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you are at the pool and you are just tanning, do you mind if guys are checking you out?
Wed. Jun 13, 2:34pm
well, like it or not, people tend to look at others while at a pool. it doesn't make any sense to be bothered by it but then continue to go there. leering, however, is totally different. and gross.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 2:42 PM
even though i'm happiily married, it's nice to be noticed. i like it.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 2:45 PM
People checking me out are out of my control. I don't mind, I actually like the attention. I love to make women jealous, especially if they are with their significant other (I'm a b*itch that way I suppose)! And as long as the guys aren't too creepy, I don't mind them checking me out. What I don't like is when guys feel the need to comment like, "damn girl, you fine" or the ever clever one, "I don't mean to be disrepectful, but you are the most beautiful girl, blah blah blah". Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a nice compliment, but that phoney stuff is lame.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 2:48 PM
To the 2:48 poster & anyone else who feels the same, why do you like to make other gals jealous when they are w/their significant other? When a guy is giving me attention w/his woman by his side, I really go out of my way to smile & acknowledge the woman (& not pay any attention to the guy). I want her to know that I'm confident, nice & "on her side". I'm not at all trying to judge you & your feelings but just curious because I've heard that alot of woman feel the same as you, but I don't at all understand it. Guys can be so openly disrespectful to the woman that they are wtih, I guess I don't understand feeding into it.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 3:29 PM
geez, my self esteem is so low, i can't imagine a guy checking me out at all. once i was walking down the street and a guy yelled from a car "nice a$$" and i thought he was mocking me! anyway, if someone were to look at me if i was "just tanning" i might not mind, but as the other posters say i probably wouldn't like more comments like the "a$$" one.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 3:35 PM
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:31 PM
I completely agree with you 3:29. I don't mind being noticed but I'd rather not recieve attention from men who are willing to openly disrespect their significant others. It ranks right up there with the creepy leering men.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:36 PM
I like the attention, and my guy likes the attention I get, he walks around with his chest puffed out like mister rooster, that in itself is worth it !!!
Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:45 PM
I’m a 25 year old male. I’ve never dated at all for two reasons. First, I’m a shy person so I’m not good in socializing with women. Second, I’m very busy at this point of my life as I just graduated from college and am trying to get settled with me life. Also, I went to an all-boys high school, so there were no girls in my life at that time.
With that said, whenever I’m outside, it seems like women want attention. A women wearing skimpy clothes would stand or sit across from me on the subway and constantly turn her head to check up and see if I’m looking at her. Same thing happens at a restaurant. I go out to eat and some woman at the next table wearing a skimpy shirt was checking to see if I was looking at her. I could also be walking down the street and I pass by a woman and she casually glances at me.
Now, my question is: what do women want from me? Are they looking for me to ask them out, talk to them, or do they just want attention and be looked at? Or is it that I’m so weird that they just look at me because I look funny. Whenever there are moments when I talk to a girl, whether it be at a party, at school,
or at a social event, they seem kind of shy with me. Is it because I’m shy? Are they really interested in me, but my shyness intimidates them?
Monday, August 31, 2009, 5:18 AM
depends who's looking ;-) wouldn't say no to Keanu checking me out!
Monday, August 31, 2009, 8:07 AM
Keanu is gay :( ... he came "out" earlier this year.
Monday, August 31, 2009, 1:00 PM
Keanu--what a waste :o(
Monday, August 31, 2009, 1:15 PM
Yeah I mean, it's not like he's that interesting to listen to... ;)
Monday, August 31, 2009, 1:26 PM
Keanu is gay?? bugger... I liked him..
Monday, August 31, 2009, 9:28 PM
Well I tell you what, I'd rather have some cute, single, utterly unineterested homosexual guy giving me the eye than the dude I saw at a restaurant on Friday night. I'm on here for the fitness side more than the weightloss, at this point. I was going out straight from work, and I know I look "good enough." And this guy, out to dinner with his very pregnant and clearly utterly miserable wife, gives me a big stare, wink, grin and nod. With her sitting right there.
I almost walked up to their table and grabbed his hair with one hand so I could slap him with the other. Don't use me for your f*ing mind games, that's what I think.
Plus, isn't the stereotype that gay guys have great taste? If it were true, and if a gay guy liked the way I looked, wouldn't that be a plus?
Monday, August 31, 2009, 11:28 PM
I don't mind being checked out at all - it's flattering and I work hard for this body! I don't ever acknowledge the men checking me out, I'm happily married and not into that scene but it still feels good to know they notice! I check out nice looking men at the pool all the time!
On the other hand - I don't mind if my husband checks out other women. Sometimes we do it together - him because he thinks she's hot and me because I think most women look at other women's bodies because they naturally compare themselves to one another. I'll see a girl with nice legs and want them or a nice toned stomach and want mine to be that toned too.
So sure, my husband looks at other women and I hope they don't pity me or think either of us are miserable because we look at the opposite sex. Quite the opposite - we are comfortable in our relationship and not insecure.
Tuesday, September 01, 2009, 6:28 PM
PP, I'm with you...I work hard to look good and it's nice to have it appreciated.
Tuesday, September 01, 2009, 7:44 PM
WHAAATTTT????? Keanu is GAY??? NOOOOO!!!!!! No, no, no, no,no. NO. Oh, I am so bummed. Has anyone checked the authenticity of this? I need verification.
And as a 40 yr. old mother of 4, I don't notice much anymore when guys check me out. But when I do notice, yes, I appreciate it quite a bit!
Going to check out this Keanu thing...
Tuesday, September 01, 2009, 10:20 PM
I think it definitely is a nice confidence boost....makes you feel good for a bit...but I also find that if someone tells me I look nice (which doesnt happen that often!) it makes me want to keep trying to look good. If you feel good you look good.
Thursday, September 03, 2009, 9:54 AM
I agree with the gal that said her husband puffs his chest out. Mine is the same way. He knows I look nice because other guys comment to him that his wife it HOT! So I feel like a trophy wife, sometimes I like it, sometimes I don't. But since I have gained weight, it probably is different.
Thursday, September 03, 2009, 2:04 PM
There's a difference between respectfully acknowledging the someone is attractive and leecherously oggling. I appreciate the former and feel nothing but disgust for the latter.
Thursday, September 03, 2009, 4:40 PM
If you are sick and tired of being the nice guy and only getting girls that are average or not attractive to you at all, you can cure nice guy syndrome and get the woman you want. Besides if you are in a relationship that really is not what you are looking for, you are considered "taken" and you will close the door to the women that you want. Do not settle for a woman just because you do not want to be alone. This will only cause resentment down the road. You will feel like you have wasted your life and have many regrets.
Another way to cure nice guy syndrome is to let women see the real you. Do not try to hide any flaws you have. If you have a three inch birthmark on your shoulder, who cares? If you act like it does not bother you, it will not bother the woman. If you obsess over the birthmark, than it will just constantly point out the birthmark to women and you will look insecure. If you are bad at playing pool at the bar, try practicing. Everyone has to start somewhere. Practice on a Sunday afternoon at a bar. Maybe one of your friends has a pool table and you and he can shoot pool while bonding. If your buddy has no problems getting girls he wants, ask him for tips on how not to be the nice dude. Also, once you learn how to play pool fairly decent, you can ask women at the bar you are attracted to, to play pool with you. This is an easy way to meet women.
To help cure nice guy syndrome, stop doing things to please others before pleasing yourself all of the time. You can do this once in awhile, but not all of the time. By constantly pleasing others and easily putting yourself out there, you are asking for an invitation for people to lose respect for you and walk all over you.
A big way on how to cure nice guy syndrome is to quit playing the victim of everything that happens in your life. Women cannot stand this attitude. At first the woman may feel bad for you and want to try to help you.
If you keep on playing the nice guy that is a victim, she will start to avoid you. Before you know it, she has every excuse in the book for not getting together with you, talking to you on the phone or even e-mailing and texting you.
Friday, September 04, 2009, 6:56 AM
I don't like it at all. It creeps me out when people stare at me, for any reason.
Sunday, September 06, 2009, 9:59 PM
It probably depends on how often it happens (ie: living in a city vs suburb, etc). I live in NYC, and I DESPISE being checked out by men...not only do I find it disrespectful and disgusting, I also think it is a kind of aggression-- most men I've seen want you to KNOW they're looking at you, and it makes it a kind of attack; they want you to feel uncomfortable and in the spotlight. They do it mostly to amuse themselves and each other. It rarely has anything to do with trying to get the woman's attention or pay her a compliment.
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