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pros and cons of being attractive

yeah, what a shallow post, but seriously, good looking people have it tough too.

c'mon, confess gorgeous!

Wed. Jun 13, 2:53pm

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how about sharing your thoughts on the subject, OP?

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 3:01 PM

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The pro is, well, you're attractive. I don't really see a con. Why would you want to be unattractive? I know sometimes people say they like to "hide behind their unattractiveness so they aren't noticed," but I don't really understand that viewpoint. If you don't want to be hit on by slimey guys, that's one thing, but that's controllable by just not displaying your "assets" in an overt manner. You can be attractive but still present yourself modestly. I really can't see any disadvantages!

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:06 PM

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very subjective, you assume you are attractive.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:10 PM

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Attractive or unattractive, you get attention from slimeballs. It's just a matter of how many slimeballs.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:25 PM

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to the OP

FYI: one needn't be "good-looking" to be attractive.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:26 PM

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It is strange life sometimes when you do dress "modestly" & act "modestly" & still generate some pretty annoying attention. Of course, it is nice to have SOME attention, but there is a point where it becomes unnerving. Women can be very cruel sometimes. I have actually noticed a difference in how women treat me & look at me. When I have 15 extra pound on my body, I swear they are so much more friendly. When I am in shape, I get ALOT more of the cold shoulder & the whole up & down looky thing that we do. I actually decided to track it & pay close attention to how others reacted just simply in the women's restroom at restaurants & bars. Whether heavier or not I would try to give off a pleasant vibe & see how others reacted. I'm telling you there was a big difference! Anybody else noticed this?

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:32 PM

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Agree with you 4:32. Women are less nice. You smile and try to be chatty / friendly at the checkout line and you get a very chilly reception.

The other one is if you are walking past a woman and her husband / boyfriend is the glare you get from the woman, a glare that almost says "don't look at him or I will freeze you directly into hell". I never make I contact with the man !! Its weird.

And finally ....... aquaintances who think that "oh there is no way you can have any problems in the world - you're too pretty"

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:42 PM

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absolutely 4:32! i just smile and stay cheery regardless.

i've also noticed something else- now that i'm in shape and feeling better about myself i've been noticing more and more glances from men. but that part that really weirds me out is that they give me the up and down looky or they won't break eye contact unless to look at my toots, all this right in front of my husband. he doesn't care (i think it makes him feel good that his wife is attractive) but it just seems brazen to me that they do this.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 4:50 PM

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4:32 again here, I know!!! My husband & one of my good guy friends (who happens to be gay) has noticed how men & women react. My husband has even commented that it must be weird to go through the day w/ men breakin neck to check us (women) out constantly. My guy friend, has said that he has noticed so many death stares from other women toward me. He asked my husband how he can stand not wanting to punch other guys out for inappropriate "checkin out" I go out of my way to be nice to other women & sometimes basically have to ignore men or they will try to initiate unsolicited advances. Geeze, this all sounds pretty concieted. I'm truly not...I've just been frustrated by all this for awhile & pt is such a great place to share & vent w/like minds! Thank you!

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 5:04 PM

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Ugly girls get hit on too!?!?

Wednesday, June 13, 2007, 7:54 PM

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