you are in denial about having to do something about it, you are denial regarding possible health issues.
I know several people who have put on incredible amounts of weight, and are surprised when they have to go several sizes larger or start shopping in other stores ie - Lane Bryant poster.

Now maybe 5:20 didn't need to say it so bluntly, but I think the core idea was there

Wednesday, June 06, 2007, 8:29 AM

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I'm soooo sorry for your loss.

I can't even imagine what you are going through. You very well may have been going through depression. I too have gone through periods of depression. Be sure to go to a therapist. Interview them. I did. I found someone that appreciates my sense of humor. It made feel better that she could relate to me vs someone looking down their nose at me. She had personality.

I too am over 200. I wasnt eating at the right times. I was depressed. I was working 50-60 weeks. Making excuse...like..."no one is looking...I can eat 2 cheeseburgers from BK on the way home and a value meal at home"...no say it...It doesn't count, right?

It is good that you realize that you are/were depressed and that you are at a turning point. Make small goals. You'll feel more success, more often. This will lead to your success.

I wish you all the strength in the world, while you are going through this hard time. Be "good" today.



Thursday, June 07, 2007, 9:05 AM

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Apologies

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I was a very overweight child growing up my entire life. When you see the numbers on the scale sometimes it affects you well or poorly. For years I denied the numbers on the scale till I was about 14 or so when my doctor (prick that he was) said "You are going to be a fat blob sitting on the couch the rest of your life." Never before had anyone besides other kids been so cruel in the way they acted about my weight. However he did make a difference. I cried all the way home and was depressed for a week. I also cursed his name. Needless to say I have never forgotten what he said and 2 years later lost a total of about 30-35 pounds (I'm 5'3). I owe him a lot even though he was a cruel man because it gave me the motivation.


Sad yet hopeful story aside, I hope you can find all the help you need on this site and if you ever want someone to talk to on here, please feel free to message me.


~keykitty~

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