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OT -Manager asking if I plan to get pregnant

I found out my manager has asked another employee more than once if I plan to have children. Not only do I feel it's unprofessional of him to inquire, it's even worse to not ask me directly but to go around my back and ask my coworkers. While this is not discrimination, I feel it is completely inappropriate. My manager has already grumbed when a male employee was out for 2 weeks of family leave when his wife delivered, so I know he'll be mad if I ever get pregnant and need to be on leave for 2-3 months. I'm afraid he will be a really jerk every day to me if I get pregnant.

Are there any laws against even asking this type of question? What would you do in this situation?

Tue. Jun 12, 7:34pm

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Yes, this is against the law. You can not be discriminated against because of a pregnancy, marital status, or having children. You can contact your human resources department. If this does not work you can go outside your corporation to look into your civil rights. Check the employer information that is posted in every workplace (usually located somewhere around the minimum wage posting that is mandatory on the wall). Good luck.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007, 8:46 PM

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a few years back i got a job pregnant and didnt say anything tilll they hired me then i said by the way. they didnt care but oh well if they did and yweah that is discrimanation but if they are lookign for a no just say it and get pregnant and they will have to deal with it

Tuesday, June 12, 2007, 10:57 PM

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It is illegal to ask those type of questions in a job interview-because the answers could be used to determine whether or not you get the job (even though it is illegal to discriminate on the same issues, humans will discriminate on those reasons and just tell you you didn't get the job for some other legal reason). When I worked for a staffing agency my boss caution me against ever casually chatting someone up about their family, lifestyle, or interests in an interview because it could be thought of as the reason they didn't get the job. It seemed crazy to me at the time, since I thought I was just being friendly-but you really do have to be careful.

Keep your mouth shut about your plans to get or not get pregnant. And if anyone asks, tell them it's none of their business and ask why they want to know. I also would speak to HR as another poster mentioned.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007, 11:47 PM

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Totally against the law, unless your working as a private nanny then some rules don't really apply.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 2:06 AM

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It might be against the "law" but it is a totally valid question. The manager needs to know what his resources are going to be. You will be a difficult employee during the pregnancy, out for breast feeding and then tired for 6-9 months. For this reason I would never hire a woman unless her kids were older or unless she was right out of college. I suspect other employers think the same way, and by making a pain out of yourself, you are just making it worse for the others.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 8:12 AM

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It is not a legitimate question because it is illegal. Yes, a manager should want to know what their resources will be, but they do not have the right to poke into your personal life. Asking is illegal, whether he's asking you or someone else. And treating you unfairly when you are pregnant is also illegal. For your company's sake, bring this up to HR, so that the people who need to know about the illegal actions will. It will be better for the company, in the long run, than having a female employee suing at some point (which you could also do, theoretically, but that's not really a good option if you'd like to keep working there.)

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 10:30 AM

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Not Completely Illegal

It's illegal for the employer to ask YOU directly. However, they are not asking you, but they are asking a co-worker for information. Been through this several times in HR.

Suggestion: tell HR about the behavior of your direct supervisor/boss. Then i would let HR know you prefer to discuss this with your boss directly to clear the air and not "rat" them out--the boss will for sure make your life hell for that. Tell your boss you received feedback that they were asking. Let them know you prefer those questions come directly to you as not to put your co-workers in a compromising position. Ask why he/she is asking the question.

By doing this, you've put in on record about the questions being asked, and you've talked to your boss directly about the situation.

good luck!

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 10:39 AM

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and we're very thankful for employers like the 8:12 employer descriminating against women because god decided we were the sex to have babies. that's fair, thank you for that!

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 10:41 AM

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life is not fair- I thought it would help the conversation by injecting a little reality into it. Having kids is a choice as well. Isn't that what we are told by the feminists? "My body, my choice?" Well, there you go!!

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 10:51 AM

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