Group member under eating- what to do?

I recently started a group, and one member is grossly under eating (only liquids during the day, and then only a couple hundred cals at night, barely any protien).
One other member has already commented on it openly, to no response or change.
What do I do, if anything?

Thu. May 24, 5:09pm

When that happened in my group, I yelled at her, left the group, and was about to start a new, private group and invite the other two over when the anorexic removed herself.

I just wish it were as easy to get rid of the exercise bulimics in the gym.

Thursday, May 24, 2007, 5:17 PM

If you feel comfortable, whisper a message with links to articles about adequate cal consumption, and offer her an ear if she needs it from you....you can also give her links to eating disorder support groups, but only if you really feel you've made a connection with her.
Either way, you have to try and be gentle.

Thursday, May 24, 2007, 6:07 PM

I agree with the last poster. I would whisper the comment to her and ask her to please respond. Information on the disease would also be helpful but just letting her know you care might help.

Thursday, May 24, 2007, 6:25 PM

Don't bother with the articles or the heart-to-hearts - people who keep an online blog of everything they eat are not willing to deal with their disorder. They are aggressively pursuing it (yes, even the ones who say they're recovering...I've seen it or else I wouldn't be writing this).

Giving them attention is exactly what they WANT in a squeaky-wheel-gets-the-oil kind of way. I'm not saying these people don't need or deserve help, but they're not going to listen to a bunch of overweight women (even if you're 125, you're overweight in their eyes) who are "probably just jealous" that they're not losing as fast as they are.

Thursday, May 24, 2007, 6:48 PM

I agree with 6:48 as I have known many people with eating disorders.

Also, ask yourself this: If someone on your team was grossly OVEReating, would you say something to them?

Thursday, May 24, 2007, 7:07 PM

I agree with 6:48 also. I would have also mentioned it once, but now that you've done so, I'd simply let it go.

Thursday, May 24, 2007, 11:13 PM

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Friday, May 25, 2007, 6:07 AM

OP:
Thanks for the advice everyone, you gave some great perspectives and made good points. I really appreciate it!

Friday, May 25, 2007, 11:43 AM

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