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Scared to lose weight?

I’ve been overweight all of my life. I guess after twenty odd some years, it’s been both a comfort and a burden. This extra layer of fat is sheltering me from I guess life and reality. Of course I want to lose weight. Of course I want to be healthy. It is stripping off the fat to a “new you” is kinda scary to me. I tend to over analyze things, but I really think this is why it is hard for me to lose the weight. Anyone else understand what I mean?

Tue. May 22, 7:43pm

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lol i guess not =(

Tuesday, May 22, 2007, 10:04 PM

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ohh yeah i started this topic and answered my own question above...haha =)

Tuesday, May 22, 2007, 10:05 PM

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Scared to Lose weight


Yup...I understand where you're coming from. I've struggled with weight much of my life as well and I've read enough self help books to know that on some level it serves a purpose for me. I actually think I feel "safer" fat because fat people in our society are invisible....and on some levels especially if you're shy, being inviisible is easier than being visible and social.

Tuesday, May 22, 2007, 10:10 PM

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p.s to post above

An added thought to above posting. Because I'm invisible when I'm fat, I get lonely and then also eat to comfort myself which just increases the weight and continues the vicious cycle...

Tuesday, May 22, 2007, 10:14 PM

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oh i know

oh i know exactly how you feel... i am worried that if i start changing people will really take notice of me. i think that right now i am fat and people just kind of accept me for who i am without really looking. what i am really scared of is people noticing hoe big i actually am. a few years ago my boyfriends cousin lost a bunch of weight for her wedding - all i heard was how good she looked but she really was big before. i couldnt believe people said these things and i am scared it will happen to me.

i am also scared i am goign to change to be a new person and i dont like change very much...

mind me asking you how old u are?? i'm only 22 and i am struggling with these issues.

Tuesday, May 22, 2007, 11:23 PM

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I'm 25 and still dealing. When I lost 30 lbs when I was in high school, I did get more attention which was nice, but it does pass. What bugged me about some people was when I started gaining some weight back, they treated me differently. They treated me as if I was only worth talking to since I lost the weight. Mind you, Im not talking about friends or guys, but this was actually family members.

BTW, I'm Aimee =) thanks for your response! my sn here is hunpinay. Im still pretty new here, Lemme know if you wanna be in a group together! =)

Wednesday, May 23, 2007, 2:24 AM

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In a way I do understand even though I'm not afraid of people noticing me if I lose weight. Twice I have lost major amounts of weight and both times put most of it back on. I think that even though on many, many levels I was soooo much happier thin, being overweight reinforces my inner most belief that I am not good enough. As a child I had a father that, no matter how "good" I was could always find some kind of fault. It was subtle, I'm not going to say I had a terrible childhood and was never abused or neglected. But kids are pretty perceptive and usually pick up on the real feelings of their parents. I grew up to marry a man who is just like my dad. I think that whatever we believe about ourselves on a gut level, we surround ourselves with people or circumstances that prove us to be "right". It doesn't make sense on a logical level but a lot of human behavior doesn't. Most people who have more than a few pounds to lose have some emotional component to their eating. The first step is acknowledging it. Good luck to you!

Wednesday, May 23, 2007, 9:43 AM

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I am completely shocked at the 8:14am post... do you even know the emotional issues that come with being heavy? If you were ever fat, do you remember what it felt like to begin the weight loss process? How do you not become connected to something that has been part of your life and your body for so long? Isn't this supposed to be an encouraging place and not a place to cast judgement?

To the OP- I have been scared all my life to lose weight. Only recently did I figure out that I was afraid to be proud of my body due to lots of childhood drama. You have to let go of the past to create a better future. I am part of the Macrumors group and would love for you to sign on with us... we can encourage each other along the way.

Wednesday, May 23, 2007, 11:13 AM

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OP, congratulations for looking at the real & deep reasons for becoming, being & staying overweight. Many people can lose weight, but dealing with the emotional aspects of weight gain/loss will help you to heal. You seem to be on a honest path of self discovery...this will help you lose to the weight when you are ready & also help you to maintain a new healthy lifestyle! Good luck with everything & keep talking through these issues!

Wednesday, May 23, 2007, 12:17 PM

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thanks for your responses! It's great to hear from different point of views. To the 8:14 am comment, i appreciate the bluntness. Actually sometimes I do feel that I just need to get over it, but honestly, I do look forward to losing weight, but being over weight has not screwed up my life. As to the others, I appreciate the support & I'm glad there are others that feel or felt this way at some point of their weight loss. To the 11:13am comment, sure, I'll join your group. I'll try to find it =) Have a good day everyone!

Wednesday, May 23, 2007, 3:06 PM

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