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Join the gym but can't find the courage to go; feel to fat (I mean fluffy)

I joined the local gym about 1 month ago; but every week I make excuse why I can't go (too busy; don't have the right clothes) just excuses. Need your input; yes, please throw egg on my face ... please!! Need team support.

thanks and blessings to all who answer.

Sat. Apr 14, 12:49am

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you are lucky you can afford the gym. I would kill to have that oppertunity. make the most of it.. the gym has a variety of exercises you can do you will stay focused and wont get bored. take a mp3 player with you so the time passes quicker. just wear something comfortable to workout in doesnt have to be anything fancy. just put your heart into it.

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 6:37 AM

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did you get the right clothes yet? you are worth it, spend a few bucks to get one nice outfit & wash it everyday if you have to. as we can remember from the junior high days, having the right outfit helps you fit right in. also, i really, really doubt that anyone is looking at you and your fluffiness. seriously, they're all worried about themselves. once you start going on a regular basis, the front desk staff will recognize you and say things like "good to see you". you will feel more an more comfortable. the gym always has a bunch of magazines i never buy - everything from USWeekly to the New Yorker. If anything, you can go grap a magazine and hide in the corner on the furthest bike/elliptical/arc trainer. finally, how much does the membership cost? just think of it this way, if it's $20/month and you go 4x, that's $5 a session. totally worth it, right? now- JUST DO IT!!

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 6:48 AM

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6:48 please this is not jr high or a contest on who can wear the cute little workout clothes some women parade around in. Your going to work out not get picked up. You said it yourself no one else is looking at her they are worried about themselves so why on earth would wearing something cute to fit in make it any easier.

To the OP, I use to have the same thing going on. I just forced myself the first few times and then I found a friend to go with me, even on the guest pass I had. It does get easier. Its just getting in the door. I had to remember that no one was really watching me, if anything it was me watching them to see if they were watching me. After a few weeks of forcing myself I got into a routine and realized that any one of those other people could have been me at one time. Maybe the girl who doesn't need to lose anything was 30 pounds heavier 6 months ago. My point is everyone there is hopefully there for the same reasons, to get fit and healthy. It may sound even scarier but take advantage of the trainers there. Most gyms will give you a one time opportunity to have a fitness test done, they will weigh you, measure you, do a BMI and then show you a routine and the right way to use the equipment. After you do this you know what you have to do when you get yourself in there. After a few weeks start changing things a bit. Instead of the bike do the treadmill or the elliptical. Just keep in mind that no one is really watching you. Bring an ipod or something else. You have t6o just force yourself to get there. Hey you thought it was important enough for you to buy the membership so just remember you are worth it.

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 12:22 PM

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whoa, 12:22. the OP said she was using the excuse of "not having the right clothes" as a reason to skip the gym. i was merely suggesting purchasing one workout-appropriate outfit to help her feel like she "belonged" there. i was envisioning a proper sports bra, a moisture-wicking t-shirt, yoga pants and sneakers. i didn't say anything about "cute" or make reference to doing it for other people.

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 12:30 PM

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I love seeing large, out-of-shape people in the gym -- it means they're ready and willing to overcome their problem. The only time they really "stand out" is when they get a personal training session during prime time (5-8pm) unless you're doing that, no one is really paying attention.

And there will come a day when you've lost a significant chunk of weight that one of your fellow gym members who has noticed you in passing will say "wow, you look great, keep it up". That moment is totally worth it.

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 12:50 PM

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When 6:48 made the reference to jr high and clothes and fitting in I also had the same idea as the 12:22 commenter. I envisioned some silly giggly preteen girls wanting to try and fit in by wearing the latest fashions of CUTE clothes.
To the OP nothing wrong with going in a pair of sweats and tshirt. For me I go in an oversized shirt w/ either yoga pants or shorts. And really no one is really watching you. If you look around the average person is probably wearing the same thing. At least in my gym they are.

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 3:38 PM

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I also like seeing overweight people at the gym. They're doing something about it. I want to encourage - no judgments at all. Get your butt there and start inspiring people.

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 4:34 PM

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I agree with the poster who said to get "one nice outfit".

I don't think it's about fashion, it's about feeling serious about what you're doing when you're wearing it.

I don't even belong to a gym, but once I started to wear REAL workout clothes I felt better and felt like I was really doing something good for ME.

I also realized that I used to be so uncomfortable in an old t-shirt that held on to every drop of sweat and felt so much better in the moisture wicking tops and a real sport bra instead of a regular one!

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 6:07 PM

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i don't think you have to get a nice outfit per say, but you do need to wear clothes that you feel comfortable in-easy to move in (no wedgies!). If you feel bad in your clothes it, it will make you feel self-conscious about working out.

also bring a book, or an mp3 player or go with a friend your first few times and absorb yourself in reading, the music or talking to a friend-you will not notice the other people around you as much. you will get over your fear and excuses everntually as you get stronger and more fit.

honestly no one is paying as much attention to you as they are paying to themselves. EVERYONE who goes to the gym is much more focused on their own insecurities! And the ones who aren't are too busy being there to be seen that they aren't going to make any progress, while you are working your tail off to become fabulous!!

go to the GYM!!! you can do it!!

Saturday, April 14, 2007, 11:47 PM

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go & enjoy

Find something you enjoy doing - a class, a particular machine or exercise - then you'll be too busy to care if anyone's watching. I find buying an outfit motivates me to go - If I've spent the $$ I have to get the most out of it.

good luck.

Sunday, April 15, 2007, 7:22 AM

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